I have dated several guys and had sex with them Protected. But once I felt the relationship is getting Serious I back off because I dont know how to tell someone that I have this virus. I had 2 serious relationships and the guys didn't care but who's to say everyone will be so KIND. How do I tell someone? PLEASE HELP

ya know i was really scared when i encountered this same suitation. i met a really awesome guy . The type thats too good to be true and well i knew i would have to let him know about my virius sooner or later,or i could not,but then they would be like me. so i took things really slowly. we got to know each other really well. i came totally clean and upfront. it scraed him a lil at first,but he was glad i had the guts to tell him and be truthful. he cared alot about me and i felt the same. we are happly still to gather and just to be safe he got on valtrex

.i told my boyfriend relatively early on. .i do not have genital herpes, but .i do have the oral virus which can be transfered to the genitals. .he was quite willing to take the risk and any man who cares for you will as well. .he also knows that .i have had it for as long as .i can remember and he is the first man .i have been with.

was this quite necessary?

I don't see anything wrong with it

.supporting people who feel they may have a serious problem is very necessary.

and letting them know they're not alone and they *do* have somewhere to go is a great thing!

i got a reply from someone on this sight and the response was wait till you go to the gyno and see what happens and to relax which is very hard to do--i cant sleep cause im so nervous so if theres anyone who can give me a little insight i would appreciate it


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Ok this is a long one...

Last sexual encounter was march 17th of this year...As far as I know the guy is clean but it wasnt a boyfriend kind of just a one night thing..Used a condom and didnt (not responsible at all I know)

about 6 weeks ago I wiped after going to the bathroom and felt a slight sting...Looked with a hand mirror and didnt see anything but there was a small cut (tiny) near the opening of the vagina--no raised skin/blister/bumps and I put some neosporin on it---next day it was gone

approx once a week/every 6 days maybe it happens since then...I was on antibiotic (strong ones) for my roseacea on my face for 21 days...The last day was may 3rd (the day I felt the stinging) and I was itchy down there....Read that the antibiotic causes severe yeast infections in women and could also cause irritation in that area...I am very prone to yeast infection/bacterial infections....But I have been exercizing reg, eating alot of yogurt with live active cultures and taking acidophillus regularly... Was not allowed to take the acidoph while I was one the antibiotics and was not getting any yeast infections before the medicine for quite some time...I am going to the gyno next week but I really need to know your opinion...Everything ive read so far doesnt add up to herpes but I have never gotten a paper cut-like/tear in the perineal area (its by the opening to the vagina kind of bet the bottom and the vagina)--ive been down there with the hand mirror prob a hundred times and I know for sure there are no lesions, bumps, sores, blisters...These outbreaks im reading about dont seem to be similar and I feel like this area of the skin down there is severly irritated and tears as a result---but I know I could be wrong...I am seroiusly not sleeping b/c of this

sorry for the long email but im trying to be as clear as poss--im so scared

I'm wondering what are some natural supplements I can take to get rid of symptoms and /or supress them.... I have heard about Valtrex and other prescription meds, but I would like to take a more holistic approach.... Any sugggestions??????

There is a vitamin called Lysine that you can take. Lysine is a chemical found in food that helps fight Herpes outbreaks. It also promotes healthy skin and lips.

It is a natural chemical that you get from food. There are certain types of food that carry this vitamin, but I am not sure what they are. You can go online to learn more about it.

But its just like a daily vitamin. There are no side effects, at least for me. I found that it is so much better to take than valtrex or acyclovir. If you use Lysine daily you can help prevent outbreaks. This does not mean it will help you not pass it on though.

I suggest you keep a perscription of valtrex or acyclovir handy at all times. This vitamin is good to keep your body's defenses up but it will not take away a sore as fast as valtrex or acyclovir will.

I take Lysine everyday and when I feel an outbreak I start taking my acyclovir. Most times the sore never comes or its very minor and only lasts a few days. I tryed taking Acyclovir once a day but it had bad side effects. Natural is always better. Hope this helps....

Herpes attacks when your immune system is weak and cant fight it off. Lysine will help keep your immune system strong.

Most of what I have heard so far is from the drug companies and they just want to pump us full of meds... I did fill a script for Valtrex the other day though...Thankyou for the tip about Lysine, I'll pick some up the next time I go to the health food store...BTW, I heard that Neem plant extract is good for herpes too.