Narssissist?????what Do You Think? Posted: 02-01-07 13:29pm
My common law husband of four years has
mega problems. I'm beginning to wonder
if he is a narssissist(sp). He has
talked so much about other women in the
past and when I voice my concerns he says
i'm jeleous. He's talked of cheating in
other relationships, now says I have trust
issues. Says things and cannot remember
later. Is verbal abusive at times and
says sorry repeatively. Tells his mom,
friends and ppl at work of our fights but
says nothing of his contribution to them,
I always look like the b)(*&h.
Ridicules me with his ex wife, tells her
of our personal life then denies it, and
just recently admitted it. He's a
perfectionalist he says, does things the
right way, which always arent the right
way in my and other ppls opinion. Agrees
with me then later disagrees and says "i
did not". Gets angry at little things,
but we have no right to. Contracticts
himself so much it comes across as lying.
Was reading about abusive relationships
lately and said tell ppl. I have, my
best friend and a confidont cousin, he
knows this and said "oh great now they
think i'm an a@@". Thinking he wants
everything to look good on the outside but
dont dare let anyone know how it really
is, on his part only i'm finding , not my
part. I'm the jeleous b((((h. Wants me
to be open and honest, then throws it in
my face. Wants me to scream when angry,
throw things get it out, so when I do, i'm
out of line. When you say anything of
these type of concerns he instantly say
"am not" "did not". First mothers day we
were together he bought flowers, cake
dinner the whole nine yards. When his ex
came to pick up there child he said after,
good I think I made her jeleous. He
hasnt even said happy mothers day to me
since, what the h$$l is up with that, have
asked and get. Well your not my mother!!!
Thinking things were caused by me, or
i'm too sensitive, as he puts it. What
do you think????????
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 02-02-07 17:58pm
Honestly I dont understand why you are
with this man....Period.
Regardless for you love of him...Whats
healthy for you?
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 02-02-07 18:02pm
Sorry for the short post, I though about
it and didnt think it was fair of me to
just blurt that out.
Givin the situations you explained I still
dont understand why you are with this man.
People go though caca and work so hard
at it then they end up just not being
together. Sure it works some times but I
dont see the point in trying to change a
person.
Basic things that people do in a
relationship that proves they are not
worthy.
Lie
cheat
be mean in genral
abusive
i mean you refer to this man as your
common law husband. I know that
relationships have there ups and downs.
You may be fighting with him alot but
there are times when you will lie down and
are just in deep love...Sadly thoes
emotions are just a byproduct of the
feelings we humans need to have.
For me? I have lernt my lession with the
relationships ive had. I find out if
somneones cheated before, someones past
etc. People do change but there past
doesnt....If it bothers you its alwasy
gona.