I was never the butt end of the ugly jokes
but i've always had my fair share of
the-dun dun dun-fat jokes. I was
fortunate enough to obtain the "awesome"
gene my family seems to carry and pass on.
Though, I was the "cool fat girl" I was
never the "cool fat girl with a
boyfriend". I never let that bother me,
because I always had my writing and music
to keep me occupied.
I'm now 22 years old, and i've lost all
the weight (no need for an applause ) I am now
completely satisfied with the way I look.
When I go out in my flashy threads, guys
can't help but drool from their mouth.
Hey, after 21 years of being miserable I
deserve to gloat, right?
Well, my problem is this...My body is
disgusting. When I bare my flesh I can't
even look without being disgusted. I was
fat for 21 years, I didn't expect my body
to start off on a clean slate (but mr.
Devil if you're reading this, I have a
deal for you) but I would never in my
wildest dreams fathom I would be left with
this body. I have stretch-marks galore.
I can't wear things that I would like to
wear, i.E., haulter tops, cropped jackets,
and bikinnis. I lost my weight out of
pure vain resons, not healthy, I admit
it.
I'm still a virgin, and I haven't kissed a
guy since I was about 16 (a one time
afair). Believe me, i'm not a virgin out
of any religious or moral reasons. If I
could have my way with a man, I would.
I'm just very insecure about my body; it's
revolting. I'm pretty sure I could make
a man go blind!
I feel i'm doomed to live a pathetic and
lonely life. It makes me just want to go
snack on some cookies and gain the weight
back. What's the point of looking good
with clothes on and once you disrobe
you're a complete beast?
Any advice on how I can cope or should I
pack my bags and start heading down lonely
way?
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Ivo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Holland
Posted: 02-08-07 16:11pm
I don't think you should worry. Because
if a guys loves you and you both finally
come to the point you take your clothes of
I don't think he's gonna run away.
He will take you the way you are. And I
believe it's about the inside of a person,
the personility. There are men who don't
think that but I do and there are others
who do the same!
So I believe when it comes to the point
the man you love will take you as you are
and will make love to you and enjoys it!
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blulyneguy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 334 Location: Idaho,
Lisa Posted: 02-08-07 16:18pm
I honestly don't think it will matter to
the right guy. Trust me. The
saying,"love is blind" is absolutely true.
I have dated women that other people made
fun of me for because they were "fat or
big nosed or whatever" but I liked them
for *who* they were, not how they looked
naked. I was madly in love with a girl
once who was 205 lbs. She was (in my
mind) the most beautiful girl. We broke
up (not because of weight, because i'm an
a$$) but I still think shes beautiful. No
worries....Not all men are pigs!
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The Godly One
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 76
Posted: 02-09-07 08:11am
Well, the stretch marks will fade over
time.
You should also work out and do plenty of
resistance training whilst on the correct
diet in order to tone up. Go to body
building.Com - you will get good advice on
the figure you want there.
Many say "don't worry blah blah", but you
clearly will. So try to do something
about it.
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spectermonkey
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2006 Posts: 59 Location: Somewhere
Don't Wory Posted: 03-10-07 20:57pm
Stretch marks can be minimized with
creams..and certain types of working out.
Besides, there are a lot of guys who are
shallow and prefer skinny girls..and then
there are guys who appreciate girls with a
little more meat on their bones.
I don't intend to sound demeaning or
womanizing .it's true.
some guys are just attracted to girls who
aren't anorexically thin.
Just keep that in mind
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skizzi1234
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 May 2007 Posts: 13 Location: england
Re: Don't Wory Posted: 05-05-07 05:25am
spectermonkey
wrote:
Stretch marks can be
minimized with creams..and certain types
of working out.
Besides, there are a lot of guys who are
shallow and prefer skinny girls..and then
there are guys who appreciate girls with a
little more meat on their bones.
I don't intend to sound demeaning or
womanizing .it's true.
some guys are just attracted to girls who
aren't anorexically thin.
