whhhhhhhhhhhaaat uppppppppppppp people!!
holy its been a long while since ive been here.
the whole idea of PE slipped out of my mind, the problem was that I spent so much time worrying that it kinda took up all my time and was always on my mind. well screw that, i dont want to spend all my time worrying about pe, i want to enjoy having sex and thats what i do now, Pe or not
if i cum in 2 minute well then so be it, i just wait a bit, eat the girl out while she gives me head, thats gets me really horny, and i get a wooddy again and then i can go for alot longer
there is some good info on these boards though
basically ive stopped caring about Pe and that helps in the battle against it
Alittle bit about myself: before I used stud... I could prob get 3-5 mins of oral (if she didn't touch the head or tip of the penis) and 1 min of intercourse.
I tried the stop/start technique but it ruins the moment and I didn't find it helped all that much (helped prolong sex for another min at most). Kegal technique made me want to orgasm FASTER:(
So before moving onto systemic drugs (SSRI etc..) I decided to try out a topical spray or cream first.
I just tested out STUD and it works beautifully! I sprayed 3 times (enough to cover the entire head and some of the shaft) and waited about 10 mins... then I sprayed it again on the head (might be overkill but the head sensitivity is the main reason why I don't last that long). The spray can get a little messy, so be careful where you aim it, and be sure to push it down as quickly as possible to get a fine mist. I find there's a slight burning sensation when I first used it... but it goes away after a min or 2. Try not to get any into the urethra (pee hole) it will sting lol.
So I had sex about 15-20 mins after the 2nd set of spraying. A few mins of foreplay, I slap on a condom and off I go. So I started off slowly... 1 thrust every 3 sec for the first few mins (even with stud+condom I could still get tons of pleasure from her vagina)... then increase the rate...and if i ever felt the "urge" I just changed positions (least sensitive position for me was missionary) or go more slowly. By the end of it I had to thrust about 3 times per sec in doggy, for a good 5 mins just to get an orgasm but it felt GOOD even with a condom on! Whole thing lasted about 20-25 mins. I'm sure if I wanted to I could have gone on for another 10-15 mins...
but I felt bad for my gf, she was probably exhausted after the first 15 mins lol
In summary: STUD (3-5 sprays on head and a little on the shaft)+Condom (Ultra thin)+Technique (instead of start/stop i decided to use a speed up/slow down technique) + positions (missionary to start and finish with doggy) equals,
Reading all your posts; I can certainly relate to all of you. I have many if not all the same problems. I have tried relaxation techniques, creams, SSRI's, I have even gone for two sessions with a sex therapist.
Nothing has helped my situation. I am 24 yrs old and I am afraid that the best sexual part of my life is passing me by.
POM - Welcome back, I think some people were beginning to think that you found a cure and ran away, lol. Well I'm glad that you're more relaxed about the situation. As long as you are happy, and I'm sure you are making your partner's happy. I'm reminded of something I heard recently, I can't remember where, or when, but it went something along the lines of, women, in many cases, are more satisfied with men with smaller penises and/or premature ejaculation because they generally try harder to please their partner. I mean, if we were half hour men, then we would probably be more focused on ourselves, and when we were going to get off and not so much getting our partner off. Well good luck with all, and keep us updated with anything new.
Han8745 - Thanks for all the information. I think that will be very handy for people who have problems with control. A lot of that information coincides with the PE book. You see, I can tell the sensations that precede ejaculation, but nothing will stop it. So if I were masturbating, I can tell exactly where the point of no return is, and stop before ejaculating. The problem is that as soon as I start masterbating again after the stop, I am immediately back at the point right before the point of no return. I cannot get past this point, my body will not learn. After the first time I get to that point, the gun is cocked sort to say, and any stimulation thereafter, even after a period of rest, will set off the gun. In some instances, even if I stop until I go flacid, and then start up again, I am back at the right near the point of no return. This has been going on for years.
Toofast - I'm glad that you liked the Stud; it is any awful good feeling not to have to worry about ejaculating. It makes sex so much more interesting, because you actually relax a bit and enjoy everything.
