I decided to see a hypnotherapist last
autumn. I have had problems with
confidence and motivation, negative
thinking and low self-esteem, for (on and
off) 10 plus years.
I went to see him as I became increasingly
interested in the sub-concious and it's
role in my life. I picked the wrong guy at
first and we didn't do any trance work,
just chatted and got fleeced. Rubbish.
Started going to see another guy and he's
great.
I decided to see him about my PE. I
thought everything else was a huge mess
and maybe if I could conquer PE, I would
feel I could do anything, I would feel
liberated and everything else would
follow.
We chatted and although he said he had
treated PE mostly with success, he decided
we should focus on my confidence. I agreed
and we are working on that for now. It
might be working - I think it is to an
extent but still early days. He teaches me
how to go into the early stages of
self-hypnosis and home and it's very
relaxing - I just got a cd from him in the
post today too to listen to. I intend to
get better at self-hypnosis, read up, and
treat myself. He seems very confident in
his abilities.
I am due back at the end of the month and
I'm thinking of asking him to work on PE.
If he feels he can.
A bit of background. Hypnosis is basically
a state of deep relaxation. While I'm in
hypnosis, I'm sat in a chair, fully aware
of everything going on around me, I can
get up if I want, I'm in complete control.
Two fingers have biofeedback sensors on.
By sending a small electrical impule
through, a machine can give a readout that
indicates how relaxed I am. At a certain
stage, hypnotherapy professionals state
that the sub-concious part of the brain
becomes more receptive. By giving
instructions to this part of the mind we
can (hopefully) modify the way we think
about things.
You have an induction which is basically
the therapist talking to you about
relaxing -and you do. Some visualisation
to help. Then when he/she sees on the
machine that you are relaxed enough,
he/she will read out a 'script' that is
very carefully composed in order to
deliver the appropriate message. He speaks
to me about swapping positive thoughts for
negative ones, to over-simplify greatly.
Afterwards I feel very relaxed, a bit
drowsy and smiling. I feel physically
relaxed, my muscles chill out. I'm not so
mentally relaxed as Im still new to it and
my mind can try and fight off the
relaxation and focus. You really need to
focus on something relaxing, liberating to
calm the mind.
I was given a script to help with PE by
another hypnotherapist. I havent tried it
as i would need to record my voice and
listen back which to me is a bit freaky. I
will ask my current therapist about it
next time. In the meantime, I am going to
practice relaxing and using the new cd
which is about confidence. Maybe that by
itself works. I'm going to read up on it
and I hope to be able to hypnotise myself
and produce my own scripts. It may be
worth asking my therapist to record a PE
script for me with music so i can use it
everyday.
I am new to it all and I can't offer any
assurances about what does and doesnt
work. I am enjoying going. I'm enjoying
the relaxation and I'm intrigued as to
whether it can rid me of PE. Of course I
will keep the forum posted. I know my PE
isn't about nerves. I am very sensitive, i
get erections easily, it might be because
of rushing but it took me longer when i
was younger!!! I feel it might be
something in my sub-concious - maybe. It's
worth a go. The worst that can happen is
that I am just more relaxed!
Keep up the good work. I'm interested to
hear about other people's experiences.
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headshot
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 01-09-08 14:29pm
minuteman
wrote:
i only took it before sex.
the supplements are good but the ssri's
are a lot better, except the supplements
didn't have me in the toilet puking all
night.
the best analogy i can come up with is
trying to kill someone with a knife
(supplements) vs. a gun (ssri's).
Brad17
wrote:
Hey minuteman i was
wondering whether you took all these
supplements daily or only before sex? Also
i was wondering how you would compare the
effectivness of your supplement regimine
to the effectivness of ssris in delaying
ejaculation? Thanks.
minuteman
wrote:
this combo from GNC (and
WholeFoods) really helps control your
ejaculation with no side effects...
6 pills of St John's Wort (1080mg in
total),
3 pills of Gaba (2250mg total),
1 adult multivitamin for men from
anywhere, i used one from WholeFoods
2 pills choline (500mg total),
1 pill of 5-htp (100mg total),
1 pill L-Arginine (500mg total)
basically all the above just raise
Seratonin levels, except L-Arginine; that
makes your penis harder. Also avoid
Yohimbe and Caffeine
I tried Paxil a few weeks ago and it was a
miracle, and worked everytime I used it
but after a few times, I started getting
extreme nausea and had to stop taking it,
I then tried Zoloft which gave me some
Nausea and a somewhat delayed orgasm.
