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Hello,

me and my girlfriend are having some trouble with getting her a vaginal orgasm

she just doesn't feel antyhing she says

or sometimes she does feel a little "i gotta pee" thing, but it never leads to anything

she hardly ever masturbates, I told her she had to try and look for that feeling/g-spot thing, but I can't force her to so so if she doesn't feel the need

but it's just that, when we have sex, I want her to feel good you know
i know she enjoys it, even tho she's doesn't get to an orgasm, but sometimes I feel like i'm beeing a bit selfish and I wanna give her the same great feeling I get at the same time

clitoral orgasm works fine, so I always go for that, but it's always before we have sex or afterwards, would be great it was during sex

sometimes i'm like "let's find that spot!" and then we try some positions but it never works and then it kinda ruins the mood :p

sooooooo

any tips? Positions? Thanks!
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replied February 15th, 2007
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You can easily stimulate the clitoris during vaginal sex by just making a sort of rubbing motion and stimulating it with the area above your penis.

G-spots and vaginal orgasms aren't proven. They are only theories at this point. Many people believe, and many don't. There are many studies where researchers say, "it looks like they are real," and many studies where other researchers say, "it looks like they are not real." few women claim to have vaginal orgasms. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation.
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replied July 18th, 2011
I was about to post the same question. My girlfriend is able to have an orgasim orally and with masturbation but says shes never been able to have one during intercourse. Shes 49 and upset that this has never happened and feels there is something wrong with her. I told her there is nothing wrong with her and suggested some clitorial stim during intercourse could help and its all a learned behavior. Any suggestions? reading? techniques? positions?
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replied December 6th, 2011
How to archeive Orgasm my way.
In order for me to get off I have to get on top of him,and at the same time if he suck my nipples that help me cum faster.I don't
care what any body said its REAL for me" The feeling is out of this World!but, I don't have any discharge like men do just feeling.
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replied February 16th, 2007
There is such thing as a g spot. If she sticks her finger inside her, and kinda curls it a little and presses, she'll feel like she has to pee. That's the g spot. I recommend her to get on top..The stimulation from the pelvic bone will help her to orgasm during sex. That's the only way I do.
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replied February 16th, 2007
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You can stimulater her clitorally to te point of orgasm during sex, it just takes a little bit of dexterity - or she can do it herself.

As far as the vaginal orgasm... It is very possible for many women, however some cannot. Still, before signing off on the "she can't do it" card, there are things you can try.

You said she feels like she has to pee? Good! That means you're hitting the right spot. You just have to keep it up. Make sure she knows that this sensation is perfectly normal, and that she needs to relaxy down there, instead of tighten up - I know I get too tense to vaginally orgasm!

Maybe put down a towel or two, so she won't be as frightened, since from her point of view it may feell like she's going to pee everywhere!
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replied February 17th, 2007
Alright, thanks all, i'll see what we can do Wink

but most of the times, we just do a little foreplay first

but what should I do then? I sometimes give her a clitorical orgasm already, but then I dunno if that's the right thing to do, cuz then when we have sex, she probably doens't enjoy is at much cuz she already "got it"

hehe, weird to explain

should I like, turn her on a little, maybe some oral action and then try to stimulate her g-spot (if I can find it) from the inside with a finger

and then have sex?

I dunno what works best..
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replied April 20th, 2011
G-spot
Ah, yes my friend the G-spot Smile its the most commen thing men can't find. I have practice and read on this so that now i can find it every time without trying all you have to do is this.
1)make sure your 2 nails(or however many fingers you use) are smooth so it doesn't irritate the g-spot
2)put ur finger(s) in about 2 inches facing upwards
3) do the "come here" motion with your fingers you should feel a sort of rugged feeling that is a different feeling then the rest of the vagina and that there is her/your g-spot Smile

