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Posted: 04-12-07 14:33pm
POM82
wrote:
could it be because I put it
on when I was
hard?
the time before last night i used 2
squirts and was semi hard and maintained
my erection. I don't think being hard or
flaccid would have an impact on it. Maybe
try 1 short squirt and wipe it off a bit.
You'll have to experiment with it I guess.
that would be a pain too like you said,
not spontaneous enough if you had to keep
experimenting with what worked best. All
I know is that it was within a couple of
minutes that I could tell I was numb so it
works fairly quickly once applied. So even
if the wife surprised me and wanted it
right then, I would just squirt and then
get into the foreplay and let it take its
course.
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HealthySex
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Posted: 04-12-07 16:13pm
Stud spray is not the only one out there.
There are also creams. Some use Benzocaine
and others use Lidocaine. So POM if you
really want to give the numbing agents a
try, experiment a little. It could be that
one chemical works better for you. It
could be that a cream would be better,
because you could be more specific about
the places you put it.
Also, there's the option of using
something to improve your erections as
well. Herbal viagra type stuff or creams
to get hard. Wouldn't know if any work
though.
Most likely you just rely too much on the
sensation to create the erection. Makes
sense right, we all do to some extent. But
really, the brain is probably the best at
creating erections. Ever have a day where
you wanted to masturbate so you started to
stimulate your penis, but it just wasn't
coming up? Ever have a woman constantly
stimulate your penis, but your penis was
just not interested in getting erect? I
have, and it wasn't because my penis was
numb. I told the girl to stop touching my
penis and to run her fingers around the
area, with no direct penile contact. Why?
Because the stimulation wasn't creating
the erection, the thought of stimulation
was. Her hand being so close, but not
touching got me hard.
Similar thing when getting a handjob,
blowjob or sex and I'm hard, but not that
100% rock hard that I am when I'm really
horny. Then I'll look in her eye, or
she'll breathe in my ear, give a little
moan, or say something sexy and then
voila, I get rock hard. So even though I
was being stimulated and it felt good, my
mind wasn't being stimulated.
Try now to get an erection without touch.
You don't think about getting hard. You
don't think about sending blood into your
penis. You think about things that turn
you on. So perhaps, while you're having
sex you need to pay attention to those
things that turn you on. Watch her face
enjoy it, listen to her breathing, or
watch her breasts, feel her ass, whatever
gets you going. And if you have to add
something like dirty or sexy talk, that's
fine too.
MikeH, why do you think it is that you're
able to maintain erections with the Stud
spray? Is it because you can still feel it
enough, or because you're horny, or what?
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NYC216
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Posted: 04-12-07 20:17pm
hey mike,
i just recieved my spray and it seem to
work. It was a pain in the ass to get it
open at first, but i got it. I'm just a
little confuse cause the glan is sensitive
all around and i had to spray like 4 times
to get all around the glans cause if you
just do one area then the other will be
sensitive, but if u numb all i think it's
better right? its a small bottle and 4
sprays every time i use it seems alot and
will probley run out quick. I wish it came
in a cream instead. it will be easier to
put all around. I don't think it's
nessecery to put on the shaft cause the
shaft has nothing to do with sensitivity.
It's all in the glans. What do u think?
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MikeH90
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Posted: 04-13-07 06:43am
HealthySex
wrote:
MikeH, why do you think it is that you're
able to maintain erections with the Stud
spray? Is it because you can still feel it
enough, or because you're horny, or
what?
not sure, I guess because I can still feel
it enough. I just spray directly on my two
most sensitive areas not my whole penis.
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MikeH90
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Posted: 04-13-07 06:51am
NYC216
wrote:
hey mike,
i just recieved my spray and it seem to
work. It was a pain in the ass to get it
open at first, but i got it. I'm just a
little confuse cause the glan is sensitive
all around and i had to spray like 4 times
to get all around the glans cause if you
just do one area then the other will be
sensitive, but if u numb all i think it's
better right? its a small bottle and 4
sprays every time i use it seems alot and
will probley run out quick. I wish it came
in a cream instead. it will be easier to
put all around. I don't think it's
nessecery to put on the shaft cause the
shaft has nothing to do with sensitivity.
