My Motto Is 6 Pumps Or 60 Seconds...whichever Comes 1st Posted: 11-04-07 19:20pm
I have a similar problem.....altho there
has been times where i could go all
nite...but that was when i was pretty lit
on some vodka and oj....for the most part
im screwed when it comes to having a
normal sex life....i normally stick it in
and im lucky if i get more than a minute
before i cant hold it off any
longer....has anyone tryed saint johns
wort?
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POM82
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Posted: 11-08-07 12:52pm
no, but it is the main ingredient in a
product I bought to help with PE but I
havent had the chance to try it yet, I
will let everyone know the results as soon
as I do
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robo98
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Posted: 11-10-07 02:40am
I was reading information regarding PE on
wikipedia and in a nutshell it seems to be
more of a mental thing then physical. How
do you control yourself to last as long as
you want. Do you focus on something in the
room, focus on how good you are delivering
your sex? What are you supposed to have
running through your head?
Cheers
Robin
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PA PE
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Joining the Club Posted: 11-12-07 07:34am
Thank you to everyone that has posted on
this sticky. I have had PE my whole life
and agree w/ the guys that say it goes
back to being young and materbating
quickly in order not to get caught.
In the beginning I thought I was quick
only because I was new to sex, but 20
years later I am still in and out before
she knows what hit her! I have been trying
the durex condoms w/ some success and have
just ordered the coping book and stud
spray and will let you know how they
work.
The women I have been with have said it is
not a big deal to them and for the most
part I believe them (I try to make sure
they get off before), BUT as I have heard
most of you say - it bothers me!! My ego
would like to know that I can perform like
"normal" guys.
I have found that with different positions
or by stoping and starting I can go a bit
longer and I mean a bit but again would
like to last way longer than I have on
average.
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MikeH90
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Re: Joining the Club Posted: 11-12-07 08:35am
PA PE
wrote:
Thank you to everyone that
has posted on this sticky. I have had PE
my whole life and agree w/ the guys that
say it goes back to being young and
materbating quickly in order not to get
caught.
In the beginning I thought I was quick
only because I was new to sex, but 20
years later I am still in and out before
she knows what hit her! I have been trying
the durex condoms w/ some success and have
just ordered the coping book and stud
spray and will let you know how they
work.
The women I have been with have said it is
not a big deal to them and for the most
part I believe them (I try to make sure
they get off before), BUT as I have heard
most of you say - it bothers me!! My ego
would like to know that I can perform like
"normal" guys.
I have found that with different positions
or by stoping and starting I can go a bit
longer and I mean a bit but again would
like to last way longer than I have on
average.
good luck with the spray. It has helped me
beyond belief!
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CurlyDavell
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Posted: 11-14-07 22:13pm
Hey guys.
Normally I can go about 10-15 minutes, but
I usually vary the speed depending on how
close I am, which I think annoys my
girlfriend because she wants to go faster
and I cant.
Someone suggested to me to have a hot
shower, and even to masturbate before sex.
Well they work ofcourse... I was going for
at least an hour, but it was not very
enjoyable for me. Its more for her.
Sometimes I do not ejaculate at all (which
is a bit frustrating!).
Now heres my problem. For the last 2 weeks
I've been trying out Kegels to exercise
the PC muscle.. because I don't want to
have to shower every time before sex and I
want to enjoy it too. I seem to be getting
a lot more control over the muscle, and
can even hold off from ejaculating if I'm
going slowly (or stop just before).
However, it is starting to hurt a little
bit. When I contract the muscle, another
muscle that is near my anus starts to hurt
a lot. It is like on the other side
(towards my back, not front) and like a
sharp pain. At first I thought it was just
the muscle getting sore from overworking,
but sometimes now when I do it.. i feel
like i need to go to the toilet.. or pass
wind.
Is something wrong? Should I continue to
do the exercises? They are working to
control ejaculation, but i don't want to
keep doing it if its doing something bad
to my body.
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The Mrs
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Posted: 11-14-07 22:35pm
It sounds like the pain is coming from
your prostate. How close are you to
ejaculation when you do these kegel pulses
to prolong it? I can honestly say that
you are the only man I've ever heard of
doing kegel excercises. That's supposed
to be OUR secret!
Personally, I think being able to go for
an hour deserves an award. You shouldn't
be pushing yourself that hard though. If
you really want to go that long, why don't
you just keep switching positions to keep
it going instead of straining yourself?
