Hi. I'm a regular poster on preg. forums but decided to switch over a bit today
A few months ago 1 or 2, my boyfriend and I broke up. I'm pregnant and he just wasnt taking care of himself, he was being bad towards me and it was just time to get away. I still talk to him a lot, just because I'm so scared he is going to hurt himself, and even after all the terrible things he has done I care very much about him. I've been trying to be supportive of his serious depression and whatever other mental issues he may have, but I'm angry over a lot of things and can be cruel with my words, and sometimes lose that urge to be understanding. When someone constantly hurts themselves, attempts suicide, uses drugs and just flat out digs themself a hole it is very hard to just sit by and watch, especially when you are the one to blame, but can't do anything about it. I do think though it has finally gotten to a point where he knows he needs help. it is so scary for me, because I am just waiting for that phone call, but he has agreeed to make some calls with me today, I dont think it's just depression I think its a lot deeper than that and I think he needs an assessment and then some serious guidance and help , from a professional, Ive explained 100 times I'm not equipped to deal with this on my own, and I hope he finally gets that.
what kind of people should I be calling to talk to about this?
where do I turn now thats hes willing to get help and is it covered by ohip?
( i'm in ontario, yay for ohip! )
or will we have to figure out a way to pay for it all.
I just need guidance as well im kinda getting in too deep, and I dont wanna offer him help and then not have the means to get it for him.
any ideas, thoughts or answers would be very appreciated.
First off, you aren't the one to blame for anything, he makes his own choices regardless of what you do. Maybe you're cruel sometimes, but this does not eliminate the fact that he chose his own path. My best suggestion would be to first see if your local mental health center has a crisis hotline. These are people you can talk to on the phone and they can come to your home to talk to you and explain different possibilities. The fastest way to get help is for him to sign himself into psychiatric treatment through the ER at your hospital. He will stay for up to three days, more if he seems to be bad, and then when he is released they will give him follow up services, appointments and so forth.