Hellllpppppppp Pls. Im Going Crazy In This Relationship Posted: 02-20-07 13:06pm
Ive been with my boyfriend for many yrs.
He cheated on me repeatadly. In the past I
suspected that he cheats but never had
proof. Now i got so much proof. He
denies everything. He always turns the
table around to fkip it on me and acuses
me of cheating but Im not. When he does it
it makes me feel guilty but guilty of
WHAT??? It seems that I know so much and
he hurted me so much but I cant let go. I
think Im obssesed. I'm spying on him,
snooping around and searching thru his
stuff. He hides his phone, bills anything
he can he hides from me. He says I invate
his privacy. I caught him with a girl.
Didnt speak to him for a week and then I
run back to him. I cant live like this
anymore. Its so depressing.It husrt a lot
because Ive been so good to this man and I
just wanted him to love me.I take care of
him and his son. He cliams that he loves
me but if he did he would never cheat. Im
going crazy. Someone pls. help me.
Mo
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 02-22-07 22:33pm
Well, if you can't keep living this way
(and I certainly understand why you
wouldn't be able to), then it sounds like
you have two options.
Possible Option A: Leave. I know that is
much easier said than done. If you are
having trouble leaving and really think
you have an issue with obsession,
counseling might help to find out why you
are having trouble leaving and give you
the courage and confidence to finally do
so.
Possible Option B: Stay. If you really
want to stay and try to make it work, you
could try couples counseling. Perhaps you
could get to the root of the issue, find
out why he cheats (if he does), maybe
spice up your love life, and work on the
trust and honesty issues.
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atx1975
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Austin,Tx to San Diego, Ca
Posted: 02-23-07 18:32pm
Well you cant make him love you no matter
how good you are to him. True love is more
than just feelings, its about respect,
common beliefs and compromise. Its seems
you are the only that is compromising.
Dont stay because the challenge to make
him love you is there. Like a saying I
once heard "True love cannot be found
where it truly does not exist,
Nor can it be hidden where it truly does."
Basically if he truly loved you, you would
of had it a long time ago.