It's all in the glans. What do u
think?
LOL - I had a hard time opening it as
well. I just leave the lid open now so I
can quickly spray and get down to
business.
I think sensitivity is different for all
guys, not only the location but the
degree. Thats why some things work for
some guys and not others. My head is not
sensitive all the way around like yours,
one spot (the underside or the side
pointing away from me) is more sensitive
then the rest. My most sensitive spot
however, is on my shaft, the underside
right below where the head meets. So I
just do a short quick spray right on that
area which also gets some on the area on
the head where it needs it.
I have never looked into creams, this
spray was the first thing I tried and it
seems to work. Maybe you could do some
research on the creams and try one and let
us all know.
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NYC216
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Posted: 04-13-07 10:41am
Thanks mike....also should I wait a few
moments to get into action once i spray or
does it work immediatley and i can get
into action right away...what do u
recommend? i can't really tell.
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MikeH90
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Posted: 04-13-07 10:54am
NYC216
wrote:
Thanks mike....also should I
wait a few moments to get into action once
i spray or does it work immediatley and i
can get into action right away...what do u
recommend? i can't really
tell.
well like I posted earlier, I have sprayed
it on when I was erect and another time
when I was flaccid and was able to
maintain my erection throughout the whole
time.
When I did it in the flaccid state I was
in the bathroom. I sprayed it on, threw
some tissue in the trash, turned off the
light and got into bed. We talked for
about 1 minute before we turned off the
lights and got busy. It was already numb
and semi hard (anticipation of what was to
come) when she started rubbing me there
and I then got a full erection. It works
(for me) pretty fast, within a couple of
minutes after I spray it on.
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POM82
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Update On My Situation Posted: 04-13-07 12:29pm
well like I said in previous posts a while
back, the XOX pills that worked for me a
while ago were not availabale anymore but
I finally got a hold of the company by
email and she told me to contact their
canadian distibutor which is right here in
my city:) pretty good for friday the
13th.
So I went to buy some and gonna try it out
soon, hope itll have the same effects as
the other time. if it does their is some
ingredient in here that does the trick for
me. update again when i have more news
from the front
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MikeH90
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Re: Update On My Situation Posted: 04-13-07 12:56pm
POM82
wrote:
well like I said in previous
posts a while back, the XOX pills that
worked for me a while ago were not
availabale anymore but I finally got a
hold of the company by email and she told
me to contact their canadian distibutor
which is right here in my city:) pretty
good for friday the 13th.
So I went to buy some and gonna try it out
soon, hope itll have the same effects as
the other time. if it does their is some
ingredient in here that does the trick for
me. update again when i have more news
from the
front
thanks for the update! Good luck!!!
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quickdraw
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Posted: 04-13-07 14:04pm
MikeH90
wrote:
DO NOT buy that stupid book - Guaranteed
multiple... waste of time and a very hard
read, the author needs to take english
classes. I agree with HealthSex, a couple
of pages dedicated to what the book claims
to do and it does not help PE issues. Go
with the other recommended
book.
Thanks mate
I have ordered the original recommendation
(Coping with.....) hopefully it will give
me some good ideas.
I will let you know how it all goes.
The Stud spray sounds very good and I am
glad it is working for alot of people
here. I may even buy some myself soon but
I would love to find the ultimate cure so
I don't have to plan in advance (don't we
all!)
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MikeH90
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Posted: 04-13-07 14:17pm
[quote="quickdraw"]
MikeH90
wrote:
The Stud spray sounds very good and I am
glad it is working for alot of people
here. I may even buy some myself soon but
I would love to find the ultimate cure so
I don't have to plan in advance (don't we
all!)
Well for me it works within a minute or so
of spraying so there really isn't any
planning in advance to do. Just spray and
hop into bed and start with the foreplay.
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POM82
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Posted: 04-16-07 10:14am
well , the xox didnt work on saturday,
took it 1 hour before and i didnt last
longer than usual, but im gonna keep
trying.
It was really dissapointing but she came
so at least she was satisfied, gonna keep
at it.
