Special occasions usually mean alcohol, try complete abstinence from alcohol some men are very sensitive to drink , make sure you have a healthy diet plenty of vit e in your food also a modest zinc supplement might be helpful. Don't worry talk to your girlfriend about your problem.

No we didn't drink anything...And I have talked to her about it and she is amazingly understanding but I mean theres only so much a girl can take right? Maybe I should try taking some supplements and such...Thanks for the advice I hope it works..

Just another thought try telling your lady that you are not going to have intercourse, instead you wish to give her a wonderful oil body massage get the setting just right warmth, perfumed oil, flowers, candles, ( not to close to the bed) sweet music , she will feel so relaxed she won't miss the sex but you will have shown your love in a selfless way. With luv.

Sorry for the late reply. Just going through these.

Look at it this way. I've had serious performance anxiety, to the point where the girl and I just don't have sex. You guys do have sex, but on big occasions you get worried about it? It could be a LOT worse.

The girl seems to dig you. You aren't a porn star. Do what you can and have fun. I agree with Mrs. Happy. Get a book on sensual massage, (look for "Art of Sensual Massage") and one on oral sex (suggest "She Comes First"). Practice. Not only will you be giving her a lot of physical pleasure, she'll appreciate your efforts. At the root, that's what a relationship is. Hanging out and doing stuff for each other. Plus, if you feel like she's having a good experience, regardless of if you're having actual sex each time, you'll reduce your worry. Then you'll be able to have sex, but hey, it'll be optional.