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Q: I Have Herpes. Whats Next?
asked by: bkeme on February 9th, 2007
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I have just contracted herpes, I need to go back 1month later for swab tests to see if gonerra and clamadyia has clear away. 3months later to do a blood test for hiv.

I want to know how do people who has herpes has sex? How does herpes affect their sex lives? As herpes can be transmitted just by skin contact, its really hard to protect just by using condoms because I have sores on bums and thighs too. How do I protect my future partner?
Can I still received oral sex?
Does it mean that everytime before sex I had to check whether I had any possible outbreaks, shedding or in "danger" times? Does it mean there's no more adhoc passtionate sex anymore?

Please advice.
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bkeme
replied on February 12th, 2007
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I really wish someone who had the same experience can have a chat about it.

Thanks
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bongo1
replied on May 21st, 2007
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Yup. im a male. And I got it too. Type 2 down there, and type 1 up here. Maybe vice versa as well. So I got 4 occurences. But hey, what can you do. NADA.

Well, my grillfriend puts me in some superthick boxers, pops my thing through the boxer hole, and puts a condoodie on, and wrapr rubber bands around ma dingaling to keep the space between the condom and my boxers shut. But its a hassle. So we just stopped doin it. She gives great handjobs, and Im now a finger acrobat. Its sad being a man with a broken pee pee. But sad to say thaT there is more to life than bonin your chick, although it seems normal givcen that you have a dong, and she has a tootsi, and you get hormones, and most of what keeps you together is she has some gozongas, bootay, and chee chees, though she dont know that, and if your a girl, then its his niceness, his caring kisses, and maybe his good looks, although yu just cant admit to him that you really just want a lover to nurture your kids, just like he cant tell you that its your breasts that really push his cranks.

We are all repressed, and we will vehemently disagree, but we all know at some level what pushes the cranks. especially with guys. Yes girls can like companionship, as well as guys can too (surprisingly just think about your grandpa, unless he watches porno still). But at some other level, the who notion of relationships are rooted at the level of the thunder from down under, though some result in friendships, when the libido is no longer neato, but people go "ah, never mind. I love you babe, cuz you were there for me in this case over here, and that case, and that time I sharted my pants at AMPM." And that's love my friend, and with it, you can have a relationship without sex, while you are young, though your girl might have to understand if you yoink yourself, since you will get repressed from not getting that tootsie (im assuming you are a guy).

I hope you find something else to do than bonk your girlfriend. You might give it to her, and thats not cool. She will know she got it from you. And you will feel bad, and she will be in your predicamant, and unable to meet other guys, so just dont do it. Get some lube and let her jerk your jerky, and say "me so horny me love you long time." Its fun. I dont really care about boning anymore, though I am the horniest type guy a girl can meet. I always wish i met a girl that had what i have, but the girl I have right now, I trust her alot. I know she aint gonna go out and get me something else, like aids. Herpes is a blessing when you realize what it could have been, and it helps you to stop. (if you are a guy)

If you area girl, then either you are either a slooter, or some dongface could not man up and tell you about his herpes, or you didnt care to get tested. I chose all three. Many times. Im lucky, and glad herpes is all I got. And Im cool with a handjob, my girl likes to be sexy for me, and she puts on all sorts of cute clothes. putting my dick in her is really no different thatn in her hand when she rubs my G-spot and squeesez my balls. (sorry to be so vulgar). And she cuddles me after. its great. Only thing is the SOCIAL STIGMA that I was talking about earlier about where your dong is supposed to go. Come on how many minda vega pornos do you need to see to realize where she wants you to stick it.

If her hand was the answer, then putting it in her vagina would be like getting a hand job.


But If we could deny social stigma, then we would mow our front yards in a bright green neon string bikini. And i know you aint gonna do that. So, Im very sorry.

But if you must, get medicine. it reduces outbreaks by 98 percent, butyou can still pass the virus. you should still wear boxers, condom, and rubber band, or else you will. I repeat, you will pass it to your girl.

I am not an antiviral company telling you everythign will be okay so you buy my product. I am telling you the truth. I know. Viruses are even spread through the air, sheets, and clothing. though herpes is not like the flu, you can give it to your girl through your boxers in a snap.

Fortunately if she gets it, problem solved. If she breaks up w/ u, then she is messed up like you. So dont give it to her. Be a big man, and go make some burgers out back in your bar-b-Q. If your girl likes you enough to not leave you even with your herpes, then she is a special girl. Make her a special hamburger, and buy her some cute lingerie, and tell her she is your "time capsule" you are saving her for a special day.


bkeme wrote:
I really wish someone who had the same experience can have a chat about it.


Thanks
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jcp644
replied on June 4th, 2007
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Re: Bumps
This last person made it out to be like you can't have sex with a woman. I'm waiting to here from people and reading up on this as much as I can cause I was just diagnosed with herpes and this last guy scared me. Because I'm going to have to have sex again and any woman that I'm with is going to want to have sex. Keep your head up though and remember that just cause you have an STD doesn't mean that you are a different person or that someone won't love you. I hope someone other then this last person has knowledge for us both...
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bullitt40enc
replied on July 10th, 2009
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I have herpes Symplex 2 but i want to know when i don,t have a out break of open sores is it ok to receive oral sex from a women with out her getting it.
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wendyrs
replied on July 10th, 2009
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Yes, it is ok! I've had herpes 2 for over 20 years. I've always been careful not to have sex with my husband when I had an outbreak which isn't often. As you get older they come less seldom. Valtrex is wonderful and it goes away quickly once you take the pill. My husband has never caught it from me. I have two children that were born healthy. When you have sex be sure you don't have an outbreak and use protection. It's not the end of the world and don't allow it to control your life. Just be careful and take care of yourself. You will know when you are getting a breakout because it will begin to itch in the area of your break-outs and your glands will probably swell in your groin area. Take vitamins and stay as healthy as possible. Most break-outs happen when your immune system is low like when you have a cold or the flu. Stress can also bring it out. Like I said, I've lived with this for many years so you can feel free to ask me anything you want.
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