Hi, that is a hard one. How long have you been ttc for?
Have you been to the dr and everything?
Why not just say that you want to try a little longer and see how it goes for now... I don't know. But hopefully he would understand that you would want to do whatever you can to have a baby yourself first, and there is nothing wrong with that!

Are you unwilling to consider adoption under any circumstance? (e.G., you'd rather be a childless couple at 50 then raise an adopted child) if so, then you can tell him how much you enjoy his company and how much you can do together if you didn't have kids. Make sure he understands that you'd love to have kids if they were little yous, but otherwise you want it to be just you and him.

If there are some conditions under which you would consider adoption, then perhaps you can try to compromise. Tell him you really want a little one who is part you and part him. Then suggest that you will consider adoption under some condition that the two of you negotiate. You can start with, if I don't get pregnant by the time we're 50.

Thanks for your replies.

No we haven't been to the doctor yet. I just had a referal to go to the reproductive endocrinologist today at the ob/gyn. I would concider the option of adoption but I would rather have our own. I was asking because I feel like if I say I don't want to adopt, then he will get hurt like he is umm.. I don't know like he would think like I don't think that adoption is good enough.
Maybe that's me just being crazy. I just don't want to hurt him. I think he knows that I want our babies, but I don't want to say something that will hurt him.

Oh my god I got it tell him instead of adopting we can do fertility surgery
i hope that works but hey he your husband be strat with him if your not going to be strat with him then who are you going to be strat with girl dont worry so much does he like want to adopt right now, just relax breath and dont worry you sound like me when I first came to this site lol lolololololololololololololo try to explain to him that there much more to life than kids (i know there isnt anything more baetiful then children to us women) but hey what can we do other then just wiat ontill god gives you this present trust me I think god gives us the prestens of being pregnet at the right time girl just relax I know its easer said then done try to come on here or talk to a close friend just to let it out of you and try not to remind your husband about the idea of children . How do you now its just your falt and not his falt to ? Trust me star today its possible to do anything in medicen . If they found out how to make a gay guy pregnet I think they have more then a thousand saloution for people that are ttc . Lol I didnt like bring gay guy up becasue thats like the number one thing I hate in the world but I just had to bring it up lololoolololololo ok I dont want to write a artical or anything I think I willl leave the rest for who ever is going to finsh this or maybe complain about it lolololololo baby dust to everyone shortgeek, *star* me of course lol and oops I almost forgot monkeygirl22 and also to everyoneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

I would say at this point, don't rule anything out. You may not want to jump immediately to adoption but you never know what the future holds. Just tell your husband that you want to keep trying for your own child together for the time being. I'm sure he will understand.

I think I was more concerned that I would hurt his feelings if I said something like that, but from everyone's responses it sounds like he probably wouldn't be. He doesn't talk to much about it, and I have learned most of the details about his adoption from his mom. I don't really ask him to many questions because he usually doesn't want to talk about it and I feel like I really wouldn't understand where he is coming from since I have two parents and he was adopted.

Thank you guys so much for your support... I really need it now