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MikeH90
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Posted: 04-16-07 10:19am
POM82
wrote:
well , the xox didnt work on
saturday, took it 1 hour before and i
didnt last longer than usual, but im gonna
keep trying.
It was really dissapointing but she came
so at least she was satisfied, gonna keep
at it.
bummer!
We had a full house of kids so no sex this
weekend, plus she caught a cold so doubt
we'll be getting some tonight either.
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HealthySex
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Posted: 04-19-07 11:01am
NYC216
wrote:
hey mike,
i just recieved my spray and it seem to
work. It was a pain in the ass to get it
open at first, but i got it. I'm just a
little confuse cause the glan is sensitive
all around and i had to spray like 4 times
to get all around the glans cause if you
just do one area then the other will be
sensitive, but if u numb all i think it's
better right? its a small bottle and 4
sprays every time i use it seems alot and
will probley run out quick. I wish it came
in a cream instead. it will be easier to
put all around. I don't think it's
nessecery to put on the shaft cause the
shaft has nothing to do with sensitivity.
It's all in the glans. What do u
think?
There are other brands that do come in
cream form. I'm not sure which chemical
Stud uses, but they're usually Benzocaine
or Lidocaine. One might work better for
you, I don't really know. Eitherway, if
you think Stud works well for you, you
could try to find another brand in cream
form that has the same chemical and same
strength.
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awkwarddepressed
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Pe Posted: 04-23-07 10:23am
just a comment about the stop start
method. i had tried using this method to
make myself last longer, but my girlfriend
doesnt like it. she claims it causes her
to lose feeling and she prefers me to just
keep on going even if im gonna cum quickly
from it. she'd rather the continued
sensation rather than the stop start.
anyhow, im not sure i have a severe pe
problem but id definitely like to last
longer.i can usually last between 3 and 10
minutes unless its been a while since I
have last ejaculated, then its a lot
faster. however, i often have the ability
to retain the erection, put on a new
condom and keep going for a second round,
which lasts longer. the more sex i have
the longer it lasts. for example last week
i had sex several times in a few hours and
i was lasting as long as i wanted and i
had to work really hard the last time to
be able to ejaculate.
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sexyjacksonite
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Joined: 26 Apr 2007 Posts: 2
to Nyc 216 Posted: 04-26-07 23:00pm
Hey buddy,
im facig the same problem. I havent had
sex till now but in an intimately close
ecounter with my gal, we dint have sex,
but i came in my pants. Itwas very bad.
Though, i have discovered that i can stay
erect even after ejaculation. At least
this was the case 3 months back. I dont
think abt this much bcos PE sucks. At ths
time, try penis rings. That wont help cure
PE but it mite help maintaining an
erection so u can satuisfy her even if u
come. Im as desperate as u r. Though i
dont blv in this climinax stuff as i
ordered one stayerect band. MotherF*******
sell that rubber band for $19 and its not
even worth 19 cents. But have you heard
about this site http://www
.yogapranayama.com/swamiramdevmedicines.ht
m
This is actually an Indian saint. His
exercises have helped many tremendously in
Inidia incuding my family members. I had
caled them and they suggested that i try
ther meds which are herbal and yogas. Its
expensive though $225 for meds worth 3
months and regular yoga. I will get the
yoga DVD in a week but will try meds after
i get married cos they are so costly. i
donno if they will work or not, i may just
go for it cos in India these meds are
proven. If this doesnt work the last thing
wud be SSRi antidepressents. But i wud
avoid starting with thse cos they may have
serious side effects. Hey buddy do email
me at sex
yjacksonite@yahoo.com. Ill sart those
exercises in like 2 weeks. If i beneft ill
let u know. Plz let me know if you try
something different
One last thing. people caca abt this being
a psycological issue, its not cos u dont
even get time to think. Its an issue with
ur hormones and ssri does make sense. Be
careful with kegel exercises cos some
experts say that its meant for women and
the problem may worsen for men if they
practice it.
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sexyjacksonite
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Hey Nyc Posted: 04-26-07 23:13pm
NYC216
wrote:
Hey Mike,
I just bought a bottle of that stud 100.
