So it would break his heart if you told him that he was not making you orgasm, but it would not break his heart if you sleep with someone else?

Lying about having an orgasm is about the worst thing that you can do in this situation. If your man does not know that you are not being satisfied, then how can he ever change that? If he does not know, then he will keep doing things the same way. If you are mature enough to have sex then you have to be mature enough to be able to communicate about sex.

Many women don't have orgasms during sex. If you can't, it isn't the end of the world. Keep experimenting, communicate, and see what works for you. Everyone is a little bit different. Guide him if you notice that something feels better or seems to be getting you close to having one. If you don't end up having them during sex, then explore other options. Learn about your body and about where you like to be stimulated the most.

Have you ever had a clitoral orgasm by yourself, masturbating?

I have never had a vaginal orgasm. I have had more clitoral ones that I can count, but never vaginal. Many women assume the vaginal orgasm is the only real one, but it's not. I clitorally orgasm during sex with stimulation and that's fine!

I am 20 years old and have never had or been close to having an orgasim! I truly think there is something wrong with me. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and never had an orgasim- he is my first and only sexual partner. I have recently been trying to masturbate to reach an orgasim but that doesn't work either- I don't even really feel much of a sensation! I have been completely honest with my boyfriend about this situation and its really beginning to get me down which is resulting in me not really wanting sex. I just don't know what to do!

What you need to do first is to get in the mindset of not worrying aout reaching orgasm; and then go take a nice relaxing bath and simply explore yourself. Don't worry about making it feel good, just see what happens when you do different things. Feel yourself, don't try to masturbate. Try rotating your hand, placing your fingers in different places, etc. If you do find something that feels good, then go at it; but don't make it the primary focus of the bath time. YOu need to know what you feel like long before you're ever going to be able to orgasm. Most young girls happen upon it by accident; and so you need to recreate that.

It might take more than one session. You might find a place that feels really good, but not yet orgasm. That's okay. Keep at it, come back to that spot each time and try different things. One thing to keep in mind is that none of this requires penetration! I know I sometimes have a desire to be penetrated when masturbating, but only once I get going.

ANother thing that may help you greatly is a vibrator. Get a waterproofed one so you can take it in the bath with you. I suggest the lower, gentler settings. They tend to be more pleasant. This doesn't have to be a dildo; again, we're not going for penetration here, we're going for clitoral exploration.

On that subject, there are two kinds of orgasm! I think I already mentioned that. Clitoral orgasm is almost always easier to achieve, that's why I'm detailing it.