wow,thats so cute! my topic got moved yet its not the only one *off* topic! I wonder who did that. . .

if I wanted to ask the people in the relationship forum,I would have posted it there

Girl, what's your topic doing way over here? Is this because you spoke up about an abortion post in the pregnancy forum? That's very childish if you ask me. Everything is always off topic over there. But it was completely wrong to post something as disgusting as that abortion thread on a forum full of pregnant, emotional women.

Anywho, I'm sorry I'm not of more help....I haven't been in that situation. My thoughts have always been once a cheater, always a cheater. But I'm not so sure I believe that anymore. Everyone is different, and I think people can change. I know people can change. PM me if you need to talk girl!

haha,I know right.maybe I can chage it to make it more pregnancy related.

It's ok mandi,i'll pm you though!

I don't believe that a person who cheats once is always a cheater. I don't believe that because I used to cheat on ex boyfriends..but I've been with my husband now for 2 1/2 years and would never even think about cheating on him.

On the other hand, I don't think a person who loves you would cheat on you.

sam,did you cheat on a guy and stayed with him and never cheated on him again?

Can't say that I have. Honestly the reason is because I never loved any of my ex boyfriends. I think when you truly love someone, you would never want to cheat on that person. If you have a boyfriend who is cheating, you should leave him. I honestly doubt he really loves you.

well i know a great and amazing person (wont say names because its not my business to put out there) but she did it and was going through a rough time and now things have totally turned around for her, they've been together for 2 years and she's the reason that i don't believe that saying, but honestly it's all about the person and if they're actually willing to change.

she got cheated on or he cheated on her?

she cheated. but then i guess she wanted to make a change and theyre doing great now! it's just all about the person and whether they're willing to change or not.

terra, .i'm that person, aren't i?

.melissa, i have cheated on my boyfriend. i didn't sleep with anyone else while i was with him, but i did other things. after i did, i broke up with him. i knew it was wrong & i regret it whole-heartedly. while we were apart, i spent a lot of time bettering myself & fixing what it was that was making me so immature & wreckless. we got back together & i would never ever even dream about doing anything like that ever again. like .terra said, he & i are doing amazing & yes, he knows that i cheated. yes, it hurt him, & yes, he forgave me & we're doing better than ever. & .i'm 38wks pregnant with his son!

someone who cheats is not always a cheater. it's incredibly possible to change. you just have to want to badly enough. you have to want to change *for* that person. i wanted nothing more than to be the girlfriend that he deserves. & .it took a while, but i turned around completely & became that girlfriend. i .love him with everything i am & it makes me sick to think that i did what i did to him. i would, & will never, do it again.

Did you love him when you cheated? I am so glad everything worked out for you guys!!

Honestly, I think girls are a lot more likely to change then guys.. Maybe it's just me though.

i did love him when i cheated. thats why i hate myself so much for it. i just got caught up in the vanity of someone else, & honestly, i was just super terrified of my relationship with .chris.. it was one of those stupid phases i went through where i decided i wasn't ready to settle down & since i knew i loved .chris & since .i'd known since the beginning i wanted to be with him, i thought the only way to change it was being stupid. whenever i think about it, it seriously makes me feel sick.

& i agree with you 100%! girls are definitely more likely to change.

how did he deal with it? how did he come to trust you again?

heh, sorry krissy lol but yeahhhhh, i just thought you were a good example i love you and i'm proud of you

one of the most hardest thing in life is to be cheated with someone u love, it turns life up side-down really..

u know im always sayin that when u realize something at first is the biggest shock and pain then it starts 2 retreat gardually like the addiction symptoms..

so try to hang on and stand still, and dont think of him at all, keep telling urslef that u r much stronger than this and try 2 play fighter song by Christina aguelira :0) u made me feel much stronger, u made my skin a lil bet thicker, u made so much wiser , thanx 4 makin me fighter ..

The ole saying once a cheater always a cheater really does depend on the person. Some people make horrible mistakes and feel so bad about it they never do it again. I feel a person should never cheat. But some cheat because things at home are just not good. I am not saying it is an excuse because it isn't. But when things are bad at home and someone comes around and makes it look greener on the other side. Well, human nature kicks in. After the person cheats, some realizes how much they really loved their spouse and they work hard at getting back what they once had. The marriage can even be better than it was before. Both need to want to work on having a loving and caring relationship. or it won't work. And the cheater MUST have remorse and work hard at healing the spouses broken heart. But once a cheater always a cheater! Not always true.

thank you!

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All of you girls talking about love- love- love, this is a word of yesteryear! It is hard to find true love in the days that we live! Love is as scare as a teenage virgin! Love is a five letters word, spell: M-O-N-E-Y