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March 15th, 2007
Last summer i met someone who i was crazy about it was the most touching and loving relationship i had ever encounterd, it soon ended due to our work and lifestyles.
I was crushed and never got over him, nights out we would often bump into each other and it soon turned into awkward circumstances and he was seing another woman. After christmas i had not seen him in a good while no accidental meetings, days did actually go by when he wasn't on my mind. (the odd day) One night out i met a lovely chap we automaticly bonded with the same silly (drunk) sense of humor. we started seeing each other, until i realized he was friends with that summer love of mine. although he was with someone else and didn't seem to give a damn about me i still felt i was some what cheating.
But the new chap announced he was planning on going back to uni in warric in a few weeks, so surly not having a lonely christmas wouldn't be that bad? My summer love probaly wouldn't find out in this short time, not that i thought he'd care.
so i stayed with the hansome chap i met down the local until he left for uni and i was back alone but phycoticly pleased my summer love hadn't found out however insane this sounds now. The chap i met who had gone to uni came back the week after, bailed out of it and we are still together now.
Only about a month ago my summer love found out and i found out he was only with his girlfriend for a few weeks, hes recently declared his love for me and how he wants a real relationship this time.How I've always been on his mind, it was like he quoted my feeling for him but to me.
i love him more than iv ever loved anyone and weve been meeting up constantly iv told him i will leave the chap im with now for him.
i thought it would be easy but its not i really care for this chap and he has no idea of anything, so naive and sweet giggling speech about our future together, planning things for us i would have been thrilled about a month back. everythings happend so fast im so confused and scared i really dont want to lose my summer love again, but i adore and look forward to my short term future with my current chap.
please someone help me, critise me until you turn blue i know its my fault im in this situation, but either way someones going to get hurt....
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enigmagnetic
replied June 24th, 2007
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This is a tough one. The best way is always the most difficult. In my opinion you have to give yourself time to think. Take a break from both of them. A few months alone will not kill you. You sound like you have a hard time being single. If that's the case you need to be single for a while. Once your head is clearer then you should be honest with both of them. If they are not around or unwilling to speak with you, then was it really meant to be? As far as fault forget about it. One can't predict where your heart will lead you because as we all know love is irrational yet beautiful. Good luck.
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Willa Weintraub
replied June 26th, 2007
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imo,things happen for a reason.you could not be together due to job status and he had no problem seeing other women.I think it is totally wrong to break up with someone for another.if thigns end in your current relationship it should be due to your own problems dealing with your relationship.Why leave if things are good?How do you know if you get with him,he will be with you for a while and not dump you?Maybe he doesn't want you with his friend and he is only being selfish.these are just things you have to think about.If you dumped him for the summer boy,how would you feel if you got dumped after that by him and you just ruined everything for you and your ex?I'm sure he would be hurt and most likely not want to take you back(I've seen simialr examples).Just think before you act. Smile
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Just_a_boy
replied August 4th, 2007
dear saz

maybe it's not what U want to hear.. but u can't think bout yourself only.. look.. U had summer love that was nice for U ok.. then he found himself another one, U began relationship with new man.. think bout them.. how they feels? U & your summer love just play with them ? please do the things that way, that U could look in a mirror and don't feel like U hurt anybody and yourself too.. specially your recent boy.. couse summer loves acts unmature in my opinion..
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butterflyprincess
replied August 7th, 2007
Difficult Desicion..
God, i know exactly what you're going through. The same thing happened to me and i had no idea what to do until one of the guys started beating me.. And obviously i left him soon after that. Now im still with the other guy, perfectly happy as can be Very Happy

But in this situation i think (sound really corny but) you should follow yout heart and your gut.
You could be thinking about things in the long term or short term but then you might end up making a mistake and wishing you chose the other guy..

Difficult choice.. but just follow your heart/gut Very Happy
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