im 15 and last year when i had sex for the first time all my friends before hand said that i should masturbate a couple of hours before i had sex so i wouldnt ejaculate as quickly whilst having sex.I did and when i had sex i couldnt ejaculate and after over 10 minutes i gave up and just said i did.
I thought this problem might have been because id masturbated before hand so the next time i had sex i didnt masturbate before hand but again i could ejaculate and i had sex 3 more times after that with the same girl and still didnt ejaculate.
Ive heard that this usually happens when your stressed but i didnt feel stressed and i have no problem ejaculating when i masturbate.
So does any no what the problem might have been?
It sounds like your problem is psyhcological. First you don't need to masturbate before sex. Are you trying to impress her? So I'm willing to bet that while your having sex all you could think about is the fact that you didn't masturbate that time. Just relax and enjoy the moments that you are having with your girl. I hope that you are also using protection?
I masturbated before the first time because my friends said that there first times were over too soon. And i did want to impress her because i didnt want her to think i was bad at sex. I think another reason could be because when we had sex it was at her house when her parents were out and i might have been worried they would come home whilst i was there.And yes i use protection everytime.
I'm glad to hear that your adult enough to use protection. As for advice for your problem; just relax and enjoy it. Stress can always play a negative role in having an orgasm. If your able to have an orgasm during masturbation and not during intercourse then it sounds like your stressed about something. Try to eliminate that stress and see what happens.