Relationships and Marriage Forum - Bizzare Sexual Thoughts

okay so, me and my boyfriend are very sexual. we're into just about everything and i consider us to be very sexually compatible, amongst other things. last night, we were having phone sex.. and caught up in the moment, he began expressing his feelings about having sex with a close friend of mine and began pressing me about having sex with other men. in the moment, it was all in good fun.. but, afterwards there were some negative feelings on both ends.. and he got really enraged about it. fyi: this friend of mine that he was talking about, he's never personally met. she is a female friend that i had a few sexual encounters with so, i could see how she might play into some type of fantasy but, i still feel that it was over the top and borderline disrespectful. in the end, he said that it was '' all for phone sex ''.. and it wasn't how he really felt but, how could you get off to an idea that you have no interest in? obviously the interest is there. in his defense, i also expressed my desire for a threesome with another man, but i did not get personal and include any name, especially not his friends names. i ended up breaking it off with him and he is begging me back. i'm still very bitter about the situation and i just can't get past it. should i try to let it go and work it out? or did he cross the line?

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flipper

replied on March 3rd, 2007

Experienced User

I think that it probably was "all for phone sex." I get the same way- do and say weird things when I get caught in the moment, and then later I'll go, what the hell was I thinking? Point is, I wasn't.

I think the thought of doing something, as great as it sounds, is usually a lot better than the actual doing. For some people that's not true, but for me it is, cause yeah, you get stuck with the afterthoughts.

I think it's cool that he'll get down and dirty with you like that over the phone, some guys just wouldn't. Him talking about your friend that he's never met sounds harmless actually. It was probably just the first person he could think of. (And also- awesome that he didn't freak out over your threesome idea. Some guys would just be sooo turned off by that.)

Honestly? I don't think he crossed a line. He could have just as easily been talking about Angelina Jolie- another woman that he's never met. If you like him, and miss him, I'd definitely show him a little mercy.

Makoto

replied on March 4th, 2007

Experienced User

You were just as bad as your BF. It does not matter if you mentioned names or not. What is in a name, what is the other person anyways?? They are just meat who they are or who it is gonna be does not matter one bit.

You guys have crossed a line now. You have to think about if having a relationship with a person who wants a threesome and knows that you want a threesome is worth the time.

If I were to ever do a threesome I would not have including some one I really care about. Relationships that sometimes include a third member sledom work or go the distance.

So, I suggest if your BF is just for now, until a better guy comes along, then take him back and have fun. Chances are you two guys having much of a future are slim to none. So in the meantime he could be some one that can be lots of fun. He could give you things to remember and you could do the same for him.

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