Levitra also gave me more control over my
orgasm even tho it is designed for ED.
Next I will try Adderall and then
Anafranil (an older Tryciclic
Antidepressant that is similar to an
SSRI)
I hope this helps you. If anyone has any
advice for me, I would really appreciate
hearing it.
Thanks.
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i dont understand the analogy of gun and
knife, could you compare thme more
clearly? bevcause i have prozac, but i am
not depressed or have any problems like
that, so i am hesitant to take it!
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headshot
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 01-09-08 14:42pm
blast00
wrote:
im with you man on the
moon
really? because im not. i have masturbated
like this for years trying to last long
and let me tell you it does nothing. so
no, his post is incorrect and im not with
him. no matter what i cannot last long
using lube. i am probably the last one you
can talk to about being a baby like that,
because my experience contradicts your
post despite the fact that u write like a
guru. most masturbation sessions ive had
have lasted hours, and i stil have made no
progress, im still at the same place i was
years ago.
its still the same thing, i can only do 2
full, consecutive pumps wiht my lubed
hand, or 3 if i use a loose grip, but if i
dont wait 4 seconds after those 2 or 3
then the next pump i will ejaculate. if i
do 3 consecutive, hard pumps, i will
ALWAYS ejaculate. by the way i am talking
about when i am fully erect.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-09-08 15:59pm
How old are you?
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Clear Things Up Posted: 01-09-08 16:40pm
I think we need to clear a few things up
for the benefit of figuring this out..
Take note, I have not read the book coping
with PE, so I do not know the different
types but I notice a distinct difference
between a few of us, and maybe a few of us
really don't have PE and its more mental.
There are many people here like me, that
can last pretty long masturbating, and
being given a handjob but can't last any
time when having sex.
Then there are some people like headshot,
that nomatter what is occurring can not
last long.
I wonder if those in my category it is
much more of a mental thing, while those
in the second category have a bigger
sensitivity issue?
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ManOnTheMoon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2008 Posts: 11
Posted: 01-09-08 22:45pm
I'm certainly not a guru; I read through
this forum as well experimented with
myself enough to formulate a sensible
solution that can apply to anyone.
Headshot, forgive me for being lazy but at
this time I don't feel like rereading your
other posts so could you tell me what you
have tried in attempt to solve your PE?
Does anything help (ie. Stud spray,
SSRI's)?
I do not think your are understanding what
I am saying. If you are going to train
your brain learn to overcome the
sensations of your hand and lube (or sex),
you have to build it up. And if its not
working then somewhere in your head you
are still focusing on how nice and warm
and smooth and ahhhhh it all feels. So
back it off a bit. Learn to IGNORE IT.
You my friend, are not. Don't try and
build muscle by moving a mountain. Use
less pressure. You said you have had hour
long masturbation sessions, and correct me
if I'm wrong - with lube it only lasts a
few seconds?
And you're not being very confident
either. The purpose of the style of
writing I used was to get you psyched to
work on this, and immediately you are
focusing on how bad it is for yourself and
how wrong anyone who says this is fixable
is. I know what its like to be in that
spot, a while back I read lots of articles
on this and just told it all the eff off
and that I was different. I have had a
change of heart.
Its too bad my GF just left and we had to
stop halfway through foreplay cause
someone else came home in the house.
Otherwise I'd be able to tell you how I
did... :O
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wan1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jan 2008 Posts: 2
Posted: 01-10-08 07:04am
I am fairly newish to this forum and have
been reading all your posts that you have
been sending. I am actually a female so
obviously dont have the problem of PE
myself, but i have just started dating a
guy that has issues. I suspected there was
a problem as he always avoided being alone
with me and I finally got it out of him
and he told me.
Obviously was rather embarassed & said
he avoids them sort of situations to avoid
embarassment and often the girl would
either..laugh or not bother to see him
anymore and then tell everyone...which
obviously doesnt help the situation
Im not like this whatever and generally
really like this guy. I've told him it
doesnt matter and he doesnt need to feel
embarassed about it as relaxing will
probably help. I really do want to help
him overcome it, not just for me but for
him personally because he is the nicest
guy.
have any of you got partners that are
understanding and try to help you out?
and do u find that more omcforting or is
it intimidating?!
