My common law husband of four years has mega problems. I'm beginning to wonder if he is a narssissist(sp). He has talked so much about other women in the past and when I voice my concerns he says i'm jeleous. He's talked of cheating in other relationships, now says I have trust issues. Says things and cannot remember later. Is verbal abusive at times and says sorry repeatively. Tells his mom, friends and ppl at work of our fights but says nothing of his contribution to them, I always look like the b)(*&h. Ridicules me with his ex wife, tells her of our personal life then denies it, and just recently admitted it. He's a perfectionalist he says, does things the right way, which always arent the right way in my and other ppls opinion. Agrees with me then later disagrees and says "i did not". Gets angry at little things, but we have no right to. Contracticts himself so much it comes across as lying. Was reading about abusive relationships lately and said tell ppl. I have, my best friend and a confidont cousin, he knows this and said "oh great now they think i'm an a@@". Thinking he wants everything to look good on the outside but dont dare let anyone know how it really is, on his part only i'm finding , not my part. I'm the jeleous b((((h. Wants me to be open and honest, then throws it in my face. Wants me to scream when angry, throw things get it out, so when I do, i'm out of line. When you say anything of these type of concerns he instantly say "am not" "did not". First mothers day we were together he bought flowers, cake dinner the whole nine yards. When his ex came to pick up there child he said after, good I think I made her jeleous. He hasnt even said happy mothers day to me since, what the h$$l is up with that, have asked and get. Well your not my mother!!! Thinking things were caused by me, or i'm too sensitive, as he puts it. What do you think????????
Sorry for the short post, I though about it and didnt think it was fair of me to just blurt that out.
Givin the situations you explained I still dont understand why you are with this man. People go though !**@! and work so hard at it then they end up just not being together. Sure it works some times but I dont see the point in trying to change a person.
Basic things that people do in a relationship that proves they are not worthy.
be mean in genral
i mean you refer to this man as your common law husband. I know that relationships have there ups and downs. You may be fighting with him alot but there are times when you will lie down and are just in deep love...Sadly thoes emotions are just a byproduct of the feelings we humans need to have.
For me? I have lernt my lession with the relationships ive had. I find out if somneones cheated before, someones past etc. People do change but there past doesnt....If it bothers you its alwasy gona.