It's pretty sad that you sometimes trade
an orgasm for yourself for being able to
go all night in hopes that it makes your
girlfriend happy. You are a wonderful guy
who wants to please her, and that's
admirable. But I think you should do it
in other ways and be able to enjoy the act
of sex more. Why don't you bring her to
orgasm by oral sex before you even get
inside her. Then afterwards, have sex and
don't put so much pressure on yourself!
She's already been satisfied atleast once,
and if it happens again thats great and if
not, hey.. it's okay! Most women can't
orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone
anyway, and giving her clitoral
stimulation before hand will only increase
her enjoyment.
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CurlyDavell
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Posted: 11-15-07 04:22am
Thanks for your advice The Mrs
She is very fussy.
For some reason she really dislikes oral
sex.. even though I can bring her to
orgasm every time, she just doesn't like
doing it. She always complains that it is
too sensitive.. and never wants to have
sex at all after oral.
I contract the muscle as tight as I can as
soon as I get to that point where I'm
about to go. Sometimes a bit still comes
out, but i can keep going.
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The Mrs
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Posted: 11-15-07 14:20pm
Ugh... I'd really advise you to stop doing
that to yourself.
When you are performing oral sex, are you
being gentle and not too hard and...
err... too "pointed" with your tongue?
The area IS sensitive, but being less
direct and more sensitive or a little
slower with your motions should help.
Instead of going face-to-face (for lack of
better ways) with it, try more of a from
the side kinda thing. I'm freaking myself
out giving all this instruction so
sorry if I suck at explaining.
Also, she could be using that as an
excuse. Many women don't feel comfortable
with a man spending so much time "down
there" as they are embarrassed of their
natural womanly smells or things like
that. I've read mannnny cosmo magazines
where readers write in about that. Just
in case that IS the case, why don't you
just throw in the next time out of no
where how much "the smell of a woman"
turns you on or something like that. That
way if she's embarrassed of it, she might
get over it if she thinks you like it and
she's never even told you her feelings
about it. If you can make her orgasm
every time from oral sex (unless she fakes
it for some stupid reason just to make you
think your job is done or to not hurt your
ego), than it must not be TOO sensitive
after all... I find that unbearable.
I really hope at least something I've said
can help. You should NOT put yourself
through that!!!
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pin_cushion
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Is It All In Your Head? Posted: 11-16-07 16:32pm
Is PE really all in your head? It's
awfully easy for a doctor to tell you
that!
I recently went in to the doctor's office
candidly asking for help. I told them
that I had a prostate exam a few years
ago, but I'm still having a problem. Now,
they've done CT and MRI on my lower back
to look for possible neuropathy. I will
be getting the results back soon. I've
been told that if CT and MRI don't turn up
anything, I will be given a referral for a
thorough urological exam.
I'm just wondering what a thorough
urological exam could turn up if the
prostate exam didn't find anything. I
wonder if the doctor just wasn't expecting
to find anything. Anyhow... take a
gander!
PE may likely not be in your head,
especially if you have other symptoms of
prostate trouble!
To those of you who've been posting here
and have tried lots of things to no avail,
get to your doctor and get checked for
prostatitis!
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PME
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Posted: 11-28-07 21:08pm
Hi this is my first post, I have read
through this the last couple of days and
have enjoyed all the great info. I have
tried a lot of the suggestions over the
years but so far I am still looking. I see
a lot of you find the stud 100 helps my
question is how long does it keep you numb
from the time you put it on until you
notice it wearing off?
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MikeH90
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Posted: 11-29-07 12:47pm
PME
wrote:
Hi this is my first post, I
have read through this the last couple of
days and have enjoyed all the great info.
I have tried a lot of the suggestions over
the years but so far I am still looking. I
see a lot of you find the stud 100 helps
my question is how long does it keep you
numb from the time you put it on until you
notice it wearing
off?
For me (I assume each guy will be
different due to variable degrees of
sensitivity) it takes about 4-5 minutes to
numb me and then after sex it is still
usually quite numb, like 30 -40 minutes
later, so total probably at least 1 hour.
We usually go right to sleep after so it
might be longer.