Also when you or she feels like she is about to "pee" or you want to make sure she is not faking it just move your fingers back about an 1/2 inch to an inch and you should feel it start to sort of balloon up i guess you could say and then just carefuly press on it and almost flaten it out and she will cum Smile hope this helps!
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replied November 15th, 2011
Honestly Breve you are thinking way too hard about the situation at hand. Women that can cum vaginally are rare. It just isnt something that all women can due. Try having her stimulate her clit while you are pumping and she will eventually reach her climax. Another thing that is rare but can be achieved is for your women to have multiple orgasms. you simply repeat the process that i just explained. if you can beat my record i would love to hear about. My record is giving my gf 6 orgasms in one 45 minute- 1 hour session. with her playing with her clit each time of course. good luck!!
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replied November 15th, 2011
Honestly Breve you are thinking way too hard about the situation at hand. Women that can cum vaginally are rare. It just isnt something that all women can due. Try having her stimulate her clit while you are pumping and she will eventually reach her climax. Another thing that is rare but can be achieved is for your women to have multiple orgasms. you simply repeat the process that i just explained. if you can beat my record i would love to hear about. My record is giving my gf 6 orgasms in one 45 minute- 1 hour session. with her playing with her clit each time of course. good luck!!
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replied September 11th, 2013
She's pleasuring herself. You didn't give her 6 orgasms in an hour, she gave them herself. Don't be so proud
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replied February 17th, 2007
Ok this is comin from my personal experience...I persoanlly love foreplay before sex wether it be by fingers or my vibrator I usually always use my vibrator before sex and sometimes during....I too have finally experienced a g-spot orgasim many times now and the easiest way we have found that I produced one at first was with a dildo, goin in and out almost at an upward angle toward the g-spot area and not too deep tho the g-spot is not that far in...Now I am able to produce one with my husband as well inside me both him on top and myself on top as well....I recomend experimenting if the two of you are comfortable with each other I would try it out....You can do a search on g-spot and it will give you some info almost a walkthrough on maybe gettin there and how to go about it.....Or even buy a penis ring with a vibrator on it so while you are having sex she will have clitoral stimulation as well........I persoanlly dont think there is nothing wrong with makin a girl cum before sex I think it makes the joy of sex much better!!! But I do think you need to tell her to experiment with her self as well its hard for you as a man to know what to do to her if she herself really does not know what she likes!!!! Good luck
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replied February 12th, 2010
problems with vaginal sex
hey... actually im here to find out whats wrong with me : ))... well i can get clitoral orgasm about 10 times during one act, but cant get vaginal orgasm at all, but even reaching clitoral orgasm is hard for me without deep penetration... my partner cant have fingers on my clitoris everytime we do this, neither can i... what can i do? can you give me a good advice? maybe i dont know my vagina very well or dont know whats wrong....ufff
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replied June 23rd, 2010
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of course there are such things as G-spots, vaginal orgasms and multiple-orgasms (the kind where you shake all over and can't walk for an hour). I've experienced all of them plenty of times, and there is not one time during sex without us experiencing orgasms. The secret is just to make your husband/boyfriend penetrate you deeply and keep his penis as close to your 'front' wall as possible, the G-spot is assumed to be near your front wall. Both of you have to be really wet, so don't skip arousals and romantic turn-ons! I recommend gentle cullingus and even oral breast-stimulation (on the nipple, it's AWWESOME) before 'soft' sex, and finally deep, breath-taking penetration. You have to try to 'massage' her front wall and clit with your penis first, before hard fast sex. My favorite positions are cowgirl (grrrr!), missionary with the man standing high or kneeling, the lotus (you can kiss and touch during sex), and cowboy! It's important for your partner or yourself (whoever is on top) to try standing as high (and reach forward) as possible, it's unbelievably orgasm-inducing. And remember to maintain eye contact, kiss and caress your partner, it's called lovemaking after all! Believe me, guys, there's nothing like vaginal orgasms!
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replied March 6th, 2011
hey i got a question, im 16 and i dont know if this is normal or not but i have like a dark ring in the middle of my shaft thats darker then the rest of it, whats up with thst?
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replied August 7th, 2011
thats probably because you are circumsized the top is lighter than teh bottom
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replied August 7th, 2011
thats probably because you are circumsized the top is lighter than teh bottom
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replied March 6th, 2011
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Ryan, Shaft of what? This is the womens forum. I thing you are looking for the men's forum: http://ehealthforum.com/health/penis.html
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replied March 24th, 2011
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You can stimulater her clitorally to te point of orgasm during sex, it just takes a little bit of dexterity - or she can do it herself.


As far as the vaginal orgasm... It is very possible for many women, however some cannot. Still, before signing off on the "she can't do it" card, there are things you can try.


You said she feels like she has to pee? Good! That means you're hitting the right spot. You just have to keep it up. Make sure she knows that this sensation is perfectly normal, and that she needs to relaxy down there, instead of tighten up - I know I get too tense to vaginally orgasm!

