wow, you guys are soooo helpful. Thanks a bunch!!!

Sorry that I can't really help you. Growing up, every time a guy hit on me I assumed (correctly) that he wanted to get into my pants. My husband had a great since of humor. That is the first thing that attracted me to him. So, if you can, I would suggest opening up with a joke. As for wanting a relationship. I am trying to figure out how to put this politely. Maybe the reason you are only having one night stands is because that is the type of girls you are attracted to, or the easiest to get with. I suggest going in a different direction that your usual "type". I did and wound up with a wonderful man.

Again, sorry that I couldn't be of more help. Good luck!

As long as you know you will not fail, you will not.

You can use any style you want, but if you are worried - even a tiny bit - about not getting what you want, the female will easily see this.

I would first find an individual who you can actually sit and talk to...never run out of things to say. SOmeone who has similar interest that you do. Looks are not everything in this world. Communication is key. Find something you both enjoy doing and take it from there. Ask this person if she would like to join you going to such and such. If you find someone you are attracted too, go up and talk with this person to find out what they are like. Aks if the like to maybe go out for lunch or a walk around the par. Someting that is safe and public. That way she will not feel pressured or uncomfortable in the situation. If she says no thank you, move on to the next lady......there are thousands you jsut have tofind hte correct one! Go to places you enjoy like book clubs, museums, certain movies, historical events...whatever it takes to find someone who will have similar interest. You can alwasy meet in a nice park and engage in converstaion, run along pick up some chicken and continue with a picnic...just some suggestions for meeting a decent girl and not running her off thinking all you want is a trip into the party pants. Hope this helps and Good Luck!