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Discovery.. Posted: 01-10-08 11:08am
to wan1- Its definitely more comforting to
know that it doesn't really matter, it
takes away alot of the pressure and may
solve the whole problem in general.
to everyone else, I think I have made an
important observation.. to some it may be
obvious, but to me I just figured it out..
I am pretty sure half of us here do not
have premature ejaculation, at least
PHYSICAL PE. Let me explain.
-I for example can last 5 seconds while
having sex. Once I get my dick in, I cum.
Sometimes I do not even make it in.
however, I can last quite a long time with
handjob/blow job. This means that my
penis IS NOT over sensitive... I am
pyschologically too aroused. If I am
cumming or getting to the point where I
cum before I even get inside her vagina,
then it is not a sensitivity issue!! it
MUST BE pyshcological because my penis is
not even touching anything!!!
So to those of us that last under 20
seconds, I'm pretty sure it is over 75%
psychological, so KEGELS WILL NOT WORK,
SSRIs (I'm on some now testing them) WILL
NOT WORK.
I am confident that if I can just become
less excited, and treat it much more
casually, and not like oh my god I am
having sex I can last.
I think this is why kegels work for some,
and not others. Its not that i really
have physical PE...
sorry for the long post, guys please let
me know what you think of my statement and
theory, and possible solutions!!!!!!!!!!!
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headshot
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 13
Posted: 01-10-08 12:58pm
ManOnTheMoon
wrote:
I'm certainly not a guru; I
read through this forum as well
experimented with myself enough to
formulate a sensible solution that can
apply to anyone.
Headshot, forgive me for being lazy but at
this time I don't feel like rereading your
other posts so could you tell me what you
have tried in attempt to solve your PE?
Does anything help (ie. Stud spray,
SSRI's)?
I do not think your are understanding what
I am saying. If you are going to train
your brain learn to overcome the
sensations of your hand and lube (or sex),
you have to build it up. And if its not
working then somewhere in your head you
are still focusing on how nice and warm
and smooth and ahhhhh it all feels. So
back it off a bit. Learn to IGNORE IT.
You my friend, are not. Don't try and
build muscle by moving a mountain. Use
less pressure.
maybe YOU don't
understand what I am saying. and how come
you said 'if its not working then...",
with such conviction without saying maybe
or anything, how do you KNOW or have any
clue that i am focusing on how nice and
warm it is? the answer is im not. im not
at all focusing on how warm and fuzzy it
is and in fact im doing what ur talking
about.
Quote:
You said you have
had hour long masturbation sessions, and
correct me if I'm wrong - with lube it
only lasts a few seconds?
no you didnt understand, i have MULTIPLE
hour long masturbation sessions using lube
the WHOLE TIME, but they are made up of
like 2 strokes, hand off, 2 strokes, hand
off, 2 strokes hand of, varying the
pressure sometimes ill get 3 strokes, and
sometimes ill get a percentage of the way
through a stroke and ill know the next
centimetre i will ejaculate, so i stop.
the bottom line is you cant have sex with
a girl by thrusting her twice then leaving
your penis out of her vagina for 4 seconds
then thrusting her twice again then
leaving your penis out for 4 seconds again
then repeating this, it would be tedious
and boring. but if i do three thrusts
which are equal to the tightness of a
vagina(probably not even as tight), i
always come.
Quote:
And you're not
being very confident either.
again, you say this with complete
conviction without any actual clue as to
whether i am or not. its only sometimes
AFTER i cum when i lose some confidence,
and NO this post is no evidence of whether
im confident or not, i simply have a
problem which im trying my best to sort
out. what is confident to you? keep doing
the same thing and not trying to find a
solution?
Quote:
The purpose of
the style of writing I used was to get you
psyched to work on this, and immediately
you are focusing on how bad it is for
yourself and how wrong anyone who says
this is fixable
is.
wrong wrong wrong, im focusing on how
wrong anyone who says the stuff ive
ALREADY TRIED FOR A LONG TIME will fix it,
if u go back u will actualy see me asking
about ssris and supplements, because i
HAVENT DONE THAT YET.
Quote:
I know what its
like to be in that spot, a while back I
read lots of articles on this and just
told it all the eff off and that I was
different.
wow ur obviously different to me since i
didnt do that(read my previous paragraph
for proof).
Quote:
I have had a
change of
heart.
good for you.
and btw, coudl someone who knows answer my
question on prozac? i have prozac, but i
am not depressed or have any problems like
that, so i am hesitant to take it.
also minuteman if u are here could u
answer the question i wrote to you? ty.
