Scared, Confused, And Feel Hopeless Posted: 02-01-07 14:46pm
Hi everyone,
i'm new on this site and after reading
some of the posts it looks like I will be
able to get the help and support that I
need.
I am 29 and have been with my husband for
almost 5 years. Almost that whole time,
we have not used any type of
contraception. I stopped taking my birth
control pills about 6 1/2 years ago.
When I was with my ex (of 8 years) we
didn't use protection after I stopped the
bc pills. Well now I know that I am the
problem that I can't have a baby, because
I just found out he has 2 kids now.
My husband and I have been ttc for about 5
months now and what I mean by that is I
know when I am fertile - I check with opk
- and we do the deed every other day
around that time and always on the day of
ovulation. Still no baby.
Now here is why I decided to post on here
today...
I just got back from the ob/gyn and had
the talk with her about our efforts in
ttc. I told her I have been off bc for
almost 6 1/2 years and that there have
been no pregnancies. She kept asking me
about my sexual habits and then she told
me that I probably have endomietriosis or
something else and that she wanted me to
go see a reproductive endocrinologist. I
don't even know what that kind of doctor
does. She said that regardless of how
long we have been ttc that with as much
sex as I have had and as long as I have
been off bc I should have been pregnant by
now. She did the annual pap and told me
to come back to see her in a month.
Well it gets worse... While doing the
breast exam, she told me that I had a
cyst... And asked if anyone had ever
found it before. I had no idea! This I
think is what has me so upset right now is
that this really scares me. My aunt and
my mom had cysts that had to be removed
and they nearly lost thier whole breast.
I now have to go for a mammogram also.
So i'm going crazy today, trying not to
cry to much at work, trying to stay calm
and be positive about the whole situation,
but it's really hard.
I'm just glad that there are other people
out there like me that are having trouble
conceiving.
Wow... I just realized I just wrote a
book... Sorry! Just needed to vent a
little.
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terpamber
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Posted: 02-01-07 14:51pm
Oh honny i'm so sorry your day was so bad.
First of all a welcome. I don't know how
much help i'll be since i've never gone to
that kind of a doctor but I do know that
they do a bunch of tests to see what is
going on and they are the ones who will be
able to help you with in-vitro and that
sort of thing. Good luck with the
mamogram! We are here for you!
Amber nicole
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Thank You Posted: 02-01-07 15:20pm
Thanks for replying. I have just been an
emothional reck today. It's good to know
that people understand. I just want to
be a mamma so bad it hurt sometimes.
I am kinda scared to go the route of an
infertility doctor because I hate going to
doctors and I wouldn't look forward to
them doing lots of tests.
I get upset thinking that I am the only
one in my family that doesn't have kids.
I have 12 1st cousins on my mom's side and
every single last one of them have kids.
My mom said that endomietriosis runs in
the family and that two of my cousins had
it and they both have two kids.
Infertility doesn't run in my family,
actually everyone else is rather
fertile.
Does anyone know what the chances of
getting pregnant are if you have
endomietriosis? Also what exactly is
it?
Thanks for your help
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 02-01-07 15:31pm
Do you have any symptoms of anything being
wrong? I wouldn't get to hung up on the
endometriosis until you have a firm
diagnosis. There are many people who
have difficulties ttc. Seeing an re is
an excellent idea. They can help treat
you if you need treatment and specialize
in that sort of thing. I have pcos and
had difficulty get pregnant with my
daughter and we are now trying to conceive
#2.
How long are you cycles and are they
regular?
Try not to stress (i know, easier said
than done) to much. That can mess up
your cycles.
As for the cyst, I hope it is something
that can be removed easily.
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Re: Thank You Posted: 02-01-07 15:40pm
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wrote:
does anyone know what the
chances of getting pregnant are if you
have endomietriosis? Also what exactly
is it?
Thanks for your
help
i'm sorry to hear about
your problem star.I foud this link for
you,maybe it will help? I hope it does!
Well I think I do have some symptoms. I
asked my mom the other day if
endomietriosis runs in the family and she
said that she has it and two of my cousins
have it... But they both have two kids.
My cycles are semi regular. They are on
average 26 days. Sometimes its 25 and
sometimes its 27. In fact they have been
flip flopping every moth between the two
for the past 6 months.