Just keep that in mind
ya see i disagree with u..... how is it
shallow to want a girl that takes care of
her self? cause i know i got a skinny girl
thats got a great personalty the best
of both worlds and i would not settle
for 2nd best... no offence to the person
who wrote this cause she will find a
guy.... her issue is the confidence
issue. cause i know for a fact that is
her issue nothing else... cause if ur
nothappy with ur self how is anyone esle
ever going to behappy with u...
and ya some giuys like bigger girls but
basicly most guys are the same. i amnot
most guys i will tell u that much. most
guys just want ass till a irl will no give
up on them. and i dont mean chasethe guy
u need to know when to chase and when not
to chase. girls are clueless when it comes
to that... just think with ur head and
not ur heart.... cause girls weaknessesis
their emotions. but ya if u want some
real advice drop me your e-mail cause i
will be brutilay honest with ya.
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 214 Location: Australia
Re: Don't Wory Posted: 05-05-07 05:58am
skizzi1234
wrote:
spectermonkey
wrote:
Stretch marks can be
minimized with creams..and certain types
of working out.
Besides, there are a lot of guys who are
shallow and prefer skinny girls..and then
there are guys who appreciate girls with a
little more meat on their bones.
I don't intend to sound demeaning or
womanizing .it's true.
some guys are just attracted to girls who
aren't anorexically thin.
Just keep that in mind
ya see i disagree with u..... how is it
shallow to want a girl that takes care of
her self? cause i know i got a skinny girl
thats got a great personalty the best
of both worlds and i would not settle
for 2nd best... no offence to the person
who wrote this cause she will find a
guy.... her issue is the confidence
issue. cause i know for a fact that is
her issue nothing else... cause if ur
nothappy with ur self how is anyone esle
ever going to behappy with u...
and ya some giuys like bigger girls but
basicly most guys are the same. i amnot
most guys i will tell u that much. most
guys just want ass till a irl will no give
up on them. and i dont mean chasethe guy
u need to know when to chase and when not
to chase. girls are clueless when it comes
to that... just think with ur head and
not ur heart.... cause girls weaknessesis
their emotions. but ya if u want some
real advice drop me your e-mail cause i
will be brutilay honest with
ya.
skizzi123 - I dont agree with you.....
Believe it or not out there, there are
females that do "look after themselves"
but are still classified as larger women!!
Some women are just born like that and it
cant be helped. I believe you really do
have a shallow look at finding a woman but
you seem to have found someone so
congratulations!!
I have to ask you though, if the woman
that your with now for whatever reason
puts on weight and is no longer "skinny"
what will you do? Leave them? No longer
love them??
Just something to think about..... Not
everything is black and white!!
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skizzi1234
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 May 2007 Posts: 13 Location: england
Re: Don't Wory Posted: 05-05-07 06:23am
Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
wrote:
skizzi1234
wrote:
spectermonkey
wrote:
Stretch marks can be
minimized with creams..and certain types
of working out.
Besides, there are a lot of guys who are
shallow and prefer skinny girls..and then
there are guys who appreciate girls with a
little more meat on their bones.
I don't intend to sound demeaning or
womanizing .it's true.
some guys are just attracted to girls who
aren't anorexically thin.
Just keep that in mind
ya see i disagree with u..... how is it
shallow to want a girl that takes care of
her self? cause i know i got a skinny girl
thats got a great personalty the best
of both worlds and i would not settle
for 2nd best... no offence to the person
who wrote this cause she will find a
guy.... her issue is the confidence
issue. cause i know for a fact that is
her issue nothing else... cause if ur
nothappy with ur self how is anyone esle
ever going to behappy with u...
and ya some giuys like bigger girls but
basicly most guys are the same. i amnot
most guys i will tell u that much. most
guys just want ass till a irl will no give
up on them. and i dont mean chasethe guy
u need to know when to chase and when not
to chase. girls are clueless when it comes
to that... just think with ur head and
not ur heart.... cause girls weaknessesis
their emotions. but ya if u want some
real advice drop me your e-mail cause i
will be brutilay honest with
ya.
skizzi123 - I dont agree with you.....
Believe it or not out there, there are
females that do "look after themselves"
but are still classified as larger women!!
Some women are just born like that and it
cant be helped. I believe you really do
have a shallow look at finding a woman but
you seem to have found someone so
congratulations!!
