I have been with my boyfriend for about a
year a year now (He was the first person I
ever had sex with). Everytime we have sex
I get nothig out of it. I HAVE NEVER HAD
AN ORGASIM, BUT I CANT TELL HIM THAT OR IT
WILL BREAK HIS HEART. I love him with all
of my heart and soul but im not sexually
satisfied. I had a fling with some other
guy just to see if it was him... i still
didnt orgasim. I am stuck between a rock
and a hard place. HELP!!
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 03-06-07 01:33am
So it would break his heart if you told
him that he was not making you orgasm, but
it would not break his heart if you sleep
with someone else?
Lying about having an orgasm is about the
worst thing that you can do in this
situation. If your man does not know that
you are not being satisfied, then how can
he ever change that? If he does not know,
then he will keep doing things the same
way. If you are mature enough to have sex
then you have to be mature enough to be
able to communicate about sex.
Many women don't have orgasms during sex.
If you can't, it isn't the end of the
world. Keep experimenting, communicate,
and see what works for you. Everyone is a
little bit different. Guide him if you
notice that something feels better or
seems to be getting you close to having
one. If you don't end up having them
during sex, then explore other options.
Learn about your body and about where you
like to be stimulated the most.
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Tylanas
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Re: Orgasims Posted: 03-06-07 03:09am
fhgurl32
wrote:
I have been with my
boyfriend for about a year a year now (He
was the first person I ever had sex with).
Everytime we have sex I get nothig out of
it. I HAVE NEVER HAD AN ORGASIM, BUT I
CANT TELL HIM THAT OR IT WILL BREAK HIS
HEART. I love him with all of my heart and
soul but im not sexually satisfied. I had
a fling with some other guy just to see if
it was him... i still didnt orgasim. I am
stuck between a rock and a hard place.
HELP!!
Have you ever had a clitoral orgasm by
yourself, masturbating?
I have never had a vaginal orgasm. I have
had more clitoral ones that I can count,
but never vaginal. Many women assume the
vaginal orgasm is the only real one, but
it's not. I clitorally orgasm during sex
with stimulation and that's fine!
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kellsfire
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Mar 2007 Posts: 2
Never Had An Orgasim! Posted: 03-06-07 05:13am
I am 20 years old and have never had or
been close to having an orgasim! I truly
think there is something wrong with me. I
have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2
years and never had an orgasim- he is my
first and only sexual partner. I have
recently been trying to masturbate to
reach an orgasim but that doesn't work
either- I don't even really feel much of a
sensation! I have been completely honest
with my boyfriend about this situation and
its really beginning to get me down which
is resulting in me not really wanting sex.
I just don't know what to do!
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Tylanas
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Re: Never Had An Orgasim! Posted: 03-06-07 12:43pm
kellsfire
wrote:
I am 20 years old and have
never had or been close to having an
orgasim! I truly think there is something
wrong with me. I have been with my
boyfriend for nearly 2 years and never had
an orgasim- he is my first and only sexual
partner. I have recently been trying to
masturbate to reach an orgasim but that
doesn't work either- I don't even really
feel much of a sensation! I have been
completely honest with my boyfriend about
this situation and its really beginning to
get me down which is resulting in me not
really wanting sex. I just don't know what
to do!
What you need to do first is to get in the
mindset of not worrying aout reaching
orgasm; and then go take a nice
relaxing bath and simply explore yourself.
Don't worry about making it feel good,
just see what happens when you do
different things. Feel yourself, don't try
to masturbate. Try rotating your hand,
placing your fingers in different places,
etc. If you do find something that feels
good, then go at it; but don't make it the
primary focus of the bath time. YOu need
to know what you feel like long before
you're ever going to be able to orgasm.
Most young girls happen upon it by
accident; and so you need to recreate
that.
It might take more than one session. You
might find a place that feels really good,
but not yet orgasm. That's okay. Keep at
it, come back to that spot each time and
try different things. One thing to keep in
mind is that none of this requires
penetration! I know I sometimes have a
desire to be penetrated when masturbating,
but only once I get going.
ANother thing that may help you greatly is
a vibrator. Get a waterproofed one so you
can take it in the bath with you. I
suggest the lower, gentler settings. They
tend to be more pleasant. This doesn't
have to be a dildo; again, we're not going
for penetration here, we're going for
clitoral exploration.
On that subject, there are two kinds of
orgasm! I think I already mentioned that.
Clitoral orgasm is almost always easier to
achieve, that's why I'm detailing it.