When my period comes, I have the most
horrible cramps imaginable...Or so I
think. They last for about 2 days. I
usually down about 15 advil durring the
day. The doctor gave me ponstil, but
that didn't work. The doctor I went to
today, gave me a rx for motrin 800, so
hopefully that will help out.
Aslo, it seems like I get mild cramps from
around the time I ovulate until I start
af.
I went on google and did a search of the
symptoms and most of them sounded like
mine.
How long were you ttc with your daughter,
and how did you finally become pregnant?
Thanks for your positive thinking, I
really need it right now. My mom is away
on vacation so I can't talk to her about
it.
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Re: Thank You Posted: 02-01-07 15:46pm
melissa_20
wrote:
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wrote:
does anyone know what the
chances of getting pregnant are if you
have endomietriosis? Also what exactly
is it?
Thanks for your
help
i'm sorry to hear about
your problem star.I foud this link for
you,maybe it will help? I hope it
does!
thank you for finding that... It looks
like a good site. I will have to really
read it when I get home from work.
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Hello Posted: 02-01-07 16:50pm
I hope everything goes ok for you but have
you tryed ovelex I havent tryed it or
anything but there are some girl here that
tryed it and they got a good resalt from
it they have been shown up latlly but
hopeful you can meet them ! But just one
advice from a little sis try not to stress
I now its hard but half of the health
problems go away if you are relexed and
happy . I am not saying you are not happy
but try to be mind peicful . And I bet
its real hard to find out that your
husband has two kids.
But try to take the sistuation as easy as
possibel . And aslo a good thing to do to
make you less stress ful is exerciseing I
am giveing you advices but trust me half
of them I havent done. I have been ttc
for 1year but this is my second year that
I am married . You know exersice has a
big role in ttc and health probelems good
luck sweety and I wish you best of look
baby dust to everyone
sara
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Re: Hello Posted: 02-01-07 17:00pm
sara**
wrote:
and I bet its real hard to
find out that your husband has two kids.
Sara
hi sara,
my husband doesn't have any kids, my ex
does. So that's why I was saying that it
is me and probably not my husband.
I have already started to treat my body
better. I have quit smoking, quit
caffine almost totally. I still have a
diet coke now and then, but that's better
to the 3 or more cups of ledded coffee
that I was drinking. And I have cut back
significantly on my alcohol consumption.
I usually only drink wine and ususally
about a half a glass 3 times a week. I
used to drink a whole lot more, and I was
smoking almost a pack a day. I need to
start exercising more, I stopped going to
the gym when I moved, but before I left, I
lost almost 15 pounds. I think I have
gained most of it back though.
** please send all the baby dust
possible**
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Posted: 02-01-07 19:44pm
Here's lots of baby dust your way...
My parents took six years to have a baby
and then had four kids in five years.
They weren't even trying to get pregnant
after the first. It just happened. I'm
not sure what did it. I know my mom took
daily hormone pills, but that could have
been related to the histerectomy she had
after the fourth kid.
Are you traking your bbt, too? I read
that you can get an lh surge and then not
ovulate. The only way to know you
ovulated is to check your temperature.
I think going to a specialist is an
exciting thing. It can give you some
certainty. Plus, their job is to get you
pregnant!
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More Questions Posted: 02-02-07 14:24pm
No I haven't tried to to the temperature
thing. I was thinking about it, but I
know how I was when I was on the pill and
trying to remember taking it everyday. I
would probably forget to take my temp
before I got out of bed each day.
I am still kinda interested in what might
happen the first time I go to the
specialist? Will they want to see both
of us, or just me first? My husband has
a hard time getting off work right now, so
that might make it hard. Also, I am
pretty sure my insurance will not cover
this, so I was wondering if anyone knows
how much something like that would cost...
I mean as far as the initial consult,
maybe taking clomid and anything else that
anyone may know about.
Thanks!!!
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 02-02-07 15:01pm
Star - even though it felt like we had
been trying forever, it was only about a
year and a half. Then I had a
miscarriage so it was closer to two years
with my daughter. We are going on just
over a year for baby number two. The
only thing that is better this time is I
have a diagnosis for what is wrong and we
are working on treating it. The first
time around we had no idea what the
problem was. I do the whole temperature
charting thing. At first I wasn't so
fond of it but I swear it has become an
addiction. Plus, I feel like I at least
know what is going on. I can tell from
my chart if I have ovulated and what is
going on each cycle. Plus, my doctor
encourages me to chart because she get a
lot of good information from them also.
