Hey my name is Jennifer and I am 20. I
have been extremely shy my whole life.
Just a quiet person. I always had friends
and stuff, i guess I was just shy around
people i didn't know or when i was first
getting to know them. I was a cheerleader
and loved to get out on the floor and
perform. But I hated practice because you
had to mingle with the girls and I was not
that close with any of them. I was just so
quiet and they always said stuff about it.
I started drinking and smoking pot when I
was 15. Started skipping school a little
bit too. I was in the popular crowd and
had boys all over me all the time. But i
was still just the quiet girl. I have
dated a few guys. When I was 16 i started
dating my now future husband. We are
actually getting married in less then 2
months. But anyways my junior year of
highschool I skipped so much that i wasn't
going to be able to graduate early so I
went to this other really easy school to
finish, I hated highschool so much i cried
alot. It has always been really hard and
stressful for me to get a job. Just the
whole process of going to an interview and
having to meet new people, i dread
it!(thanks goodness I work for my dad
now). And my fiance and I have been
together for 3.5 years and still to this
day I am not close AT ALL with his family.
I am just so shy I don't want to ever go
over for dinner! I just never do it bc it
stresses me out so much. I have been to
the doc about it and she gave me a sample
of Paxil, but she said she didn't think I
needed it. But i tried it for a few weeks
and I just stopped bc nothing was changing
and she said she didn't think I needed it
7 it was just a sample. So...what should I
do! I hate being shy. Another reason right
now why I am so not confidient is bc i
have gained alot of weight. Due to birth
control I think, which is a whole other
issue. But I don't have friends really
either. And that is depressing too. All of
them have moved away for college, so its
just me and my fiance. And i work for my
dad so i don't get to meet new people..not
that I would even if i could bc im SO SHY!
HELP!
|
Stan
Supporter
Joined: 01 Jan 2006 Posts: 1666 Location: ,
Thanks: 2
Thanked:0
Posted: 03-15-07 15:20pm
Have you ever been tested for any physical
problems?
|
tnbride
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Mar 2007 Posts: 17 Location: ,
Posted: 03-15-07 15:24pm
no I haven't. what do you mean physical
problems?
|
Stan
Supporter
Joined: 01 Jan 2006 Posts: 1666 Location: ,
Thanks: 2
Thanked:0
Posted: 03-15-07 16:03pm
You may have metabolic problems that
relate to your symptoms. All physical
disorders should be ruled out before
settling on a mental diagnosis.
Last edited by Stan on 04-28-07 12:01pm; edited 1 time in total
hi jennifer, i can totally relate to you
on this, i was so confident and chatted to
anyone until 2 years ago my life changed
in away i could never have imagined,
everytime i spoke or seen someone i had
known i would start sweating and blushing
and i just had to get awy from the
situation, i thought i was a freak couldnt
understand what was happening to me , it
got that bad i had to leave my job. after
visiting the doctor i got sent to a
councellor for 6 months and then a
physictrist they confirmed that i have
severe social phobia, god i was shocked
and at the same time happy that there was
a reason for my behaviour. im 24 years old
and i still cant go to work ive even moved
away with my boyfriend so that if and when
i do go outside theres a less chance of
bumping into people that i know. i suffer
depression because of this and also
anxiety attacks, i take propanol to keep
me calm. but the best thing for it really
is to face your fear and i know its hard
as ive been like this for 2 years now even
the thought of going for dinner stresses
me and terrifies me. i do feel for you,
and im glad you have your husband standing
by you. when you feel the time is right to
go to his familys house then you do it in
your own time. i just wish my dad had his
own business for me to work with him as i
hate being skint as ive worked from the
age of 13, so this is a total different
way of life for me.take care.nic.x
|
Clarkless
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 9
a Few Phrases Come to Mind Posted: 04-19-07 15:02pm
Leap of faith
Take a chance
blind faith
|
atena
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Apr 2007 Posts: 3
Posted: 04-28-07 07:00am
i'm all against drugs, but you should try
Xanax. It works wonders with some types
of panic. But it shouldn't be a regular
thing - just a support for you to enter
the society.
If you started taking drugs and drinking
at that age, you practically never
developed a method to interact socially.
So you're starting from scratch, and in
addition to any anxiety that you may have
felt at the time you started abusing
substances, which was probably the reason
why you did it, you now feel emberrased
for being so inept at 20. And for
gaining weight on top of it.
The fact is, you'll probably never going
to feel happy in a large crowd of people
you don't know; but on the bright side -
the social ineptness is inevitable, but it
resolves itself quickly if you just let
yourself go.
You should just accept in advance that
you're probably going to be humiliated,
and humiliated big time; if you just
accept humiliation in advance, you'll be
able to overcome any of the issues you
mentioned. And humiliation may seem like
a bad thing only in your mind - in
reality, the problems that you may bring
upon yourself if you continue to shelter
yourself are far more dreadful.
What the heck. If people like you - they
like you; if they don't, they don't and
there's nothing you can do about it.
