Sometimes men just don't ejaculate. It's often due to their feeling nervous, uncomfortable, tired, etc. So that part isn't too uncommon, unless the scenario that you described becomes the norm for you. If that happens once in a while, however, I would say it is no big deal.

If you have a problem with incontinence, however, you should talk to your doctor. Urinary incontinence can be caused by a few things, including obstruction to flow, some medications, damaged muscles, the bladder not contracting correctly, and others. Your doctor might be able to help you manage that or see if there is something a little more serious at the root of it.

If the not ejaculating issue is a common one with you, I am not sure if it could be related to the urinary incontinence or not. I do not believe that the two are usually related, but I certainly can't say that it's impossible. You should ask a doctor about the incontinence anyway, so you can always mention that part too just in case.

After following the above advice you might look into pc/kegel exercises. The pc is the muscle that you contract when you want to stop the flow of urine. It also is connected to orgasm and erection. Exercising it can increase strength of orgasm contractions. It's also often used to treat premature ejaculation, however it can actually cause pe for some, perhaps because it puts pressure on the prostate which then triggers ejaculation. I find that contracting the pc is how I achieve orgasm and if I try to relax it it eventually contracts and triggers orgasm. So perhaps you have a weak pc. Google it, research it and find an exercise routine if you think it might help.

Thanks for the info, both of you. I am seeing a doctor for the incontinence.

That time it could easily have been tired-ness. For now, i'm being concerned about that which might not even be a problem.

I happened to stumble on this little tidbit while searching for a gym near me, and googled a little more about it...

""""the amino acid histidine also is found in maca root in high amounts. This amino acid plays an often-overlooked but important role in sexual function: during ejaculation and orgasm. The body utilizes histidine to produce histamine, and histamine in the corpus cavernosum (penile erectile tissue) ultimately is responsible for the way ejaculations happen. Men suffering from premature ejaculation often show increased histamine activity; they may be helped by a simple antihistamine, or the amino acid methionine (which counteracts the formation of histamine from histidine). This is the same mechanism that explains a side effect of prescription antihistamines - aorgasmia (or the inability/difficulty to achieve an orgasm). Conversely, men and women having difficulties achieving orgasms may be helped by histidine supplementation - this may increase histamine levels in the sexual tract, which in turn make orgasms and ejaculations easier. An additional pro-sexual effect of histidine (as well as arginine) may lie in its vasodilating effect, increasing blood flow to the sex organs. Again, the significant, natural histidine content of maca may have played a role in the rat studies reporting a greater number of copulations. But it does make one wonder - is the benefit of additional copulations at the expense of shorter duration and/or premature ejaculation? Surely this subject is best suited for truly independent (and not product-sponsored) research.""""

of course i'm not saying histamine is what you need, but it's always good to know as much info as possible, especially when you try many things and still find no help. Google some more and maybe you'll find more info.