I don't think you should worry. Because if a guys loves you and you both finally come to the point you take your clothes of I don't think he's gonna run away.

He will take you the way you are. And I believe it's about the inside of a person, the personility. There are men who don't think that but I do and there are others who do the same!

So I believe when it comes to the point the man you love will take you as you are and will make love to you and enjoys it!

I honestly don't think it will matter to the right guy. Trust me. The saying,"love is blind" is absolutely true. I have dated women that other people made fun of me for because they were "fat or big nosed or whatever" but I liked them for *who* they were, not how they looked naked. I was madly in love with a girl once who was 205 lbs. She was (in my mind) the most beautiful girl. We broke up (not because of weight, because i'm an a$$) but I still think shes beautiful. No worries....Not all men are pigs!

Well, the stretch marks will fade over time.

You should also work out and do plenty of resistance training whilst on the correct diet in order to tone up. Go to body building.Com - you will get good advice on the figure you want there.

Many say "don't worry blah blah", but you clearly will. So try to do something about it.

Stretch marks can be minimized with creams..and certain types of working out.

Besides, there are a lot of guys who are shallow and prefer skinny girls..and then there are guys who appreciate girls with a little more meat on their bones.

I don't intend to sound demeaning or womanizing .it's true.
some guys are just attracted to girls who aren't anorexically thin.

Just keep that in mind

ya see i disagree with u..... how is it shallow to want a girl that takes care of her self? cause i know i got a skinny girl thats got a great personalty the best of both worlds and i would not settle for 2nd best... no offence to the person who wrote this cause she will find a guy.... her issue is the confidence issue. cause i know for a fact that is her issue nothing else... cause if ur nothappy with ur self how is anyone esle ever going to behappy with u...

and ya some giuys like bigger girls but basicly most guys are the same. i amnot most guys i will tell u that much. most guys just want ass till a irl will no give up on them. and i dont mean chasethe guy u need to know when to chase and when not to chase. girls are clueless when it comes to that... just think with ur head and not ur heart.... cause girls weaknessesis their emotions. but ya if u want some real advice drop me your e-mail cause i will be brutilay honest with ya.

skizzi123 - I dont agree with you..... Believe it or not out there, there are females that do "look after themselves" but are still classified as larger women!! Some women are just born like that and it cant be helped. I believe you really do have a shallow look at finding a woman but you seem to have found someone so congratulations!!

I have to ask you though, if the woman that your with now for whatever reason puts on weight and is no longer "skinny" what will you do? Leave them? No longer love them??

Just something to think about..... Not everything is black and white!!

born like that? eh i dont care if its inyour jeans... that just meanuhave to try harder to get to your goal.... i think your making excuses and thats wrong. and it is black and white... its that simple ether ur doing enough or ur not. and i give mad respect for her for doing what she did. but thas not going o change anything unless shes confedent and confortable with her self....

nah its not even like that the girl i am with now knows how i feel and i told her this is what i feel in love with this is who i like u for personalty and looks wise. and she works out to stay in shape and so do i.

girls iknow aggree with me. and as much of a problem as i seem like. i am worse inreal life. but people say awe its ok to be fat oh its not your fault.... well thats BS cause it is your fault. i dont think people realize that... the womenin this post relized that she was heavy and something was wrong and she busted her balls to get thin.... and was it hard hell ya it was but the end result was worth it. so do ithink fat people are stuck being fat... thats a bunch of crap... end of story

I will say that I agree with you in one aspect of your post..... Its not all about the looks, it also has to do with self confidence and self esteem!

I still dont agree with the rest though..... You say even if your born like that you just have to work harder?!?! Some womans bodies werent made to be thin, its impossible!! Have you ever thought of thyroid problems, someone being larger because of a tumor that for whatever reason cant be operated on?? You could starve yourself for 2 years and you still wouldnt be thin!! There is more to a woman than her weight!!

Hhehehe I'm lovin' how I'm quoted in every one of these replies.
hahha.

To the author of the thread:

I said that stretch marks would fade.

You should also note that loose skin (this may be something that you have a problem with) can tighten up over time, especially if you are young.

skizzi, some people are genetically predetermined to be in a certain size category. just like some people are naturally thin, some people are naturally larger. no one ever argues about people who have a hard time keeping weight ON saying they "aren't doing enough" it's crap. I am a larger girl and damn proud because i guarantee you I eat more healthly that you do and i work out more. i ball room dance for crying out loud. peoples skeletal frames are built differently. people inherit body types form families just like noses and eyes and smile and diseases. and don't bother arguing back, because it's true and maybe if you read a book about the human body you would know that rather than just blindly accepting what society deems to be correct. because most women who are "thin" and "healthy" are not. they are usually under weight or have other health issues. a skinny person can get type 2 diabetes or heart disease or have bad colesterol or high blood pressure just as much as a larger person. If you are going to attempt to argue a subject, know more about it, know the truth and for that matter learn how to type because it's like reading another language because that gibberish you are writting is most definitely not english.

PS, The Godly One is right, skin is highly elastic and unless you just lost so much weight that there is no way for it to tighten, then it's going to work itself out congrats to you on achieving your goal!

You don't have any Self-Love and without that I doubt that you could ever love a significant other in your life. You see that Self-Love must be the Pivotal-Point around any and all relationships, to put it quite bluntly, If there is no Self-Love and you cannot love yourself, how are you going to love others?

