the Ultimate Premature Ejaculation Discussion

LMAO.. that is so funny, because I am very good at video games, and just about every sport I have ever tried playing >.<

But its been awhile since I have been on here, and my progress in what I have been trying to do is.. weird.

I was doing Kegel's for awhile, got to holding it pretty long and was doing it the way we all feel it should be, but when I did it the same day I did stuff with my girlfriend, or even if it was like the night before, when I got there I was so sensitive and had absolutely no control over not clinching my PC.

On the other hand, if I spend all day making sure I do not clinch keep it relaxed, when I get into the bedroom it seems almost easier, but I still don't last all too long, longer, and I have good control but I still only last maybe a minute? I guess thats about 6 to 10 times better than before lol, but once you get it a little I guess you just keep wanting more.

With this i am not sure what to do, I fear doing my PC work outs because what if I cant control it like I think keeps happening, and I fear not doing any means I'll lose any progress I made, or it wont help out and improve anything.

I do not think my problem is psychological, but the mental state has so much to do with everything, and I know I am not in the right one to be overcoming this, but its so damn hard to, not just with this but with anything that takes time and work to get. And it'd be nicer if there was a way to build up stamina and get used to the feeling of sex as well because I know thats a problem of mine as well, its hard to get good at something you can only do for a minute, lol.

@sid23:

This may be easier said than done, as most things are, but I'd tell her straight up, I know I didn't and wish I would have, you may like the girl, and if you do then you want her to really like you, this would be a good way to find out how healthy a relationship can be, is if she is willing to put up with it, or help you, or is fine with it, then you know shes a good girl, and to hold onto her if everything else goes good too, lol.

I too always used the, "its been so long" excuse, which is true to an extent, but not a 4 second extent lol. I'd say just tell her man, work case, things dont work out, but its not worth it if she doesn't understand. Also... 2 minutes is pretty lucky if you ask me I'd kill for 2 minutes sometimes lol.

So recently not only have I been having problems with my PE but also problems with my erection. I am easily able to get hard during foreplay but then i reach for the condom and immediately go soft. I can still penetrate with half an erection, which you would think wouldn't be that bad becuase I wouldn't be as stimulated, but then I still cum in like ten seconds even when I'm not hard! So I feel that PE is being affected by my erection problems a good amount. I am seriously considering take Viagra. Anybody else have any suggestions for me besides Viagra. And is there any way I can get Viagra or something of the sort while I'm at college and can't see my doc. And would I even be able to be prescribed Viagra at 19

I know what you mean too Sam, I have kind of had that before but to a slighter degree which never really bothered me, but if you arent getting it from a doctor i dont see how you could be told no.

kegels...reverse kegels...

Ok, I am reading soo many contrasting articles on which ones to do and why?? Will someone clear this up for me- WHICH ONE IS BETTER? And which one should I focus on more.

Should I be doing both?? Or just one??

doing both..
k1ng.. for example.. when you work out really hard doesnt your muscles get weaker for a short period of time.. same goes for working out your PC muscle.. but after a while it can handle it and recuperate much faster

Hey guys, this thread is a really great resource and i'm glad to have found it. I had a little bit that thought might add to the discussion, so here goes:

I guess I'm a 'secondary' sufferer, in that I trained myself to cum quickly early in life, and I'm trying to reverse the downward trend now that it matters. Like lots of the other guys on here, I've found that reverse kegels have potential but are hard to use in the actual act and that, like a lot of resources say, it is harder last longer in the missionary position. I tried to practice these both at once masturbating and found it really hard to last masturbating prone, so I used google to try to figure out if others practiced this way. The result was that I found out about a 'disorder' called TMS in which a guy is unable to enjoy regular sex, can only have sex missionary style, and may be unable to cum because he's always masturbated by basically 'pillow humping' because it feels much better than actual sex. Man, I'd like it if I could to go back to missionary and last! I mean I don't want to develop a disorder, but i tried pillow humping (jeeze i feel so 5rd grade for saying that) and it feels wayy stronger. The result? My new plan is to practice masturbating with stop-start / reverse kegels doing this, because i think the issue is that we normally train doing things that are inherently less exciting than sex and then struggle when it comes time for the real thing. Ok, that's all! Thoughts?

Hi guys,

well I'm still here because I'm not having much success lately...but for a different reason! Sam, the same as you I lose my erection when I go to put on a condom! This is a particular bummer because I think I can control my PE really well now. Rocketman's long kegels and John's slight reverse work fine.
I'm sure it is performance anxiety and I'm just going to try and not think about it, but I wondered, has anyone found that keeping your PC relaxed, or reverse kegelling a little bit stops you getting, or staying hard? By the way I get really hard at other times like in the morning or when "practicing", so I know it is not physiological.

Jim

well i went ahead and bought the extended pleasure condoms by trojan and used them twice and they have worked like a charm. i will continue to practice what i practiced before to eventually gain control but i'm pretty happy with these condoms. can these condoms negatively affect the girl though?

Hey guys,

I hope you don't mind me joining in the conversation - maybe I can help out and answer a few questions - feel free to PM me or email me if you like.

Don't tune out your body. TUNE INTO IT. You need to become more familiar with your different levels of sexual arousal. You also need to recognize how you feel as you approach your point of ejaculatory inevitability, the "point of no return." Once you recognize how you feel close to your point of no return, it's not difficult to make small sexual adjustments that allow you to remain highly aroused without ejaculating.

There has been a lot of success with the Stop & Start method - when done properly - with a supportive and patient partner, it can effectively fix PE problems.

A brief explanation:
This technique simply means to bring yourself to (near) the point of no return, and stopping all stimulation before it's too late. For some men, this includes removal of the penis from the vagina, although for others this may not be necessary.

After the urgent feeling to ejaculate subsides, usually after 30 seconds, then thrusting and intercourse can be resumed. This stop and start technique can be repeated several times.

Communication is the key here, though. Men need to let their partner know that they are getting close to orgasm and to slow down or temporarily stop.

Hopefully my comments have been of some help to you. Cheers, Max