Biological Mom - feelings about adoption Posted: 03-03-07 20:48pm
A few years ago I had to put my daughter
up for adoption due to my lack of
parenting abilities and my lack of income.
I know where she is but I am not supposed
to know. Her new mom is a wonderful mom
and woman, She sends me emails and photos
online but somehow my heart needs more.
What can I do? I know she is in a loving
enviroment and that she is well cared for
and I would never try to mess up the
contact I do have with them now. So how do
I fill this void with out putting one in
between them and me?
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
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Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 214 Location: Australia
Posted: 03-03-07 20:54pm
Could you maybe talk to this mother and
ask if you could have either supervised or
unsupervised visits maybe once a week or
fortnight?? What is in the contract e.g
you are to have no contact?? etc
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worried wife
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Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 8 Location: texas
Posted: 03-03-07 21:00pm
I am not really sure what that means but
it was done by CPS in texas. closed
adoption. They let me see her a few years
ago but now when I ask to see her as ms.
rhonda they just tell me that they are not
ready to tell her who I am or who my son
is(her little brother). This kills me
everyday. I found them only about a few
miles from me. I drove by there but I
know if I go any further than that I will
lose her completely.
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worried wife
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Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 8 Location: texas
Posted: 03-03-07 21:30pm
I know that I am like the odd ball in here
but I just wanted to say thank you to some
of you who are so dedicated to adoption.
If it wasnt for the ones I picked I dont
know what I would have done.
I hope that no one takes this the wrong
way but one thing to remember when you
make your adoption books to be looked at
my potential bio-moms, just be yourselves
and dont try to sell your selves because
people can feel when you are trying to say
all the right things and not what come
from your heart.
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
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Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 214 Location: Australia
Posted: 03-03-07 22:06pm
Awww it must be so hard for you to deal
with knowing your daughter is only a few
miles away but you cant see her. Im
guessing that closed adoption means that
you give her over and thats it, you go and
live happily ever after?!?! How old would
your daughter be now?? if she is young
they could introduce you as a friend of
her adoptive mother??
I really wish i had the answers to give
you!! I wish you the very best in trying
to see your daughter!
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worried wife
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Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 8 Location: texas
Destiny Posted: 03-08-07 09:27am
Her adopted mom sends me photos and emails
about my destiny but somehow it is not the
same. They say they will tell her when
they think that she is old enough to
understand. I know that she is okay and
that she is loved so it is not like I know
nothing about her but I still would like
to see her. I wonder if I have any rights
at all?
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 04-11-07 13:24pm
i dont think you would, im pretty sure
when its a closed adoption you loose all
rights to your child
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worried wife
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Destiny Posted: 04-11-07 17:06pm
Oh My Goodness. I just came from a visit
with my daughter. Her mom called me last
nite and said they have started to show
her pics of me and her brother and that
they are telling her about me. God Bless
them. Thank you all for your support and
for your huge hearts. I guess I have
learned first hand that God does answer
prayers.