I have to ask you though, if the woman
that your with now for whatever reason
puts on weight and is no longer "skinny"
what will you do? Leave them? No longer
love them??
Just something to think about..... Not
everything is black and
white!!
born like that? eh i dont care if its
inyour jeans... that just meanuhave to try
harder to get to your goal.... i think
your making excuses and thats wrong. and
it is black and white... its that simple
ether ur doing enough or ur not. and i
give mad respect for her for doing what
she did. but thas not going o change
anything unless shes confedent and
confortable with her self....
nah its not even like that the girl i am
with now knows how i feel and i told her
this is what i feel in love with this is
who i like u for personalty and looks
wise. and she works out to stay in shape
and so do i.
girls iknow aggree with me. and as much
of a problem as i seem like. i am worse
inreal life. but people say awe its ok to
be fat oh its not your fault.... well
thats BS cause it is your fault. i dont
think people realize that... the womenin
this post relized that she was heavy and
something was wrong and she busted her
balls to get thin.... and was it hard
hell ya it was but the end result was
worth it. so do ithink fat people are
stuck being fat... thats a bunch of
crap... end of story
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 214 Location: Australia
Re: Don't Wory Posted: 05-05-07 06:42am
skizzi1234
wrote:
Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
wrote:
skizzi1234
wrote:
spectermonkey
wrote:
Stretch marks can be
minimized with creams..and certain types
of working out.
Besides, there are a lot of guys who are
shallow and prefer skinny girls..and then
there are guys who appreciate girls with a
little more meat on their bones.
I don't intend to sound demeaning or
womanizing .it's true.
some guys are just attracted to girls who
aren't anorexically thin.
Just keep that in mind
ya see i disagree with u..... how is it
shallow to want a girl that takes care of
her self? cause i know i got a skinny girl
thats got a great personalty the best
of both worlds and i would not settle
for 2nd best... no offence to the person
who wrote this cause she will find a
guy.... her issue is the confidence
issue. cause i know for a fact that is
her issue nothing else... cause if ur
nothappy with ur self how is anyone esle
ever going to behappy with u...
and ya some giuys like bigger girls but
basicly most guys are the same. i amnot
most guys i will tell u that much. most
guys just want ass till a irl will no give
up on them. and i dont mean chasethe guy
u need to know when to chase and when not
to chase. girls are clueless when it comes
to that... just think with ur head and
not ur heart.... cause girls weaknessesis
their emotions. but ya if u want some
real advice drop me your e-mail cause i
will be brutilay honest with
ya.
skizzi123 - I dont agree with you.....
Believe it or not out there, there are
females that do "look after themselves"
but are still classified as larger women!!
Some women are just born like that and it
cant be helped. I believe you really do
have a shallow look at finding a woman but
you seem to have found someone so
congratulations!!
I have to ask you though, if the woman
that your with now for whatever reason
puts on weight and is no longer "skinny"
what will you do? Leave them? No longer
love them??
Just something to think about..... Not
everything is black and
white!!
born like that? eh i dont care if its
inyour jeans... that just meanuhave to try
harder to get to your goal.... i think
your making excuses and thats wrong. and
it is black and white... its that simple
ether ur doing enough or ur not. and i
give mad respect for her for doing what
she did. but thas not going o change
anything unless shes confedent and
confortable with her self....
nah its not even like that the girl i am
with now knows how i feel and i told her
this is what i feel in love with this is
who i like u for personalty and looks
wise. and she works out to stay in shape
and so do i.
girls iknow aggree with me. and as much
of a problem as i seem like. i am worse
inreal life. but people say awe its ok to
be fat oh its not your fault.... well
thats BS cause it is your fault. i dont
think people realize that... the womenin
this post relized that she was heavy and
something was wrong and she busted her
balls to get thin.... and was it hard
hell ya it was but the end result was
worth it. so do ithink fat people are
stuck being fat... thats a bunch of
crap... end of
story
I will say that I agree with you in one
aspect of your post..... Its not all about
the looks, it also has to do with self
confidence and self esteem!
