Have you seen a doctor about your concerns? When the pain happens, about how long does it last? Have you noticed any triggers relating to your headaches?

I hope you are feeling better soon!

just a second or two ive noticed no triggers at all
and i havent seen a doc about it yet but ive had ct scans of my head and body for other reasons though but nothing was said to me

These may seem like an odd questions....Do you work out? Like lift weights or anything else that would possibly make you strain? Have you ever been in a car accident? Maybe just a small fender bender? How long ago was your last ct/mri of your head/neck?

nope i dont work out any more
been in one car accident when i was in 5th grade
last ct scan was about a month ago

The reason I ask is because it sounds as though it may involve your occipital nerve (not optical nerve). My husband cause damage to his due to his weight lifting. Everytime his heart rate would go up ( even slightly ) he would get a blinding pain that would last for a few seconds he had to keep him self from getting excited (ie; exercise, yelling, sex) for a little over a month. He was fortunate and it was able to heal it self.

I, on the other hand, damaged mine in a car accident. I get muscle spasms in my neck that irritate the nerve. Mine tend to last anywhere from 12-48 hrs. During this time I am completely unable to function. Mine will possibly never heal.

I suggest trying to get a referal to a neurologist. They will be able to diagnose this condition simply by symptoms. It is not a serious (life threatening) condition. However, it is very painful ant there are things that can be done (medications, physical therapy, and proccedures) to ease the pain.