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Q: Still Freaking Out Inside....
asked by: KariM18 on February 6th, 2004
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Hi everyone.. Okay as most of u know, I am 18, and 16.1 weeks pregnant* anyhow I wrote about this a long time ago but I need to write about it again. I am like 99.9% sure ryan is the dad (i told him he is) ... But see, I was with him in oct. From like the 20th-november 10th.. Anyhow.. Thing is, I had sex with someone else (a one time thing, a big huge mistake) on oct. 3rd.. But I had my period after that, on oct.15th... I told my doctor this and he said he thinks its ryans because I am measuring to fit my due date so far, and because I had a normal period after chris (the one time guy) okay, me and chris r still friends but the big problem is.. (and please please dont let it offend anyone, please) but he chris is black.. And my parents are against bi- racial relationships and are very ignorant and racist, just against dating out of my race mostly tho, not just friends (i am not at all obviously, but I cant change what they think) I dated chris before, a long long time ago, but never slept with him, my parents wouldnt even let him over. Then one day, on oct.3rd we made that mistake. Anyhow, even though its unlikely, im still worried, I mean if it came out his.. My parents, and grandparents wouldnt except it.. Im afraid I would have to give it up for adoption? I mean I wouldnt want to at all tho.. I love it already.. I doubt its his.. But my doc said there is still a small chance and u never know. But the baby would have no exceptance besides from me! Even chris's family is against bi-racial couples and dating.... What do u think? Thansk for your help!
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insurancegirl replied on February 6th, 2004
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JillMarie replied on February 6th, 2004
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Oh man you are in a bad situation! What do you think about telling ryan then keeping it between you two?
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KariM18 replied on February 6th, 2004
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O no im not tellin ryan.. Hes a dick.. He dropped me when he found out I wouldnt get an abortion.. And if I told him that, then he would tell everyone that im a promiscuous person and dont know who the father is. He still says ''its prolly someone elses''.. And he has no idea about chris.. Plus, his family all knows already. I really think its ryans anyhow so I dont wanna tell him and then have to go back and re-tell his parents it is his afterall and keep switching back and forth. If its chris's it will be the worst thing that could ever happen. .To any of us.
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hearenbaby8504 replied on February 6th, 2004
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Kari, when we talked earlier I never realized this was the problem, I was thinking how ya ryan is a dick. Now that I read this I think that everything will be okay, I mean of course we all know 1 time can get you preggy, but like you said you had a period and even the Dr. Says that it is ryans. I really think it will turn out great.
If it is chris's baby, just because it would be bi-racial does not mean you should have to give up your baby, besides I dont think your heart would let you after all we know how much you already love the baby. If your parents love you then they should get over it and love the baby just as much as they love you. They should accept their grandbaby no matter what. Don't worry bout it Smile
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honeycoco replied on February 6th, 2004
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Jen your kids are bi-racial? I didnt understand your post. Please give me the story. Its sad your parent are still in that state of mind, but dont stress over it. It should be ryans baby.


Chrystal
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Untimely Blessings replied on February 6th, 2004
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Christina is 1/4 black, caler is 1/2 black and my dad hated it at first, but he got over it! I don't think your baby is chris' but if it is, they will get over it!

Kelly
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KariM18 replied on February 7th, 2004
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Thanks everyone it means alot and is very helpful. I try not to stress but I swear it secretly eats me up inside.. I will try not to let it tho, I know its not good for me or the baby* I am going to pray every night that its ryan's. (even tho hes a jerk) it would just be easier and better, bein both me and chris's families arent accepting. Prayer #billion (lol) tonite!
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sparklypixie12 replied on February 7th, 2004
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Wow! I wud never have thought christina was 1/4 black because of her features & her light skin-i bet she tans easily though.
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insurancegirl replied on February 9th, 2004
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Mesmerizeu15 replied on February 9th, 2004
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Kari,

think about this, I have been with larry for 5 years, but we both cheated on each other. We were basically just together because we knew one day we would be together for good. I moved around a lot and when I moved down to florida I was "with" some kid named bobby. Well anyway later to say about 1 months later larry got out of jail, and about 4 months after that I was pregnant. Now think about that that is 5 months. Plus 9 months of pregnancy, and I still thought that there was a possibility that I was pregnant by the kid in florida, and then I kept thinking that the baby was gonna be purple. Things happen in our brain, its called our self concious. It is eating at us because we know that we did wrong. Now even though larry knew about it I still felt bad. But it turned out that I felt bad because I knew that it was wrong...Larry cheated on me during my pregnancy needless to say, but I can honestly say he knew that sean was his.. Sean looks just like him. I hope that you understand what I am trying to say, and I think that you will be fine. But also I am sorry that you parents are like that. My mom was against having the baby (sean is white thogh) but I had him and she feel in love with him. Good luck!!
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KariM18 replied on February 9th, 2004
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Thank u everyone! Thank you so much mesmerize! It means alot!
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