Had Sex For the First Time...

Chances are your bleeding had nothing to do with your hymen unless you are under the age of twelve or have an unusually thick and stretchy one. Most girls break their hymen before puberty. Hymens are so fragile that fingers, tampons, and ever running and jumping break them.

You should go to the ob-gyn regardless of whether you experience pain or bleeding the next time you have sex. Women are supposed to see an ob-gyn as soon as they become sexually active, if not before.

The number one cause of pain during sex is lack of lubrication, so you might want to buy some if you are not making enough of your own.

As for when you can expect the pain to go away, well everyone is different, so an accurate estimate would be very difficult to give.

That's fairly accurate. My hymen was nothing but a thin string of skin, and it didn't break until months later. Beforehand, sex was not painful at all unless he got "caught" on that skin. It eventually broke in the shower, and I bled quite a bit too!

I also get sore after sex, but it's a good kind of feeling

Mine wasn't as painful as what my friends described it as. IT was more of a stretching pressure that I felt and I didn't bleed...

Yeah, I think just everyone is different. My first time was very painful, and I bled a little. Me being on top after that helped so much.

My best friend though felt no pain at all, and didn't bleed.

^ Same here. No pain, no blood.

^same

I wasn't even sore the next day.

I actually miss sex. haha.

i bleed a lot the first two times so i guess my hymen was thick as well. Then it was all good. You are totally normal

I dont think the comment about the hymen being broken before the age of 12 is accurate. I was a very active (sport wise) when I was younger, horseback riding, cheerleading, etc. And my hymen didn't break until I was about 14. I believe you are completely normal. Give it a few more times and if it continues then see a doc. You should however as a previous reply has stated, see a gyno regardless. As soon as you become sexually active you should.

when i had sex for the first time it hurt like hell too and i bled.

Well they say active sports and especially horseback riding tend to break them believe it or not hahaa!

^ Exactly. Years ago people used to think that if you had an intact hymen, you were a virgin. If you had a torn hymen, you weren't. However, now we now that hymens are in no way related to sex. Most girls tear theirs long before sex, but some women have such tough ones that it does not tear even during sex! Some women are also born without one. So there just isn't any relation at all between hymens and sex.

I know for me, I had sex for the first time when I was 16. Before that, I had four years worth of tampons, masturbation and being tomboy. Let me tell you though, when I had sex for the first time, I KNOW my hymen broke. It hurt before he even put it in, like when he bumped up next to it? (I'm not really sure how to explain that, lol.) Him sliding inside of me took my breath away, because it was the most bizarre feeling of "that doesn't belong there." And then, weirdly, I went completely numb and couldn't feel anything anymore. Like maybe my pain sensors turned off or something. We had sex a second time about an hour later, and it hurt again until we changed positions and I got on top. That actually didn't hurt, I guess because I was the one controlling the angle of insertion.

I would actually advise the original poster to try that, if it hurts too much with him on top. As far as the tenderness thing goes, I remember being sore too for the next couple of days. It goes away on its own (at least it did for me).