Im Ugly And Have Lost All Confidence Posted: 02-18-07 13:54pm
Im 16 and in my final year of school , ive
recently became aware of the fact that I
am a very ugly person , I have misshapen
ears and a very big nose and very pale
skin , I have grear difficulty getting
girl friends and I now get bullied from
time to time about my appearance , but it
has only started recently over the past
few months , I am feeling very insecure
and terrified , I always used to think I
atleast looked normal but now I know that
this is far from the truth , im scared for
my future and of now , this makes me think
that I am inferior to normal people and
that they are all better then me because
of their looks I need help finding
happiness again some one sugest some thing
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san54
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2003 Posts: 227 Location: Virginia
Ugly In Appearance Posted: 02-18-07 14:18pm
You are not ugly. Ignore the bullying.
You are better than that. Beauty or
handsomeness is only skin deep. It is
trully what is inside that counts. What
kind of person you are, what your goals
are, that is what should count. Don't
believe what people tell you. You are a
normal teenager, with normal feelings and
aspirations. There is someone out there
just for you, don't give up, you are still
young yet. Have you talked to your
parents or a counselor at school.
Teenagers can be very cruel to one
another. You are the way you are, and
they are the way they are and you should
just tell them to get over it and just
grow up. Take care and remember you are
just like everyone else, you just look a
little different.
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akirax03
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2007 Posts: 5 Location: england
Posted: 02-18-07 14:42pm
I have talked to my parents a few times
which has been hard since I usually dont
talk to my parents about my problems , and
I saw the school counciler . Both my
parents and the counsiler say im fine but
my parents see me the way they want to so
they can be proud of their son and the
counciler says all that just because its
her job to make me cheer up. I used to
look in the mirror and see myself as
pretty much normal , but now all I can see
is some sort of freak , and I keep taking
photos of my self just to see if it will
look better , I know it wont its just theres
nothing I can do.
Also I know that what the children do is
simply because they are childish and need
to grow up but the thing is they are
making comments about things that are real
and really are strange , the only
differance between kids and adults is that
adults are mature enough to know usually
not to say anything , I have to go back
for my final term of school tomorow since
ive been on half term and im dreading it I
feel so weak and my wil is gone I cant
take any more of it , I hear people call
me freak , say I look like a rat , big
nose , elf (for my ears) and some times
which is the most hurtful some times
people just plain laugh at my face.
It makes me want to cry right there and
then but I know that crying at school is
out of the question since that provokes
more bullying , I dont know what to do
since this also means girls have no
interest in me and I feel so dam
inadiquate
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v00d00cita
Advanced Support Team
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Posted: 02-18-07 17:02pm
Look, beauty is not everything. Really.
Not when beauty is equal to those
stereotypes we see everyday.
So, you must have more confidence in you,
ok?
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akirax03
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2007 Posts: 5 Location: england
Posted: 02-18-07 17:06pm
I want to have more confidence , but now
every time I cheer myself up im brought
back down again wen I confront a mirror ,
I know its pathetic to be so worried about
looks since I know looks arent every thing
but I get a stomach ache every time im
forced to see my face im just conformist I
geuss , I wanna look like every body else
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akirax03
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2007 Posts: 5 Location: england
Posted: 02-19-07 16:29pm
lol look at me being all silly , sorry for
being a bother and wasting space on ur
forum i know that every one has their own
problems it isnt right for me to inflict
mine on you sorry
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v00d00cita
Advanced Support Team
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Posted: 02-20-07 05:20am
Hey, you're not bothering anyone! If you
were, there would be a lot more like you
here, lol But that's not the
case, anyway!
Look outside and take a deep breath. It
always helps!
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akirax03
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2007 Posts: 5 Location: england
Posted: 02-20-07 15:57pm
i do lots of things to temporarly make me
feel better but i am followed by my
reflection and can not escape it im forced
to see it arent i and i am angry and
miserable at the same time because the way
i see it why is it fair for me out of
every one in my school to look as strange
as i do i feel suicidal atm
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matt182
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Feb 2007 Posts: 93 Location: Australia
Posted: 02-20-07 18:49pm
Everyones different in the world, your the
only one in this world and thats pretty
special itself. everyone has their own
special qualities, you just have to find
them and embrace them, and then you find
happiness and confidence in your self. I
remeber seeing that american idol winner
on dr phil, he use to be bullied when he
was younger for the way he looked, he
never took notice of them and instead
embraced what he was good at..singing, and
look at him now!