We'll see how it goes. Im goi g to use
that and use viagra. So once i cum, i'm
laready good to go for the next round. I
don't want to cum and not get hard again
due to the numbing...that would suck.
Can't wait to get mine. I bought from www.stud100.com it's
actually cheaper than the site u gave me.
thanks for the recommending
it.
Hows that working for you. Just let me
know. Im starting running in different
directions. Ill let u know if i find
something good for permanent solution
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zigg
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Posted: 04-27-07 21:48pm
Depression is a major problem and
therefore the side effects are viewed to
be acceptable. However, pe is not really a
"major" problem. Sure, we know that it can
ruin confidence, sex lives, etc. But
otherwise not a major health problem.
Therefore, the fda doesn't seem to
consider the side effects vs. The problem
it is treating acceptable. If it had the
same side effects, but treated cancer i'm
sure it would be approved. Risk vs.
Benefits.
Thank you for your comments. I believe
you are writing this in terms of the FDA??
I would venture to say that PE can cause
severely deep levels of depression. In
every way just as serious of an issue.
Newer studies are proving SSRI's are in
fact safer than once thought. At this
point, people pop Prozac when they get a
headache so with the mild side effects
reported from Dopexatine studies I'm
feeling like there is something else going
on.
I'm interested to know if anyone else has
had real success with an SSRI? And if so,
which?
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HealthySex
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Posted: 04-28-07 09:06am
I agree that PE is a problem and could
indeed cause depression, in which case I'd
guess you might be prescribed an SSRI for
that. Yes, I was writing it in terms of
the FDA as it is sort of the gist of what
I had read about a PE drug early on in my
research. It commented on the Risks Vs.
Benefits not being suitable.
I've never read anything about the
believed safety of SSRI's increasing, but
if it's true, that's great. I'd still be
weary as they may have long term risks,
AND the whole system is rather messed up.
The FDA is meant to protect us, the
doctors are meant to help us, and the drug
companies are meant to cure us. Yet, the
drug companies are out to make money
(nothing wrong with that), they treat
symptoms as opposed to offering cures. The
FDA is practically ran by the
pharmaceutical companies, talk about a
conflict of interest. And the doctors are
taught by the pharmaceutical companies in
that studies which teach doctors are
conducted by pharmaceutical companies,
medical schools are funded by them,
doctors are paid to prescribe their drugs,
and drug companies go around showing
doctors how to "treat" the diseases their
drugs affect.
If you want to try an SSRI, talk to your
doctor about as he's probably prescribed
them before for PE. Maybe a sex therapist
may know which ones work the best. You
could also google which ones are
traditionally used. There are companies
that do nothing but treat PE and ED, such
as Boston Medical Group and another
mentioned on this site before which was
nearly identical to BMG, except that it
didn't have it's own clinics to attend.
When someone brought it up, I called the
company and asked questions to find what
they prescribed. Their site says it's a
drug for PE, yet there is no drug for PE.
However, when I called I found it was
nothing more than Clomipramine (sp?) an
anti-depressant. Usually, when a-d's are
prescribed it's in lower doses and also
sometimes just used as a pre-performance
drug. They were doing something like that,
with an initial daily dose to get it into
the system. After 6 months you should be
able to stop because of their guidance and
the drug. How? I don't know, perhaps they
train you with the drug and you're
supposed to ween off without losing
results. The price however is substantial
with a monthly cost higher than what it
would cost for 6 months of the same drug
prescribed by your doctor. The question
is, what's the dosage and what guidance
and support do they offer.
I was on an SSRI (Effexor) before. Not for
PE, but for anxiety resulting from a long
lasting, stressful, health problem. It
definitely helps PE, perhaps too much. It
causes anorgasmia, the inability to
ejaculate or reach orgasm. After awhile
though, it becomes easier to achieve. Side
effects were nearly none, but withdrawal
effects were horrible. (Do it slow and
with the help of a book if you do). It
wasn't until after I came off the drug
that I had a problem with PE though.
Probably from having to find new
techniques to achieve orgasm, such as
through strong, constant contractions of
the pelvic muscles.