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Posted: 01-10-08 13:13pm
HEADSHOT- 1) lets stop fighting its
stupid.. and pointless whatever, you can
choose to take his advice or not,
regardless he has a right to say it.
2) regarding prozac, prozac is a SSRI just
like lexapro which I am currently taking.
What dosage of prozac do you plan on
taking, I can ask my cousin, the doctor
about it and how much should be taken for
PE (which you most definitely have
textbook definition).
Now, I have some questions to ask and
maybe you guys can help me out.. First let
me reiterate that I am 19 years old. It is
day three of me taking the SSRI, lexapro,
and i am definitely starting to notice its
affects. Or maybe I am not, and it is all
in my head since I was told by my cousin
to start with only 5mg (half a pill) for
the first week so my body adjusts. And,
after 3 days I doubt its built up in my
bloodstream, regardless, please read on:
However it is possible that A) it's affect
has come into play, since there have been
reports that it does not need to build up
in the blood stream to work, or B) placebo
affect, and since premature ejaculation
can be linked to being very pyschological,
its possible that placebo like affect has
come into play.
Okay, now for my questions. Normally,
throughout my life I have noticed that I
seem to have a quite long refractory
period, the most I have ever masturbated
in one day was 3 times, and that was with
several hour breaks in between. however,
take note that I stop masturbating if I
don't feel it is working after about 5-10
minutes. However, also take note that I
have ejaculated two times in a matter of
20 minutes before, when I attempted to
have sex 2 times in a 20 minute time
span.
However, for the past day and a half I
have had some trouble become erect (hard).
It has taken me longer than usual, and
then this morning I tried to masturbate, I
stroked my penis and watch porn for about
10 minutes and was unable to get hard.
Are there known cases of ED with young
adults? I have heard of it with older
people, but I am only about 19. Also, do
you think this is really psychological,
since I have never really had much trouble
"getting it up" in the past.
I appreciate all responses and input.
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Also, Posted: 01-10-08 13:34pm
also, I believe answering this question
may help me in my research.. how long does
it take most of you guys to get hard while
masturbating? Normally it took me less
than 10 seconds, now on the lexapro it
takes me about 5 minutes, if i can.
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Tsunku
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2008 Posts: 6
Posted: 01-10-08 17:11pm
i forgot who mentioned sensitivity vs.
psychological arousal (sorry), but this is
interesting. I did masturbate with
lubrication last night and I was able to
last longer. I did actually look away (!)
and try and count to focus attention
elsewhere (!!). I did last longer but it
was weird as I was trying not to be sexual
- I didn't feel too comfortable about
that. But I saw it as an experiment so
that's cool.
Yes, when my thoughts are sexual, then I'm
up against it. But how do u become less
psychologically aroused? I may try my
hypno route. I may try the ''I have
control'' route or the ''i can control my
level of arousal''. Bit ambitious but
worth a shot.
Im not sure I want to be less aroused.
Maybe there are different types and I need
to isolate one type.
Will keep experimenting. Wan-1, do not
underestimate how much your support and
understanding means to your partner. It
means a hell of a lot. I have lasted
longer, sometimes not so long. I have
recently come pretty quick during sex, but
we had a great time as we had lots of
foreplay and we had fun together. It was
great, AND i came quick. There are ways
around it. Good luck.
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ManOnTheMoon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2008 Posts: 11
Posted: 01-10-08 19:13pm
Headshot,
I am sorry for exposing you to my bullsh*t
posts. If you want me to admit your
problem is special, then fine. You are one
of possibly many who have no chance at
fixing their PE naturally. Feel better?
If you tried putting as much effort into
relaxing and listening to your body as you
did bashing my attempts at helping the
general community with a problem we all
share, maybe you'd get somewhere. At
least - if still nothing worked as I'm
sure you'd convince yourself nothing will
work - you'd be RELAXED and post something
like "No ManOnTheMoon, I have tried those
things all my life and I can't seem to get
anything to work. I'm upset about this
but certainly not going to tell someone
trying to help how inaccurate and
contradictory and "wrong wrong wrong" they
are.
OR ignore my suggestions one and all and
focus on what you believe. Maybe that's
what you'd like to do, and you're bothered
that my ideas are taking up space and
discussion time on this board, and since
it means nothing to you, you're selfishly
trying to end these theories?
