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akirax03

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Im Ugly And Have Lost All Confidence
Posted: 02-18-07 13:54pm

Im 16 and in my final year of school , ive recently became aware of the fact that I am a very ugly person , I have misshapen ears and a very big nose and very pale skin , I have grear difficulty getting girl friends and I now get bullied from time to time about my appearance , but it has only started recently over the past few months , I am feeling very insecure and terrified , I always used to think I atleast looked normal but now I know that this is far from the truth , im scared for my future and of now , this makes me think that I am inferior to normal people and that they are all better then me because of their looks I need help finding happiness again some one sugest some thing Sad
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san54

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Ugly In Appearance
Posted: 02-18-07 14:18pm

You are not ugly. Ignore the bullying. You are better than that. Beauty or handsomeness is only skin deep. It is trully what is inside that counts. What kind of person you are, what your goals are, that is what should count. Don't believe what people tell you. You are a normal teenager, with normal feelings and aspirations. There is someone out there just for you, don't give up, you are still young yet. Have you talked to your parents or a counselor at school. Teenagers can be very cruel to one another. You are the way you are, and they are the way they are and you should just tell them to get over it and just grow up. Take care and remember you are just like everyone else, you just look a little different. Wink
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akirax03

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Posted: 02-18-07 14:42pm

I have talked to my parents a few times which has been hard since I usually dont talk to my parents about my problems , and I saw the school counciler . Both my parents and the counsiler say im fine but my parents see me the way they want to so they can be proud of their son and the counciler says all that just because its her job to make me cheer up. I used to look in the mirror and see myself as pretty much normal , but now all I can see is some sort of freak , and I keep taking photos of my self just to see if it will look better , I know it wont Sad its just theres nothing I can do.
Also I know that what the children do is simply because they are childish and need to grow up but the thing is they are making comments about things that are real and really are strange , the only differance between kids and adults is that adults are mature enough to know usually not to say anything , I have to go back for my final term of school tomorow since ive been on half term and im dreading it I feel so weak and my wil is gone I cant take any more of it , I hear people call me freak , say I look like a rat , big nose , elf (for my ears) and some times which is the most hurtful some times people just plain laugh at my face.
It makes me want to cry right there and then but I know that crying at school is out of the question since that provokes more bullying , I dont know what to do since this also means girls have no interest in me and I feel so dam inadiquate SadSadSad
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v00d00cita

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Posted: 02-18-07 17:02pm

Look, beauty is not everything. Really. Not when beauty is equal to those stereotypes we see everyday.
So, you must have more confidence in you, ok? Smile
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akirax03

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Posted: 02-18-07 17:06pm

I want to have more confidence , but now every time I cheer myself up im brought back down again wen I confront a mirror , I know its pathetic to be so worried about looks since I know looks arent every thing but I get a stomach ache every time im forced to see my face im just conformist I geuss , I wanna look like every body else Sad
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akirax03

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Posted: 02-19-07 16:29pm

lol look at me being all silly , sorry for being a bother and wasting space on ur forum i know that every one has their own problems it isnt right for me to inflict mine on you sorry Sad
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v00d00cita

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Posted: 02-20-07 05:20am

Hey, you're not bothering anyone! If you were, there would be a lot more like you here, lol Wink But that's not the case, anyway!
Look outside and take a deep breath. It always helps!
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akirax03

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Posted: 02-20-07 15:57pm

i do lots of things to temporarly make me feel better but i am followed by my reflection and can not escape it im forced to see it arent i and i am angry and miserable at the same time because the way i see it why is it fair for me out of every one in my school to look as strange as i do Sad i feel suicidal atm
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matt182

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Joined: 07 Feb 2007
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Posted: 02-20-07 18:49pm

Everyones different in the world, your the only one in this world and thats pretty special itself. everyone has their own special qualities, you just have to find them and embrace them, and then you find happiness and confidence in your self. I remeber seeing that american idol winner on dr phil, he use to be bullied when he was younger for the way he looked, he never took notice of them and instead embraced what he was good at..singing, and look at him now!
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