Maybe put down a towel or two, so she won't be as frightened, since from her point of view it may feell like she's going to pee everywhere!


So the feeling of needing to pee is normal?
Because to me I'm totally scared I'm gonna pee all over the place so I tighten and it makes sex less fun for me.
It's really annoying!.. And some say to ignore it, but when I did that, a little bit of urine(i think) came out! Not much but still!!
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replied August 21st, 2011
I can only remember one time having an orgasm from intercouse alone. When my partner brings me to orgasm by orally stimulating my clitoris, I usually have an orgasm that is very strong, does not last long, and causes such sensitivity that I cannot have him continue orally.

However, I also feel an extremely strong, desperate need to get him to immediately start intercouse. The orgasms I have during intercouse after oral sex are very, very different from the orgasms I have during oral sex. They are some how warmer, more radiant, longer lasting, evoke greater feelings of love for my partner, and do not cause the intense, almost painful sensitivity caused by oral sex. As a result, I can have multiple orgasms during intercouse after oral sex.

I have always assumed that since the two orgasm felt so different they were caused by the areas that were being stimulated - the clitoris and the vagina. And I guess it really doesn't matter.
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replied September 26th, 2011
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MM44 how do you manage to have these warm, radiant, amazing internal orgasms? Could you please explain in detail? Do you feel the need to pee and is there an ejaculation that occurs or are you talking about something different here?

I have been able to have that "pee" sensation before and have let go and "ejaculated" but it felt about as good as actually releasing pee (meaning it was DEFINITELY not an orgasm or orgasmic feeling. Just a neat little party trick that does nothing for me. I have heard some women don't feel that great with them but I would really love for this "need to pee" sensation to be more then just feeling like I actually just DID pee and that was all. Sad
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replied October 12th, 2011
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i have been looking up on this for a while as i feel really bad my wife can not orgasam during sex i would love to be able to find her g spot im really good with her clit as this is the only way she can cum. so i have set my self a little task as we are going to a ball this friday and im hoping to try this as she will feel a little more relaxed as she dosent like me fingering her so what i have learnd so far.
if u have normal hands (man) second finger nucle in and pull up do the come here motion with your finger but it has to be quite fast and hard(please cut nails and use some sort of moistriser couple of days before hand so your hands are very smooth then use alot of lubracunt as it may take up to 30 mins if any longer please admit defet and try a few days later as you could make her sore. so while using the come here motion u will fell a pea size ball only 2 inches in place you other hand on the mound and push down u could even give oral while doing this please have alot of for play as well before hand when she gets the feeling to pee tell her not to tense up tell her to relax down there and just go for it she will have what u want and what she wants a brilliant orgasam please dont go loopy if it is pee she lets out or u will never get to try it again and u both loose out enjoy the golden shower if this happends please try and then let me know if it works
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replied October 12th, 2011
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i have been looking up on this for a while as i feel really bad my wife can not orgasam during sex i would love to be able to find her g spot im really good with her clit as this is the only way she can cum. so i have set my self a little task as we are going to a ball this friday and im hoping to try this as she will feel a little more relaxed as she dosent like me fingering her so what i have learnd so far.
if u have normal hands (man) second finger nucle in and pull up do the come here motion with your finger but it has to be quite fast and hard(please cut nails and use some sort of moistriser couple of days before hand so your hands are very smooth then use alot of lubracunt as it may take up to 30 mins if any longer please admit defet and try a few days later as you could make her sore. so while using the come here motion u will fell a pea size ball only 2 inches in place you other hand on the mound and push down u could even give oral while doing this please have alot of for play as well before hand when she gets the feeling to pee tell her not to tense up tell her to relax down there and just go for it she will have what u want and what she wants a brilliant orgasam please dont go loopy if it is pee she lets out or u will never get to try it again and u both loose out enjoy the golden shower if this happends please try and then let me know if it works
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replied October 23rd, 2011
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I have the same issue of not being able to orgasm vaginaly...my hubby thinks its his penis size. What can we do?
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replied March 23rd, 2012
I am going to tell you how. First, you must be in love because its more than just having sex. Its definitely on another level of intimacy. I never had a vaginal orgasm until I fell in deep love with my significant other. You have to make love. He can't be trying to imitate those fast banging moves that you see on porno movies. I thought I was enjoying sex until I met him and I found out that I never had an orgasm ever until we made love to each other. The whole time he was going slow and taking time to kiss me and we were holding hands and during all that I was squeezing my vagina muscles while he was going in and out. Suddenly he started moving slower and his penis was reaching the back of my vagina where my cervix begins. I was laying on my back with my legs wide open and I didn't move. I felt pressure in my vagina building up and I never felt that feeling in my life. He knew what was happening because he was hitting the back of my vagina with his penis in me while he was going slower and slower. I begin to holler and moan because that feeling is unbelievably the best orgasm ever! You will not be unable to stand up for a while. Squeeze your vaginal muscles during sex. Open your legs wide as you can so he can hit the back of your vagina as far as he can. While he's hitting that back wall where your cervix is keep it right there. The woman must lay still or if you're on top lay or sit still and let him move only. When you move I think you're throwing your orgasm off because its too much movement going on for the vagina to orgasm. Make him go slow and you are going to have a vaginal orgasm.
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replied August 27th, 2012
My husband hitting the back of my vagina HURTS! I've wondered if he's too thick for me to have a vaginal orgasm.
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replied August 30th, 2012
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Your primary sex organ is your clitoris, not your vagina. But youou already know that from masturbation. So as long as you orgasm during intercourse, you should not feel like you are missing anything.

