She needs to go to a doctor. Obviously, none of us can diagnose her over the internet.

The most common reason that women experience pain is being too dry. That means more foreplay, store bought lubrication, or both.

The second most common reason is being nervous. When a woman is nervous, her muscles tense up, even her vagina. It can become so bad that the woman can have trouble having sex, getting an exam, or using a tampon. Check out this site and see if this sounds like her. Http://www.Coolnurse.Com/vaginismus.Htm this is psychological and often requires counseling. It is fairly common in girls who think that sex is supposed to hurt or in women who have been sexually abused.

The third reason is other medical problems including various infections. It is possible that her yeast infection did not clear up.

Either way, she has to see someone. All sexually active women are supposed to see their ob-gyn every year anyway. Part of being a sexually active adult is being responsible, taking care of yourself, and seeking help when needed.

Sounds like she does have an infection of some sort.

Also try different positions, I know if I have sex for too long in a certain position it feels like my innards are being stabbed!!!!

I spoke to her about it last night, which resulted in a huge arguement, shes now not speaking to me and wont go to the doctors. She assumes im only saying it because I want more sex, and I cant get through to her that I just want to do it without her being in pain. Dont know what im going to do, she just refuses to go to the doctors.

That's a really tough situation. Do you know why she refuses to see a doctor now?

Because " she doesnt want some old bloke looking at her vagina" and she thinks because they didnt sort it last time they wont be able to do anything for her this time.

Hmm. I can relate to the not wanting "some old bloke looking at" my vagina part. what about female doctors? Some women will only see men, some will only see women, and some don't care either way. So doctor offices and the like are used to people asking for a doctor of a certain sex. Also, many clinics are all female. I went to one like that and loved it. All of the doctors, nurses, and secretaries were female.

If she feels like her last doctor didn't do a good job, that's no reason to avoid doctors altogether. She can go to another doctor. I have had some doctors that rushed me in and out, but I have had others that actually took time to sit down and explain things. There are a lot of doctors out there. Actually, the place where people always sat down with me to explain everything in depth was at the all female clinic. However, if the doctor gave her something to clear it up, and she never took it or never told the doctor that it didn't work, that isn't the doctor's fault. They don't know the treatment didn't work unless we tell them that.

If she has had a yeast infection for this long, or if it is a yeast infection that keeps coming back, it could be a sign of an underlying problem.

Also, yeast infections can be passed on. That means that you could end up with it on your penis or in your mouth!

I suppose the hard part will be to get the information through to her, however. You know her better than we do, so you know what might make her angry, or what might make it through to her better than we do. Maybe you could find some websites about it to show her? Maybe seeing that it can be a sign of underlying problem, or that she could pass it on to you would make her more likely to see a doctor?

Http://www.Brown.Edu/student_services/heal th_services/health_education/sexual_health /sti/yeast.Htm
http://www.Jhhs.Org/myjewishhospital/encyc lopediahtml/95.Html