Hi,

i'm so sorry to hear about your sil's stillbirth. I lost my 2nd baby at 37 weeks so I can relate to some of what she's going through. As far as the breast milk goes, tell her not to pump or express because it will take longer for the milk to completly dry up. She can take warm showers and let the water run over her breasts to relieve some of the pain. Another thing that can help is cabbage leaves placed in her bra (she should wear a tight bra something like a sports bra which will also help with the pain). It's hard to say how long it will take for the milk to dry up. It took me about a week before I wasn't bothered with the pain, but I still had milk for months.

I hope this helps some.

If your sil wants to talk, she can pm me anytime.

Christina