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bkuddah
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Posted: 11-30-07 21:17pm
Hello, new to the forum, I had a question
about the stud spray, does stud spray
affect your partner a lot? I know the main
task that most of these companies try to
address is to minimize partner transfer. I
know that plethora is researching a
product that is at stage 3 in testing, and
if it makes it through it will be the
first official treatment for PE, and it
has minimal partner transfer. You can read
more about it here http://w
ww.plethorasolutions.co.uk/index.php?page=
Press
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MikeH90
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Posted: 12-03-07 12:13pm
bkuddah
wrote:
Hello, new to the forum, I
had a question about the stud spray, does
stud spray affect your partner a lot? I
know the main task that most of these
companies try to address is to minimize
partner transfer. I know that plethora is
researching a product that is at stage 3
in testing, and if it makes it through it
will be the first official treatment for
PE, and it has minimal partner transfer.
You can read more about it here http://w
ww.plethorasolutions.co.uk/index.php?page=
Press
my wife hasn't mentioned anything. I think
that after its dry there should be no
transfer.
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oleman
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Posted: 12-04-07 19:21pm
do u spray the studspray on when your hard
or soft? and how long before sex do u use
it?
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sighwow
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Posted: 12-04-07 23:18pm
Well, I've done it, I've finally added
myself to this forum, and well, i guess i
have a problem. I'm completely lost, and i
have no idea what to do. When i have sex
with my lady friend, the time i last
varies,depending on if I'm using a condom,
or if i;m not, or how horny i am, i think
the longest I've lasted is maybe 5 mins at
the very most. My only problem is sex, and
i don't understand it. i can get, for lack
of a better word (head) and thats fine,
I've never had a problem there. But the
sex thing its embarrassing. my g/f is very
cool about it, she loves me and she
understands, but i worry, one day she wont
care anymore. I read something about this
stud spray, where can i get it, and how
doesn't it work? I really appreciate this
forum, ty in advance.
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quickdraw
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More Info Posted: 12-06-07 14:46pm
Hi
I went to the drs yesterady about this
problem. I sat down, took a deep breath
and told him "I come too soon". He said
"You're telling me, your appointment is
tomorrow"
In my quest for finding a cure, I have
purchased a few ebooks. Most, if not all
of them, require you to learn the
dirrefent 'Phases' of sex. ie
Phase one: Feel a little bit sexy
It's plainly obvious to me that these
books were not written by people who have
suffered with this problem. If they were,
they might be a little more like this...
What we need is to actually make a note of
the feelings that eminate from our general
cods area.
This is mine:
If I try to have sex in the evening I feel
alot more horny, almost to the point where
I feel like I will blow it as soon as I
enter. This feeling is right at the base
of my shaft and feels a little like I am
tensing the front part of my PC muscles
(Please do not advise me NOT to tense
these muscles, I have tried that but the
feeling is still there!) This feeling, I
rekon is number eight on their scale.
Where were the first seven! This is also
true when I try to have sex in the
morning, expect there is not much feeling,
until about thirty seconds into it where I
get the exact feeling as described above.
My question, to the people who do not
suffer this problem, is this...
What are you doing reading this thread????
Seriously though....
When do you feel this feeling? What stage
would you say it is? Do you do anything to
move back down the scale (aside from
thinking about cricket)
They must eventually get to this point but
we need to know when and how they control
it when they get there.
I spoke to a friend of mine the other day
and he was talking about the night before
and his (almost) exact words were "My
missus did a bit of a strip for me, by the
end I was that horny, I thought I was
going to cum before I started!" I didn't
have the nuts to ask him how he didn't
It would be good to get a few people on
here who are able to have sex for longer
than a few seconds so we can grill them
all behind the smoke screen of this
fantastic internet.
Thank you internet
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catsgomeow
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Posted: 12-08-07 19:59pm
go to www.stayerect.com
buy the numbing cream. it has lidocaine
and benzocaine. I've been using it for a
few years and its the best. STUD100 didn't
do a thing for me.
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catsgomeow
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Posted: 12-10-07 12:42pm
I know a lot of guys are against it, but I
thought it would be useful and informative
for us other guys whom are desperately
searching for something. Why don't
everyone who has taken or is taking SSIRs
that have delayed ejaculation list the
name of the drug you are taking and how
much longer it make you last for! thanks
guys, i'm sure a lot of guys will
appreciate this.
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inTango
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Posted: 12-10-07 16:41pm
it seems to me that as soon as people try
antidepressants, they stop posting on this
forum...
so
sorry if I suck at explaining.