If you do not orgasm during intercourse, it is not because you are not having a vaginal orgasm, but because like so many women, your clitoris does not get enough stimulation during intercourse. You need to godown a different path to solve that, and yes, you also need to solve the pain issues.

The pain on deep penetration is him hitting your cervix. For some women that is extremely uncomfortable, and it can also be painful for days after. Get him not to go so deep, change positions to shallower positions, get him a penis ring that will stop him from going deep, or close your legs with his outside yours. also remember todo lots and lots of kegel exercises to tone your pelvic muscles and keep everything in its place.
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replied October 26th, 2011
In my experience, and I'm no pro, vaginal orgasms can happen, if your willing to relax and if you hit the right area.

The first time I vaginally orgasmed was last year, which is sad cause I'm 28. The pee feeling came. A secret: Pee BEFORE foreplay so in your mind, you know its not pee even if it feels like you might. In fact, it's kinda hot, but you will see, it's not pee. Also, I get pain with deep penetration so for me, the only angle I can come vaginally is if I ride on top, and kind of grind back and forth on my lover. You'll then feel a gush, or flood. It's totally different than a clitoral orgasm (which I've also learned how to squirt....again, let go of fears) which throws women off.

My lover has told me that I seem wired differently than most women, so this advice may not work, but what will work for a fact is to keep trying!!!!
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replied January 4th, 2012
Well if I have an orgasm just through clitoral stimulation I find that I always need to pee after, is that at all normal?
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replied October 26th, 2011
In my experience, and I'm no pro, vaginal orgasms can happen, if your willing to relax and if you hit the right area.

The first time I vaginally orgasmed was last year, which is sad cause I'm 28. The pee feeling came. A secret: Pee BEFORE foreplay so in your mind, you know its not pee even if it feels like you might. In fact, it's kinda hot, but you will see, it's not pee. Also, I get pain with deep penetration so for me, the only angle I can come vaginally is if I ride on top, and kind of grind back and forth on my lover. You'll then feel a gush, or flood. It's totally different than a clitoral orgasm (which I've also learned how to squirt....again, let go of fears) which throws women off.

My lover has told me that I seem wired differently than most women, so this advice may not work, but what will work for a fact is to keep trying!!!!
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replied October 28th, 2011
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This is a really great article on female orgasms! Don't forget that it's not a "problem" if you can't climax without clitoris stimulation. The majority of women don't have vaginal-only orgasms. It's not weird, so don't feel like you're doing anything wrong with your girlfriend.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationshi ps/facts/orgasmtrouble.htm

Personally, it's a very rare climax where I don't touch clitoris or have my partner rub it. And by rare, I mean I have to be insanely turned on and not have had sex in a month or so (I go on the road for work).

My recommendation is to get some good massage oil (safe for the privates) and give her a sensual massage. Start at the shoulders, work your way down the sides of her body, her tummy, to her feet and then back up to her vulva. Go slowly and make it sexy. This will turn her on and it shows you care for her. Turn her on a lot with slow sensual touch, don't let her cum, and then have intercourse when you are both ready. Again, let the sensation build, don't try to get her off until your into the intercourse. This should strike an orgasm during intercourse or at the very least it will be highly enjoyable for you both!
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