go to a doctor if you think you are having a miscarriage.

2. If you think you are pregnant, take a pregnancy test.

3. It doesn't matter whether this boyfriend is your only sexual experience, unprotected sex = pregnancy.

4. A period usually doesn't mean you are pregnant.

5. Pregnant and losing 'this' baby? Sweetie, you don't even know if you are pregnant.

Take a pregnancy test.

Ok.. First of all. I know having unprotected sex leads to getting pregnant. We used condoms everytime we have had sex. I was just explaining that this was my first and only partner so i've never had this scare before. I am saying I finished my period before having my first time with him and I am spotting like I am about to start another one but it hasn't been 28 days. This is what leads to me to believe there is something going on that isn't right. I guess I was wrong coming to a forum and expecting some actual help. Not a lecture. Thanks for the time anyway.

Tell me about it, I posted looking for some advice a few days ago and although a lot of people pm'd me with some lovely advice, most just hurled abuse at me, ill be thinking twice before I write to this thing again.

I'm sorry they treated you this way.

I deleted most of this post. I don't want pointless drama.

I doubt very much that you're pregnant. When was the first day of your period and when did you have sex? You normally ovulate 14 days *before* your period is due. You said you have a 28 day cycle so you would ovulate on day 14 (day 1 being the first day of your period). Then it takes a while (days, i'm not sure how many) for the fertilized egg to implant.

It was your first time, could you possibly be spotting from that?

I agree with the previous post... I think it is most likely spotting from it being your first time. The dates seem off for it to be pregnancy. When did you start spotting and how long did it last? If it was right away and didn't last too long it most likely is simply from being a virgin beforehand. Hope this helps.

I had my period on the 18th and I had sex on the 22. Thank you for being kind enough to explain all of that. So, you are saying the egg wouldn't be feritle just yet?

If the first day of your period was on the 18th, and you have a 28 day cycle, then you would probably not be ovulating until around feb. 1st, so by having sex (especially with a condom) on jan 22nd, then I would be pretty confident that you are not pregnant.

I love that news! I was just concerned because I started cramping and spotting afterward. I couldn't understand why I was cramping and feeling pains in my stomach. I think I will have to get on some sort of pill. It happened so fast I wasn't sure if I could be pregnant or how long before I could really tell. Thank you so much for giving me a true answer and not talking down to me. I really appreciate it.

For future reference, you can tell about 2 weeks after you have sex. Don't test before that, it won't be accurate and you'll be wasting money.

And yes, it would be a good idea to get on the pill and continue using condoms.

I haven't tested yet for that reason. But so I understand about 14 days after the day I start my period is around the time I am 'fertile?'

Technically it's 14 days before your next period is when you're fertile. But since you have a 28 day cycle that would be the same as 14 days after the first day of your period. Either way, day 14 is around when you will ovulate.

I might lay off the sex anyway. It wasn't the best experience though he was gentle with me. But that leads me to thw question of.. What's with the cramping i'm having? I only cramp before my period but I am cramping bad off and on for the last few days.

the cramping you are experiencing is probably due to having sex for the first time. Even if it was a while ago, this is your first period since then. If yuo had yuor period, you would not be having a mmiscarriage.

I just got done having my period on the 21st. I shouldn't have another one until around the 18th of feb. I started bleeding the night and day after I had sex for the first time. I haven't had sex with him since that night but we had sex a few times that night. For the past two days I have been spotting and cramping. Though I just finish a period I shouldn't be having one so soon again. That's what lead me to believe that I was pregnant and having a miscarriage.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I know after I first had sex I had really bad cramping for a few days. Its probably just something your body wasn't used to.

bleeding after sex is incredibly common the first few times. Had you explained a little more, I would not have felt like it was another 'omg, am I pregnant!' questions that no one can truly ever answer.

Some sex ed!

If you are sexually active there is always a risk of pregnancy, even with birth control. Although bc make pregnancy less likely and condoms must always be worn in the event there is a std.

Generally ovulation occurs 14 days prior to your next period, but can happen at any time and is especially wonky if you have irregular periods. Sperm can live for days inside of you and, once they meet the egg, can take up to 5 days before the zygote implants on your uterus. That means, you would not feel pregnant until implantation. Most women do not feel symptoms until they have missed a period (although there are a very rare few who do get symptoms earlier). Pregnancy tests don't work until a period is missed. For the same reason with the symptoms, it all revolves around hormones.

Planned parenthood has free and low cost birth control. They don't tell your parents either. So there is always that option.

Good luck. How old are you? Sex will get better when you get older.

Thank you for all of the information and explaining all of this to me. I am 21 years old. Yes, i'm sure it gets better but I don't want stress like this.

hey goldyn
i just wanted to say that im so happy you are so honest. im 24 and pregnant now and i just feel like sometimes its hard to go to family and friends with hard questions or even embarrassing ones. i dont like to be judged when i get on here. there are alot of young girls only searching for help on this forum. I think its important to support each other as women and not judge them like mothers. treat each other as equals. we get enough crap just "being" women in the first place. right? sorry. I just think people are very rough. if it upsets them to see young mothers or maybe even naive girls then dont give advice. right? can i get an amen?? lol. oh yeah and by the way i think its great that you waited so long to have sex too. your inspiring.