Hello, I guess I am just posting to let my feelings out, which is probably what many of these posts are, but I'd appreciate some emotional support as well. I have been married for 2 1/2 years, and together with my wife for 5 years. We have no kids. I am very in love with her, always have been (and always will be), and care about her more than anything. Our marriage isn't perfect, she always said I should be more romantic and less boring, but we always agreed to stick together. We've always been good to each other. In fact, lately we have been starting to get closer as we've picked up a few activities that we both enjoy and can do together. Well, the other day we had a stupid argument, which frankly I shouldn't have even taken so seriously, but I got angry, at which point she laughed at me in a taunting way. When she did, I lost it and punched her in the arm three times, hard. This is someone that I would do anything for, and that I would never want any harm to come to, and meanwhile I am the one that harmed her. I of course felt awful immediately after, to the point of crying. She of course felt betrayed and like she can't trust me. I spent days crying to myself and trying to patch it up, but she will barely even acknowledge me. She says she has no feelings at all for me, that she hates me or at best feels nothing for me, and she wants to move out and divorce. She said that hitting her was worse than if I had cheated, and I tend to agree. This incident happened just 3 days ago, and already she has been apartment shopping and contacted a lawyer to start a divorce. So my question to the forum is, what do I do? First off, in your opinion, is what I did forgivable? She said she can't forgive me for it, and can't live with someone who has done that. I honestly can say I don't know the answer. From my perspective, I would of course want her to forgive me and not leave, but that's because I know myself on the inside, and I know how I feel. I can only imagine how she feels, but I imagine she feels like the one person she felt she could count on 100% in this world, she can't count on anymore. She said that the incident was out of character, and that's why she didn't have me arrested, but that that's my only forgiveness. She knows that's not who I am, but she still can't forgive that it happened. She has been entirely emotionless since this happened. No anger, no crying, no emotion at all, like she's completely detached from me. I've cried to her and pleaded with her to help me work this out, but she meets me with no emotion and says she doesn't want to. I've asked her to focus on the happy times we've had, and the good things I've done for her, and she said those memories just make her feel repulsed. What do I do here? In general she is a not-so-emotional person, so I think it makes it tougher for her to forgive. Thanks for the support. The last thing I want is to get a divorce from the person I thought I would grow old with.