it looks to me that your hubby needs to get his priorities straight. you son not having diapers and being so close to being out of formula isnt' a good thing. I think that it's about time that you sit down with him and tell him that you aren't going to live this way...wondering if you are going to be able to feed your baby and diaper his son.....he needs to make a choice at this point or you are leaving. then you would have a car a way to go get the food yourself.

good luck.

sorry jason is being an a$$ once again. seems like you and the kids are second best to him. just how long are you gonna put up with his crap.? just seems like it is always something with him.

diaper joseph in jason's shirts. maybe that'll motivate him to get to the store and get your necessities.

i'm sorry, but he sounds like a major jerk and you deserve better.

i agree with all teh above.you know,its none of my business really (you post about him lots so. . )but he seems to be gone or out an awful lot.Don't you ever ask him where he is ad what he's doing?whatever it is,he needs to get his priorities strait.he has 2 children and a wife waiting for him at home.there is no excuse for his behavior!

well he took it upon himself to go by himself thought he didnt have time , needless to say he got diapers, no wipes, cereal no milk, koolaid but no sugar. he got a can of formula wich is abig one and he wont be home till late tomorow cuz they are training. but he spent almost $300 and he forgot things and toilet paper we needed that but he got a huge thing of paper towels when we got plenty. he had time to come home but he went himself and bought some good stuff and tons of juice and soda wich we didnt need soda cuz i dotn like to drink it anymore. cuz my gallstones. i was still alil mad at him for giong without a list and now we got like $50 in the bank until he gets paid again on the 13th. he keeps saying hes trying but ugh lately he just goes to bed at 8:30pm but of course they all been sick btu me. besides today i felt sick on and off but i think its the birth control messing with mybody. and my gallstone pain is annoying like a dull pain that is constant. this weekend i suppose we will have to go back to the commisary to get what he forgot.
THe only car we have is his right now wich i dont drive its a stick shift and i dunno how to drive that and his is complicated the gear knob dont got numbers and i can barely reach the clutch properly and ifi scoot the seat up the steering wheel is right on my legs so i cant turn it, i think his car is made for tall people lol. my cars been gone for a month and a half and still waiting on parts and technically he can leave any day for afghanistan too like 24 hr warning so that sucks even more

he doesnt seem like a winner hun i agree with everyone else..

he really is trying and being more helpful. just lately hed rather lay around and sleep then leave the house for any reason. he cooked dinner last night fed joseph tonight and helped put the groceries up, usualyl he drops em on the floor and tells me to do it. i dunno what is up with him sleepin so much . but today of all days he should be awake to help me. i was upa t 3am with gallstone pain then 5am to feed jordynne. hes taking a "nap" till 9pm.

that to me doesn't sound like he's trying.it sounds like he's trying when he feels like it.

he was sick, i think over it now at least the worst of it. hes like a lil kid lol sleepin early.
wit the diapers he just bought some sunday, but joseph is always pullin em off as soon as he pees once and throws em in the trash, weve went through alot lately. lol

i'm not trying to be down on you hun or make you feel bad or anything but seriously he should be a little more sensetive to the fact that he has children.sick or not he needs to put them first! sory if it sounds harsh,its not meant to its just what I think.

i know cuz ilook at it this way , when im sick the world doesnt stop, i dont get to go sleep or relax at all, i could be like puking alll day long and still required to feed children and chance them and cook for everyone. i try to let him not sleep when he has tried beleive me haha.
but ugh i felt crappy all day and i got this dull ache usually where i get gallstone pain at that has came on and off all day. sucks

I dont know how to say this without sounding offensive but it sounds like all you do is defend him.. My ex was the same way and I did the same things with him..He was irresponsible with money and inconsiderate.. You deserve better..And what will you do if he deploys soon with no car...As far as groceries..Maybe ask a friend if you can bum a ride with them? Good luck girl hope it gets better.

you come on here talking bad about .Jason but when people respond saying stuff about him all you do is defend him. so all i can say is i think you enjoy living the way you do or you would have not stayed with him so long.

ok, let's not turn this around.

This is a problem that many many women face.

What do you expect her to do? leave him? how? with what money? with who? In .germany?!

Come on, Diane. They are right in a sense that you complain, then defend. But it's not your fault.

Of course, you want things to work out for the best. You want him to wake up in the mornin, and start caring/paying attention. It doesn't happen like that.

Have you talked to him about him being nervous about deplyoing? I Mean to have the threat of deploying resting on your shoulders has *got* to be hard. He could be depressed.

You can pm me diane if you want.

Sarah

ever think maybe hes tired because he works and supports the family?

just a question.

atleast he's trying.

Its ok for her to vent. thats what we're here for. Shes not trying to degrade him, shes just getting some things off her chest.

I'd defend .Rob too.

Most of us would.

Totally and to be honest in your situation there isnt really anything that I would do..I understand he probably is working alot right now and is really stressed..It just a crappy situation and i hope it gets better for you

Cheer up mama.Everything will be fine.

yeah well there are days he sits at work all day i mean sits and doesnt do anything but desk work, today hes training so he wont be home till prob 8pm or later he went in civilian clothes cuz he gets to dress up lol. He says because he works he shouldnt do anything but well thats the whole reason i wont get a job cuz i will still be expected to do everything on top of that.
He might be nervous about getting deployed but he keeps saying how much he wants to too, but the places they would be going arent so great. so it might be the mix of the 2 . he beleves also depression is all in you head and that you dont need meds to control it or anything so eh. hes starting to be nicer because he could leave any day. he hasnt gone out in forever but then again we need the $$ since we owe the irs 3,000 and we might have to pay $500 to get my car back, my friend offered to give me a ride to get my car if hes not here we would just need a babysitter for the kids and my other friend should be getting a car soon she just got her german license. and offered to help me out too if needed. I actuall ymight needt o ask my friend if she can bring over some milk for me today since he forgot to get it.
our milk expired march 3 but it hasnt been opened yet the last one and our fridge is kept almost ice cold , like u cant defrost meat in the fridge it will stay frozen so i dunno if it is still good or not. he still has to get my referral for my surgery so i can get it done asap i dont want to still be recovering when he leaves. im hoping he will be more helpful right after that as well. my parents and grandma will be visiting us in may too. jasons mostly nice most of the time now just gets an noying at times , he lacks common sense.

my grandma used to freeze the milk (which is why i stopped drinking it for months!) and it was alright, you just had to shake it up otherwise little things of fat would float at the top and it was nastyyyyyy.

good luck hun!