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January 26th, 2007

...In the family.

I'm not sure if yall remember me talking about the .Uncle that .Oni shares a birthday with. Her .Uncle .Marty. And how their birthday's are gonna fall on .Easter in 2018?(maybe I was just talkin to .K, but I can't remember)

well, yesterday, when I was taking the pics to post on here, .Oni would *not* stop staring at something. I didn't know what it was, but I snapped a pic of her staring...

now this is me getting her attention back...

little did I know that her .Uncle .Marty had *just* died.
I'm not one to jump to say "it was him! It was him!" but I just can't shake the overwhelming feeling of him being there while she slept.

He was pressure washing the side of a church when he had a massive heart attack. Or cardiac arrest. We're thinking he had a mino heart attack the other night at church, because he was rubbin his chest, but never said anything to us.
It's sad...I think it could have been prevented if he would have said his chest hurt a couple days ago...Men...

He was alone when he died...Thank .God he had the strength to walk into the street before he collapsed... Sad

when I heard the news, I immedietly started crying. Oni is at the stage, where if I cry, she cries. So I have to hold my composure and it sooo effin hard.

This year & every year for .Oni's birthday, we're going to visit the cemetary before we celebrate.
We had *just* talked about a month ago about how fun the birthday was gonna be...

Soooo... My car won't start now. Baron's dad is gonna come over and see what's up with it.

I'll keep yall posted on the service and everything.
Please keep us in yalls prayers. This is really hard for the entire family.

Sarah

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AyaMiyaki

replied January 26th, 2007

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Oh my .God, .I'm so sorry love. That's such a tough thing to go through. Maybe he was there by .Oni. They say little ones can see things we can't.

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Sandbox Party

replied January 26th, 2007

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Yeah girl that totally sucks!!! I'll pm you my cell number if you wanna talk...

Im here for you girl.

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lil_blaze2004

replied January 26th, 2007

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Aww i'm sorry about her uncle. I'm sure she did see something. Babies see more than we do!

How old was he?

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Bridget

replied January 26th, 2007

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I'm so sorry, sarah. My uncle just died too. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

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Eyes Wide Shut

replied January 26th, 2007

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Thanks ladies...Everytime he saw .Oni he would just gawk over her!! Talk about how georgous she is, and how beautiful she's going to be when she's older.

I was feeding the baby and .Baron's phone was in our room, ringing. My phone was dead.
Baron was sprawled out on the sofa and said "i ain't worried about that damn phone, i'm tryin to relax!"
i told him "but my phone's dead. Heaven forbid .Ga.Ga (his grandmaw) died!" I was totally joking and he was like "it's prob just your mom callin to tell us some sh't we already know..." and it was *his* mom.

When he got up to get it he called his mom back and was like "oh my god!What?!?!?!?!?!" and I freaked! I was like "what? What? What? What?!?!?!"

and he said it..."uncle marty died!" Shocked

sucks.... He was only 60 years old!!

Sarah

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Melissa_20

replied January 26th, 2007

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I'm sorry sarah. . .At least .Oni got to see him! I'll pray for you!

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hopefulmjz

replied January 26th, 2007

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I'm sorry to hear about your .Uncle .Marty's death. You and your family will definately be in our prayers.

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ANGELOS MAMA

replied January 27th, 2007

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Im so sorry sarah.Your uncle is in my prayers.

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michelle1981

replied January 27th, 2007

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I'm so sorry .Sarah for you & your family's loss.

I do believe kids can see much more then we we can/do. Maybe he came to say good-bye Sad

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Eyes Wide Shut

replied January 27th, 2007

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They share birthdays. He was really fond of .Oni.

The did the autopsy and found that he had corinary heart disease.
His chest was hurting a couple days before. This was a heart attack that he experienced.
His last day, was more of a cardiac arrest. All areteries to/from the heart we're 100% clogged.

He didn't suffer at all. As soon as he would have felt a "pinch" in his chest, he'd be dead...

I just can't shake the feeling of him watching her while she slept. And then here I come bustin in with a camera!

It's sad...
Sarah

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Sunflower_pie81

replied January 27th, 2007

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Sarah,

I am so sorry for you and your family, i'll keep them in my prayers. I am sure that he will aways be there for .Oni.

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Eyes Wide Shut

replied January 28th, 2007

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Thanks .Gen!

We found out the day and time of the wake/funeral.

The wake is going to be tomorrow(.Monday) night. And the funeral will be .Tuesday morning.

He was involved in the church, & he was a .Mason, so they're going to have ceremonies there as well. I don't think we're going to go to those. Being that .Oni isn't gonna take to well with everyone crying.

She's at the age where if people she loves cry, she cries...It's soo sad. She was doing it last night when .Jathan started crying!

Sarah

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red_rose1

replied January 29th, 2007

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Aw sarah I just read this.

I'm so sorry, be strong girl!

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Eyes Wide Shut

replied January 29th, 2007

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Thanks .Tanya! We've taken it pretty well so far. I mean, after the initial blow, it's been ok.

His wife went yesterday to cut his hair and she felt extreeme closure to be that close to her husband. She said he looked great! And he wasn't even made up yet! He had no make up, nothing, and she said he looked awesome!

I couldn't imagine losing .Baron. Especially after 30 some odd years of marriage.

I've been thinking a lot lately about life. I realize it took it for granted waaay too much.
I realized that the words "i .Love .You" aren't expressed enough.

Do you realize that death happens in a *instant*? I mean, who would think that a perfectly "heathy" person could just drop? Like that.

Sarah

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Jules

replied January 29th, 2007

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babymajic0506 wrote:

do you realize that death happens in a *instant*? I mean, who would think that a perfectly "heathy" person could just drop? Like that.
Sarah

.When a person is old, I think that is a merciful way to go but when it someone who should have had years ahead of them, it's tragic.

My .Nan died when she was 60 from breast cancer and it was a long and painful experience that no-one deserves. You're right, 60 is still young by today's standards and i'm really sorry about your uncle. Sad

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lil_blaze2004

replied January 29th, 2007

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I have an enormous fear of death. Like huge to the point where I think I have problems sometimes. Confused

There's nights I lie awake thinking about it for hours and it sucks!!! I need help!

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Jules

replied January 29th, 2007

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lil_blaze2004 wrote:

i have an enormous fear of death. Like huge to the point where I think I have problems sometimes. Confused

There's nights I lie awake thinking about it for hours and it sucks!!! I need help!

i know what you mean. Sometimes I can be doing anything, just normal things, and it will suddenly hit me: "i'm going to die one day. I'm actually going to feel myself dying and know I am dying and then i'm going to be gone and gone forever." god, I wish I was religious Sad

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tigresacanela24

replied January 29th, 2007

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Sarah, i'm so sorry to hear about your uncle. You know i'm here for you. How're you holding up?

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lil_blaze2004

replied January 29th, 2007

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purestgreen wrote:

lil_blaze2004 wrote:

i have an enormous fear of death. Like huge to the point where I think I have problems sometimes. Confused

There's nights I lie awake thinking about it for hours and it sucks!!! I need help!

ahhhhhh me too!! We're so morbid. I hate thinking of it!

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