I won't waste any more time trying to help
you. You were hostile right off the hop,
this is a thread where we want to help and
listen to each other, not reject ideas.
Tsunku, you are on the right track (IN MY
OPINION SORRY HEADSHOT). I believe that
what you were doing is a great way AT
FIRST to try and get used to what it feels
like to not focus on the pleasure. It IS
awkward but with practice eventually
you'll be able to maintain that control
and enjoy it. I've gotten significantly
better at this, I can masterbate for over
20 mins now and just with controlling my
PC muscles and being relaxed and having
the right mindset, enjoy how good it feels
and ejaculate when I want. I do not look
away or think of something nonsexual at
times, but when I started I did that for a
little while.
Blast00, if you were not having issues
with ED before the pills, then this is
obvious evidence that they are lowering
(or destroying!) your libido. It is known
to happen while on those pills, and
personally I would recommend you do not
take them if your member isn't showing up
when you want it to. I would be worried
how effectively your libido returns when
going off the pills too.. especially if
you take them for awhile. There have been
tales that men have had recurring issues
afterwards. If you want the SSRI route,
you can always try others if you aren't
feeling well with the Lexapro.
Wan1, you're support means everything. If
you are aware of the problem and treat it
with open arms he will have no pressure on
his back besides his own. My GF has been
supportive but the conditions in bed
aren't the easiest for me to improve. She
likes missionary, which I have
difficulties with, and she'd rather me
never slow down or stop so I don't get any
relief from those counters. Normally we
don't have much time for sex so she would
rather to just get it over with so we can
move on (I bring her to
orgasm prior by oral, so things matter
little to her after that ). This makes
things difficult on me and also since we
have sex around once every two weeks, by
the time we DO do it I'm too excited to
relax much either.
However my perspective has changed since
we last had sex, and I have been feeling
much better about how I know I can perform
and I expect that I will do better.
And about the physical/psych issue. There
are definitely men that naturally feel
less sensation and men at the other end of
the spectrum who like headshot have
difficulties with stimulation. This IS
physical but I believe it can be improved
mentally. I have improved myself. People
have cured their cancer with positive
thinking. People have been hypnotized and
have gotten rid of their physical smoking
addictions, or their physical warts have
disappeared. Step one is believing, the
rest is WILL. We are free to question but
plague ourselves with doubt.
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
An Update.. Posted: 01-10-08 23:29pm
hey guys, I'm not going to quit on the
SSRIs just yet, I'm still curious
regarding their affect and if they cause
some ED or libido, I'm taking such a small
dosage, and I will continue to do so until
I am confident that I should go with the
recommended PE dose or stop all
together..
However, let me share with you guys what
happened today:
I saw this friend of mine who i have been
hooking up with and stuff, and we could
not have sex because she had her period,
but I had ALOT of trouble getting it up...
which did worry me. It took me in total
close to 4 hours to cum. (probably 70% of
the 4 hours was her either giving me head
or a handjob). i really do not know what
to think. There is so much of a mental
factor in this whole situation, and I am
still trying to decrypt it.
Question for you guys, after you guys cum
the first time.. can you after 10 minutes
or so get it right back up, and just have
trouble cumming due to refractory period,
or do you have alot more trouble getting
it up in general aswell. My body could
just be adjusting to the SSRis. I'm going
to not masturbate for a day, and see if I
can get it up pretty quickly or what..
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5542 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 01-11-08 11:52am
I think your ability to get it up again
after you have ejaculated (the length of
your refractory period) has more to do
with age and other factors...not
necessarily your ability to get an
erection in the first place.
Keep it friendly and nice, guys.
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Tsunku
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2008 Posts: 6
Posted: 01-11-08 12:45pm
blast00 -
I used to consider my refractory period
quite long, but it has a lot to do with
the situation you are in.
If I have masturbated, I probably don't
seek to ejaculate again for a long time
and it's usually hours. I have in the
past, after ejaculating, just thought
about sleep and food and felt very
un-sexual.
However, if I'm with someone I really,
really like and we are spending a lot of
time together, then it's a different
story. After ejaculating the first time, I
like to shower (it's like pressing the
reset button for me physically and
mentally), chill and go back to my partner
and, to be honest, I will be ready again
pretty quick.
For me it has had a lot to do with mood,
context, partner and environment.
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Problem.. Posted: 01-11-08 12:50pm
okay so I never thought I would say this,
but I have gone to the complete other
extreme of PE. First off, note I am
taking 5 mg of lexapro. let me repeat, 5
mg!!! That is very little, and in all of
the studies done with lexapro regarding
treatment of PE they take 10 mg.