For my first infertility visit, I went by
myself. At that time, my husband was
uncomfortable with the whole thing. He
thought the problem might be him and that
freaked him out a bit. Once they tested
him and he was fine then he started coming
with me. I have read that depending on
the way the specialist codes the doctor
visit your insurance may cover it. You
should ask them when you make the
appointment.
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Posted: 02-02-07 16:28pm
abbysmom
wrote:
I feel like I at least know
what is going on. I can tell from my
chart if I have ovulated and what is going
on each cycle. Plus, my doctor
encourages me to chart because she get a
lot of good information from them also.
i was wondering if when you do chart your
temps don't you only see when you have
already ovulated? Isn't it to late by
then?
I also had a question as to why the doctor
would want to see me again in a month?
Why would that be?
How old are you abbysmom if you don't mind
me asking
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shortgeek
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Posted: 02-02-07 22:02pm
I take the temp before I get out of bed in
the morning. At first, it took a while
to remember, but i'm in my second month
and i'm really good about it now . My
husband and I get up at the same time in
the morning and usually snooze the alarm
once. I take my temp while we're
snoozing.
The bbt does only tell you after you've
ovulated, but it is a good guide to tell
you the day you ovulated. I take the opk
as well hoping that it will tell me ahead
of time. I think cm is the best early
indicator. You're cm will change
consistency before you get the lh surge.
It took me a few months of paying
attention to recognize the cm changes.
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Posted: 02-03-07 00:17am
Star, good luck with every thing. Hope
you get some answers soon.
I am sending you thousand of good luck
& baby dust your way. Hugs hugs
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 02-03-07 14:52pm
Shortgeek is correct. You only get
confirmation of ovulation after the fact
and ewcm is your best indicator. I like
the charting because after a while, I
start to see a pattern and kind of know
what to expect. Plus, it is nice to know
for sure that you have ovulated. You can
get positive opks and not actually ovulate
so temping makes me feel better. I am
32. I keep telling my husband that we
need to hurry up because my eggs are
getting old! Your doctor probably wants
to see you to try to confirm a diagnosis
for you and decide if you need any
treatment for endometriosis and if you
will need any assistance with trying to
conceive. I know it can be scary so I
suggest you do some research on the
internet and check out lots of message
boards with a trying to conceive sections.
You can get lots of info that way.
Just be cautious. Not everythng you read
will be accurate.
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Thank You Girls! Posted: 02-05-07 11:22am
Thanks for the info on temp taking.
Where can I get one of the thermometers?
Do they come with a chart or do you make
your own.
Af started yesterday, so here's to another
month of trying.
I looked at my health insurance and found
out that the reproductive endocrinologist
that my ob/gyn refered me to is not
covered by my insurance. They do have a
few doctors that are under the specialist
section in the book, but they say
endocrinology and metabolism? Do you
think this might be the same kind of
doctor? I am going to call my doctor to
see if they are, but I was just wondering
if anyone on here knew.
Thanks again for your support, and please
please send all the baby dust you can...
And keep it coming.
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 02-05-07 14:59pm
I'm sorry to hear that your af came. I
ordered my thermometer of off the internet
but I think you can buy them just about
anywhere. I am living in spain right
now so I didn't have many options. I
chart on a website called fertilityfriend.
You can chart for free or you can pay
and get vip privileges. You could
probably also download paper versions off
of the net for free.
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Posted: 02-06-07 10:09am
abbysmom
wrote:
i'm sorry to hear that your
af come. I ordered my thermometer of
off the internet but I think you can buy
them just about anywhere. I am living
in spain right now so I didn't have many
options. I chart on a website called
fertilityfriend. You can chart for free
or you can pay and get vip privileges.
You could probably also download paper
versions off of the net for
free.
thanks abbysmom. I will look into it
today.
Wow, spain must be really nice. I would
love to go there someday
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Abbysmom
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Posted: 02-06-07 15:20pm
I think that there are many parts of spain
that would be nice to visit but the area
where we live isn't so hot. We have
gotten used to it but we don't recommend
our area to others.