I still dont agree with the rest
though..... You say even if your born like
that you just have to work harder?!?! Some
womans bodies werent made to be thin, its
impossible!! Have you ever thought of
thyroid problems, someone being larger
because of a tumor that for whatever
reason cant be operated on?? You could
starve yourself for 2 years and you still
wouldnt be thin!! There is more to a woman
than her weight!!
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spectermonkey
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2006 Posts: 59 Location: Somewhere
Xd Posted: 05-05-07 12:39pm
Hhehehe I'm lovin' how I'm quoted in every
one of these replies.
hahha.
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The Godly One
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 76
Posted: 05-07-07 14:37pm
To the author of the thread:
I said that stretch marks would fade.
You should also note that loose skin (this
may be something that you have a problem
with) can tighten up over time, especially
if you are young.
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musicdiva1331
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Feb 2008 Posts: 21 Location: ,
Posted: 03-18-08 00:46am
skizzi, some people are genetically
predetermined to be in a certain size
category. just like some people are
naturally thin, some people are naturally
larger. no one ever argues about people
who have a hard time keeping weight ON
saying they "aren't doing enough" it's
crap. I am a larger girl and damn proud
because i guarantee you I eat more
healthly that you do and i work out more.
i ball room dance for crying out loud.
peoples skeletal frames are built
differently. people inherit body types
form families just like noses and eyes and
smile and diseases. and don't bother
arguing back, because it's true and maybe
if you read a book about the human body
you would know that rather than just
blindly accepting what society deems to be
correct. because most women who are "thin"
and "healthy" are not. they are usually
under weight or have other health issues.
a skinny person can get type 2 diabetes or
heart disease or have bad colesterol or
high blood pressure just as much as a
larger person. If you are going to attempt
to argue a subject, know more about it,
know the truth and for that matter learn
how to type because it's like reading
another language because that gibberish
you are writting is most definitely not
english.
PS, The Godly One is right, skin is highly
elastic and unless you just lost so much
weight that there is no way for it to
tighten, then it's going to work itself
out congrats to you on
achieving your goal!
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Doug.
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2008 Posts: 6
Your problem is about Self-Love Posted: 07-01-08 17:27pm
You don't have any Self-Love and without
that I doubt that you could ever love a
significant other in your life. You see
that Self-Love must be the Pivotal-Point
around any and all relationships, to put
it quite bluntly, If there is no Self-Love
and you cannot love yourself, how are you
going to love others?
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EddyMc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jun 2008 Posts: 23 Location: , Ireland
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Posted: 07-04-08 05:12am
I will not come out and say looks are
unimportant because they are for everyone
no matter what they say its a human
condition, everyone likes someone to look
good to (now read this)THEM, what one
person sees as ugly(I hate that word)
another will see an the most beautiful
attractive person they have ever seen.
So it sounds like you lost your weight
pretty fast which has caused loose skin,
now without seeing it I can not know how
bad your problem is but if it very bad,
don't fret it can be fixed, it might not
be the vision you have in your head of the
perfect toned body(come on who has that
now adays) but you will be able to get
yourself into a place where you are happy
about it(this is if it is really bad).
What you need to do for a beginning is to
get lots of protein into your diet, this
will help with the exercise program you
will be starting, this will be a figure
comp weight lifting program have a look
here http://tinyurl.com/6jq8rc for
training, you are not looking to get
massive but you need to put muscle mass on
to fill the skin out.
This will not take masses of muscle less
than you might think, if done right you
will look fantastic, at the moment drink
as much water as you can and get yourself
in to totally body massage ASAP, the water
will allow your skin to become more
elastic and the massage will help it
tighten a little, and when you start your
weight/resistance(start super light and
work your way up) training keep it going
with the massage.
Now lets say you have taken a year or two
to at this and you still have too much
skin(I highly doubt unless it was a lot of
excess skin) there is the surgery route, I
would advise you to try all other avenues
before going this way, its can look good
very good, but it can be pretty invasive
surgery and has its own list of
complecations, the human body has a great
capacity to fix itself you just need to
nudge it in the right direction before you
allow people to cut bits off you.
) I am now
completely satisfied with the way I look.
When I go out in my flashy threads, guys
can't help but drool from their mouth.
Hey, after 21 years of being miserable I
deserve to gloat, right?
congrats to you on
achieving your goal!