I will not come out and say looks are unimportant because they are for everyone no matter what they say its a human condition, everyone likes someone to look good to (now read this)THEM, what one person sees as ugly(I hate that word) another will see an the most beautiful attractive person they have ever seen.

So it sounds like you lost your weight pretty fast which has caused loose skin, now without seeing it I can not know how bad your problem is but if it very bad, don't fret it can be fixed, it might not be the vision you have in your head of the perfect toned body(come on who has that now adays) but you will be able to get yourself into a place where you are happy about it(this is if it is really bad).

What you need to do for a beginning is to get lots of protein into your diet, this will help with the exercise program you will be starting, this will be a figure comp weight lifting program have a look here http://tinyurl.com/6jq8rc for training, you are not looking to get massive but you need to put muscle mass on to fill the skin out.

This will not take masses of muscle less than you might think, if done right you will look fantastic, at the moment drink as much water as you can and get yourself in to totally body massage ASAP, the water will allow your skin to become more elastic and the massage will help it tighten a little, and when you start your weight/resistance(start super light and work your way up) training keep it going with the massage.

Now lets say you have taken a year or two to at this and you still have too much skin(I highly doubt unless it was a lot of excess skin) there is the surgery route, I would advise you to try all other avenues before going this way, its can look good very good, but it can be pretty invasive surgery and has its own list of complecations, the human body has a great capacity to fix itself you just need to nudge it in the right direction before you allow people to cut bits off you.

Good luck and be happy!

Eddy

Skizzi, my mom has ALWAYS been a bigger girl. Not fat, just a little meat on her bones. She does landscaping for a living and is VERY active in the summer and she has gained more weight than EVER since she has been in landscaping.

Also, there is a thing called diabetes. My mom's sister-in-law is FAT. I mean really fat. To the point her body hurts all the time because it has a lot of weight to support. She has tried every trick in the book to lose weight and just can't. So maybe you should think twice and get your head out of the clouds before generalizing and saying its possible for EVERYONE to lose weight.

I happen to be just the opposite. I want to GAIN a little because people tell me I am anorexic, and I eat more than my mother (who is bigger). Why? Its in my genes to be skinny. I have a fast metabolism and no matter how much I eat and sit around I CAN'T gain weight. I mean yeah a pound or 2 here and there, but nothing noticable.

if a guy believes your are sexy with clothes on, i m sure you'll be fine. do you have anything else other than stretch marks b/c i have them to. i have adult acne and it's things i cant wear b/c i try to cover up. with all my flaws i still think i m a diamond in the rough.
walk with your head held high b/c you are beautiful. everyone has flaws.
you are fearfully and wonderfully made. psalms 139:14 every single hair on your head is counted.

this is blunt, but true (in my opinion). you are going to have to learn to love yourself for who you are (flaws and all) before you can expect to be able to love someone else (who is equally flawed, whether it shows physically or not). then you will be able to have a relationship with someone else and you'll have a good chance of it succeeding.

i think you need to focus on the fact that EVERYONE is flawed and NO-ONE is perfect. i mean what i say when i say that some people's flaws may not physically show, but they are flawed just the same. this doesn't mean that you have to settle for a "flawed person" or that a person has to settle for a "flawed you"...what it means is that once you learn to really accept yourself, you'll learn how to accept someone else, and you'll be able to come to grips with the fact that no-one is perfect (including and especially you).

try to remember that this isn't about living a perfect life in a perfect world. it's about living a good and happy life in a deeply imperfect world.

good luck and God bless.
jasmine

this is blunt, but true (in my opinion). you are going to have to learn to love yourself for who you are (flaws and all) before you can expect to be able to love someone else (who is equally flawed, whether it shows physically or not). then you will be able to have a relationship with someone else and you'll have a good chance of it succeeding.

i think you need to focus on the fact that EVERYONE is flawed and NO-ONE is perfect. i mean what i say when i say that some people's flaws may not physically show, but they are flawed just the same. this doesn't mean that you have to settle for a "flawed person" or that a person has to settle for a "flawed you"...what it means is that once you learn to really accept yourself, you'll learn how to accept someone else, and you'll be able to come to grips with the fact that no-one is perfect (including and especially you).

try to remember that this isn't about living a perfect life in a perfect world. it's about living a good and happy life in a deeply imperfect world.

good luck and God bless.
jasmine

Looks are not that important. If that were true, there would be no married ugly women, and if you look around, you will see tons of happy, non-beautiful women out there with families, and also, many, MANY full figured women living happy married lives with guys that adore them. If you think you are unhappy with your body, do something about if for YOU. Not for anyone else. If you have self confidence, you will radiate it and attract all kinds of men. There is nothing sexier than a self-assured women. It sounds like you are doing things to make yourself attractive, and that's fine. But don't beat yourself up over what you don't or will never have. Do the best you can with what you've got, hold your head up high, tell yourself your the sexiest thing out there, and watch what happens. And if you think for one minute there are no fat ugly women out there living happily ever after, just take a walk around town. You will be proven wrong at almost every step. Oh, and one more thing to remember sweetie...even beautiful girls get DUMPED and are lonely. Happens to us all, no matter what we look like! Go girl!

Skizzi:Learn how to type a coherent english sentence and actually read others posts *completely*, before launching off into that word-soup you call a reply.
No one's taking your posts seriously because they can hardly understand a damn thing you wrote.