I've been reading a book on sleep and I made a decision today that I want to move ava in crib in her room even though it's on the other side of the house. We decided to co-sleep her first night home after getting up a million times to check on her. It was actually my husband's idea. We've been doing fine. She's been sleeping good except for the last couple of weeks. She's been sleeping all night but she's very active when she sleeps. She kicks, moves her head back and forth and ever since we started swaddling her with one arm out she's been scratching and punching us all while she's sleeping. I read that at 3 months some babies start moving around a lot in their sleep. Well, she's sleeping, but we're not. Buying a bigger bed is an option, but it's expensive, so I want to move her into her own crib so we can all sleep. Well, my husband doesn't want to. He wants her in bed with us b/c he's afraid something happens to her at night and we don't hear on the monitor and can't get to her in time. He's very paranoid about this. So, we decided on a co-sleeper that attaches to the bed. Anyone use this? How is it working for you? It's about 100 bucks so I want to be sure before buying one. Thanks!
I don't know about the co-sleeper but I do think it's true they start moving more in their sleep around now. I'll put finn down for his nap the long way in his crib and by the time he wakes up he's side ways.
I think it's great that jesse wants her in your room still (especially since nick evicted finn before I was ready), but when will he feel comfortable with her in her own room? It just seems (to me) that it will be harder to transition her to her own room the older she is.
Ok first let me say, as long as she wants will be until she is 20. Lol that is a joke but as many people that I know that 'co-sleep' if they don't get their children out of the bed by a cetain time co-sleeping will be forever. Amelia slept in my bed sometimes in the beginning because I was breast feeding her and it was just easier. When she got ill I kept her in my bed because I was so worried about her breating I was worried that she would stop....I put amelia's pack-n-play in my room and she started out crying for a little while, like 10 mins with me going in and consoling her and putting her soothie in her mouth. Then by the end of the week she was sleeping like a champ in there. I am going ot make the move that I am going to put her in her crib, by the end of next week. I hope that she takes the transition well. I am sure she will do just fine.
Edited to add:
i have a cali king (one of the biggest beds out there.)and it's just me and her in the bed and she still kicks me and scratches me and turns all around in the bed. It's crazy....I dont' think that getting a bigger bed is the answer...It won't help. Lol
I have the co-sleeper but I got the standard instead of the mini and it's the size of a play yard and makes it very challenging to pick baby up in such an awkward position since I can't flip my legs over the bed to sit up b/c the darn thing is in the way. I imagine the mini would eliminate this issue.
By the way, if it were true that co-sleeping created permanent sleeping dysfunction wouldn't there be more adults who cannot sleep in a room by themselves? It seems to me that whatever the sleeping arrangements when young, we all manage to sleep just fine later in life since I don't know a single adult who wants or needs to sleep in his/her parent's bedroom. Just my two-cents, though.
it will be harder to transition them out into their own room as they get older. no they wont be in their 20's and still need mommy and daddy in the same room with them, but when their young, you will be in for a battle!
my brother and sister inlaw have two kids, and they BOTH! sleep in the same room with them still. my niece is 7 now and puts up a big fight when she is told she will be sleeping in her own room tonight, she is afraid of being alone, even though she's not really alone-her parents room is right beside hers. my nephew is 5 and he puts up a little fight too, but will go in his room and if his mom puts a movie on he'll fall asleep in his room no problem.
but my niece always ends up getting her way and sleeping in her mom and dad's bed.
i think they waited a little too long with her to get her to sleep in her own bed, and the only way to break it now will be to let her cry it out. but i dont think they will do that anytime soon.
my son and i have naps together, hes 6 months and in the day time, when he goes down for a nap i will lay down beside him, our bed is big and i am never fully asleep just relaxing and watching a show.
he sleeps in his crib at night time all through the night, and turns a little too, then again, his crib is in our room, but when we move him into his own room i dont think he'll notice much of a difference because he will still be young.
maybe you guys could bring her crib in your room if thats an option, or take shifts to check on your daughter throughout the night, like every couple of hours or something if your husband is a little paranoid leaving her on her own.
Your husband is a wise man. Your child will be good and ready to move on to her own bed, not at 20 and probably not even at 7, as long as she is welcome in your bed as long as she needs it. They simply grow out of it, just like they grow out of breastfeeding, diapers, and just about every other developmental stage... unless they are deprived of their appropriate developmental stage for some reason - usually because of social pressures applied by makers of nifty infant gadgets like co-sleepers and cribs - then they may develop fixations that may stunt their natural development.
Let Ava sleep in your bed with you and enjoy it. The kicking will subside, or you will all learn to adapt, as you become more accustomed to it. A family bed brings the whole family closer together and keeps your daughter where she needs to be... with her mother.
One question: what have we been doing for millions of years before we had cribs?
In the end, do what your most primal motherly instinct knows is right. It's the only voice you can really trust.