Jackon- I'm also glad you liked the Stud. This still seems the most effective bandaid out there. I feel that the Stud does a good job to numb the sensations.
Catsgomeow - I watched the video, but it didn't give any techniques. Does that mean that any and all yoga shall work? I would say I'm skeptical that it would make men last 3X longer. Plus, I really don't have an hour to invest in it every day for like 12 weeks.
Hey guys I can totally empathise with you chaps, the whole PE thing is driving me insane. Check out my blog prematureejaculation.blog.co.uk it's a lighthearted look at the problem and solutions. Please feel free to add comments and words of wisdom - Craig
stud100 is pretty strong. If you put one too many sprays, you end up not even feeling your penis (which kinda sux because ur boner will end up getting kinda weak)
So you have to know what is the right amount of sprays of stud u need after a couple of trials u will be okay
hey highlander I actually just tried the Orajel approach. It worked out just fine. I put it on then whacked it to make sure everything worked right. I put too much on so I wasn't able to finish but I kept a strong boner the whole time. On top of that its mint flavored! No numbness on my hand when I was done either. I started a thread about it.
Tried Stud twice already...Didnt notice a significant difference
Tried spraying a whole lot the second time and didnt even feel numb...
Maybe somthing is wrong with the stud I got, because I dont feel numb too much...
I agree with rocketman. Let it dry. Also, make sure you are in a flaccid state. TWICE I applied it when I was already aroused and it didn't work. Maybe it doesn't absorb properly, not sure. I also had a problem with not waiting till it was dry.
Also, be sure you are applying to your most sensitive areas, usually the glans and right under the glans.
omg i thought i had it bad with my traumatic masturbatory syndrome...
i literally bash my girlfriends vagina to death during sex, where she isn't having fun or pleasure cause shes in pain but, i think alot of you guys would trade me shoes any day. wow ladies out there have to understand the complexity of the male penis,
that be said im going to head over to the womans sex forums and learn something i may not know.
my gf and i are in college and are very busy/both have roommates that are mutual friends so we have a hard time finding alone time to have sex. sometimes it can stretch for 2-3 weeks before we get a chance. this is tough on the relationship but we are patient. the only thing is i tend to be fast. 3-5min the first go round after waiting this long. i don't really get to masturbate either since my roommate is always in the room. i'm 21 and wonder if i have pe. its starting to hurt our relationship i think because the only time we get to have sex i feel like its over quicker than she would like. then again, is it normal to be that fast when you hold out so long?
From the research I've been doing... 5-7 mins seems like an avg time for most guys. Pornos are definitely over exaggerations and want to make us think 15-30 mins is actually normal which it isn't!
To know for sure...it would be best to ask your gf directly if she gets an orgasm in 3-5 mins. If she does, then you're both ok... If not..keep reading...
if you're not satisfied and want to go longer, try 1-3 sprays of stud100. I over sprayed one time and actually lost my erection lol... kinda embarrassing. It looks like Rocketman has a lot of experience with stud100. I would follow his advice since I went through the same thing.
I would be more careful in using other anesthetics like orajel. These usually have more ingredients that could cause irritation to the thin skin of the penis.. but everyone's different.
You should try doing 10 mins of foreplay (to satisfy her first) before getting into intercourse. Try giving her oral sex instead and use your fingers! And go real slow during penetration.
As for privacy, you can always try renting a room at a motel or hotel for the night. Motels can go for 40-60 bucks per night and hotels are more expensive at $90+ per night. It may seem a little extreme but 50-100 bucks for "alone time" with your gf once every week or 2 might be worth it in your situation. Split between the two of you it's only 20-45 bucks per person.
Or.. ask your roommate for a big favor... ask him to leave for a couple hours. Tell him you wanna spend some private time with your gf.. watching movies or something lol.
were flying to mars, old men have been taking a pill to make them hard for years, but there still isn't anything to help all of us? I'm tired of sitting at home on weekends because I dont want girls to talk to me. Where is dapoxetine?