Also, I am not a small guy. I am 19, 180
pounds or so, and 5'11. Pretty built, 15%
body fat. I have tons of trouble getting
it up now. I can't figure it out why.
This is day 4 of the lexapro.. I was
masturbating for 15 minutes, got it semi
hard, but not fully erect and just quit.
I'm not sure what to do guys, once I get
it hard I can go for a real long time,
which is what we ideally want, but the
fact that it is taking so long to get hard
is a problem... (unless its normal, and it
was my PE that made me get so hard and cum
so fast..?)
Should I cut in the pill in fourths and
try 2.5 mg a day... ?? Is it possible my
body is still adjusting, and the peaks of
the lexapro are evident now until my body
adjusts?? what do you guys think..??
Also, I don't have a doctor to ask, I got
the pills from my cousin who is a doctor
but not trained whatso ever in this type
of stuff. He trusts me, as I am going to
med school soon, and said that I have to
figure it out for myself.
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MikeH90
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Re: Stamina Spray Posted: 01-11-08 14:34pm
tweeder
wrote:
hey, been checkin out the
site, never really realised i had PE but
now that i have a steady gf i can see
clearly, i've been avoiding sex which is
hard, until i receive the stamina spray i
ordered online, i also ordered climinax
and will try that. what i'm wondering is
how exactly should i use the spray, can
you use it when soft or will you not be
able to get hard again, any guys who have
used it wanna tell me their routine id be
greatly
appreciated.
Tweeder - I believe I posted on one of
these pages how I got the spray to work
for me. Basically spray it on when
flaccid, let it dry and give it a few
minutes to numb the area. This is a good
time for foreplay, get her going. I found
out (my experience may differ from yours
though) that I need to flaccid and must
wait 3-5 minutes for it to work. Also,
you'll need to experiment with one, two or
3 squirts, depending on how sensitive you
are. I did 3 the first time and although I
got hard I couldn't cum. Kinda trial and
error till you get the hang of it.
hope this helps.
Mike
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blast00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 58
Ssri Update Posted: 01-11-08 14:43pm
just an update on the lexapro thing..
I have come to my verdict on how I will
approach it:
I will stay at 5mg a day for the next
month. If I still feel that I am having
too much trouble getting hard, I will go
to 2.5 mg a day. This might have
absolutely no affect on me, and if this is
the case I will stop taking it all
together and possibly just take it prior
to having sex.
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Tsunku
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2008 Posts: 6
Posted: 01-11-08 14:45pm
Hey blast00,
I'm not completely clear about how you are
getting Lexapro. It is a prescription only
drug and the only way you should be using
it is after discussions with your doctor
and then a prescription.
Does your cousin prescribe them?
Seriously, they are anti-depressants and
changes in dosage and whether you should
be taking them at all should be decided by
a doctor and them only - a doctor that
knows you as a patient.
It has been observed in some cases that
Lexapro has sexual side effects - and this
is just from a cursory glance at
Wikipedia. You shouldn't be asking people
posting on a forum board about dosages.
This drug can have unpleasant side effects
and withdrawal effects.
"Also, I don't have a doctor to ask, I got
the pills from my cousin who is a doctor
but not trained whatso ever in this type
of stuff. He trusts me, as I am going to
med school soon, and said that I have to
figure it out for myself."
This comment shocked me. Your cousin is a
doctor but not trained in the effects of
SSRIs??? Figure it out for yourself?
YOU'RE going to med school and you are
self-medicating without consulting your
GP??
Whatever the reality of the situation is,
please speak to your GP about this. Don't
ask strangers on a forum about drug
dosages and side effects, they will be of
no real help.
Please stop taking Lexapro. Go and see
your GP and discuss the use of SSRIs for
PE with him/her. You could do yourself
some damage otherwise. I'm not trying to
rain on your parade, I know the desire to
seek out answers for myself and I have
read up about SSRIs. I decided they
weren't for me and I wouldn't dream of
taking them without guidance from a
doctor.
I give the same advice to anyone else in a
similar position - these are serious
drugs. I am sure that other posters share
my views.
(I bring her to
orgasm prior by oral, so things matter
little to her after that 
). This makes
things difficult on me and also since we
have sex around once every two weeks, by
the time we DO do it I'm too excited to
relax much either.
