I Cant Orgasm During Sex Only Masturbation Posted: 02-10-04 08:19am
I am 19 years old and have been sexually
active since I was 16, i've had a number
of partners and I have done every single
thing from every book and followed every
advice anyone has given me including sex
toys etc. However I have never been
able to orgasm only by stimulating the
clit.
Although I get horny and turned on I
cannot reach orgasm through sex or
cunnilingis. I currently have a
boyfriend and we have tried everything and
we have no more ideas.
Please help me.
Last edited by PuPPy on 02-17-04 11:31am; edited 1 time in total
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Maria20
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Posted: 02-11-04 16:33pm
Hey.I'm afraid I can't help you, just
wanted to let you know your'e not alone.
I'm 20, and I have the exact same problem!
I have been with a few guys, but nothing
helps. I enjoy the experience, get turned
on and everything, but just can't cum. I
succeed only by myself.
I've heard a lot of women have this
problem. Hoping, like you, to finally
find the solution. Good luck!
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wilsam
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Posted: 02-12-04 05:56am
I can't either I think it's a
psychological thing.A psychosexologist may
help you should ask your doctor about
one.Good luck.
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PuPPy
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Posted: 02-17-04 11:35am
I finally did it! I found a way to orgasm
during sex...I cant believe I figured it
out only a few days after I posted the
question for help.... It was kind of
simple but very hard to make happen..And
yes it was very psychological.
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wilsam
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Posted: 02-17-04 17:34pm
I'm really pleased for you but please tell
me how you did it.I dont want to miss out
any longer.
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2ferano
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Posted: 02-18-04 01:19am
Well I am so happy for you! But it is
true that some women simply cannot. It
is just how they are put together. I for
one, am one of those unlucky women. Well,
not really, I can cum just not from
penetration. But, yeah, let us know how
you did it!
And for those who need some help in this
area, I have heard(although it does not
work for me) to stimulate your clit while
having intercourse. But damnit, make him
do it for you!
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wilsam
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Posted: 02-18-04 05:45am
I am on antidepressants and it takes me
ages to cum and I can only reach orgasm if
I do it myself.I have reassured my hubby
he is still needed of course.I am rubbish
at putting shelves up.
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Maria20
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Share Your Secret, If You Will Posted: 02-18-04 05:53am
Puppy, i'm very happy for you can
you plese tell the rest of us how did you
discover what the problem was, and how did
you solve it? And what do you mean by
saying "it was very psychological?" i'm
very curious...
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exotica23
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Orgasm Posted: 02-26-04 18:36pm
Well I find that if u have oral sex first
its easier to reach orgasm. Makes sure he
turns u on completely b4 he has
intercourse with u. The clit needs to b
very sensitive or like plumped up. What u
should do when ur ready to have sex is
tell him exactly how to move and what to
do while he's having sex wit u. Show him
how to stimulate your clit while hes on
top of u. Hey it works 4 me!!!
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wilsam
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Posted: 02-27-04 05:10am
All my relationships have been ruined by
sexual frustration but my current
boyfriend still excites me after 4 years
it's just when we start having sex I don't
have an orgasm but still get some
pleasure,i hope you can understand
that.It's meant to get better when you hit
your thirties and I am 31 so thats
probably why i'm enjoying it a bit more.
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oopoopoop
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a Big Thank You Posted: 03-19-04 02:35am
One trick I learned many years ago, and I
would like to thank the young man who
suggested it! Is to go ahead and
stimulate yourself while you are having
intercourse. Some men actually find this
quite erotic, others are just happy enough
that you are getting somewhere.
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2ferano
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Posted: 03-22-04 12:27pm
Yeah, that does work, but in my opinion,
and it is just my opinion, is that if I
have to be stimulating myself, then who
needs him!!! I make my man please me and
then I please him. I have had enough of
men who get off and don't worry about me!
I make my man work for it!
can
you plese tell the rest of us how did you
discover what the problem was, and how did
you solve it? And what do you mean by
saying "it was very psychological?" i'm
very curious...