Pls Dont Ignore Me.. I Have a ? For Yous

Doctors say that you shouldn't try to get pregnant for 3-6 months after you stop b/c so I am guessing that is how long it takes to get out of your system. Also quitting b/c has some pregnancy side effects. If your not sure, take a test, I am sure you will be fine hun! What is your first language?

Kel

Well I got pregnant a month after I got off birth control.. So that can definitly happen. How old r u?? If ur not trying to get pregnant then y dont u get back on birth control? And also. .If ur not usin birth control or condoms then yes u can get pregnant right away~ .. So I would give the advice to get back on it..

Ultimate blessing: well american sign language is my first language

kari- I am 17 and not trying to get pregnant.. Im just getting sick of using birth control. Im going to have a long talk to my boyfriend tonight. If he gets mad, then thats too bad for him. Im done doing things with him and im just pissed off right now for some reason related to school. I need to vent.. I need to run away from everything. Everything has to be soo difficult for me. I just cant really.G stand it at all. One reason is that I want to get knocked up and just to get lost in my life, its soo freaking frustrated. I hate everything in my life. As you can see.. I have depression in my life but I told myself... Once I get out of school... Im running away from my boyfriend, my mom, and anyone else. I just hate it.. And I dont want to see anyone again.. At all. They are soo extremely irriating and I dont want them to be. Im sorry if im like this.. I know I need to vent/chill out a bit. People asking why im not using birth control.. Thats not their business to know about this. Its mine.. If I wanta get knock up then I should be.. But im not gonna. If my boyfriend gets mad that we aint gonna have sex.. Then I would feel bad becuase I do love him beside sex.. And same with him. He just cant help his hormones when he sees me and stuff like that. We sleep together beside sex(just leave that out). I understand guys sometimes but somtimes they are a jerk. Its complicated and I just wanta run run run run forever til I die. Its pissing me offfff. Sorry guys! Nobody on here wants to talk to me because im different? I get this kind of junk ... All the time. I just hate it. Im just a normal gal who have problem in her life. Reply back when u see this.

Wow, sweetie take a deep breath. I first handily understand about stress ok? My mother is dying on me, even though she is trying hard to stay with me, her struggle makes her tired and weak. My daughter’s father whom I haven’t seen in 6 years comes back to see her. My best friend since the 4th grade was raped and beaten up in her home, her safe haven and to top it off, I am told repeatedly not to stress out, or to calm down because its not good for the baby or for my daughter. But even though everything seems almost hopeless right now, there is always positive in it! My positive is that my mom is still here, even though she is tired. My best friend and her unborn daughter are going to be ok. Christina keeps me happy when she accomplishes something new. Don’t run from your problems sweetie, cause when you get back they will be waiting for you and wherever you run, there will be another set waiting too. So take a deep breath, let it out and look for some good!

Kel

I agree with kelly! Hun.. It will be okay. .. U think it wont .. But trust me, it will. Ive had times liek this b4! When I was 15-17 I cant tell u how many times I thought about committing suicide.. I tried 3 times but obviously something inside of me didnt want to go because here I still stand... There is always a reason to be here.. And running away wont be the answer. Ur problems will just follow you. U have to work on solving the problems, not running. .And u u wanted to maybe get''knocked up'' because it would just get u lost in ur life? That confused me, and that u were ''sick of using birth control''.. . But trust me, getting pregnant right now would only further complicate and worsen your problems and birth control is 100x easier then a baby.. But u said u arent gonna have sex anymore anyhow, but thats fine! If ur boyfriend doesnt except it medical question him! Y are u sick of everyone, what have they done??? Also, no one said they didnt wanna talk to u because your different.. We did reply. . . I didnt know u were any different.

I do agree with you both, but I am not trying to run away from problems. Its me that I want to run away from myself or who I am. I change past 2 years. It is soo complicated and I love my boyfriend so much and everything. Well the thing is that I dont want to be pissed off when me and my boyfriend do things and he gets mad if he came inside of me. I understand his opinions and stuff like that. Well we'll see how it goes tonight and i'd let you know on sunday. Its complicated. Im not wanting to kill myself or anything, im just depressed because I aint witht he same guy that I used to went out with... And its so hard that I have no communication with him at all. My boyfriend is my second true love, but I do not understand why I want to run away from him, I dont have a reason.. I love him to death, I want to have a family with him.. Eitherly.. Right now or never. I dont want to have a kid at the age of 30... Im so sick of everyone being opposed to it. I know whats best for me and im ready to take a responsiblities. Well whats the point of going to a club and get drunk at night.. Then accident will happen that night. I dont drink or do drugs at all. Im just a mature girl who is brave enough to face the challenge. I know what its like to take care a baby becuase I have a cousin at my age .. She have a son who is about a yr old. I have been there for her to help her. Right now, shes not there for her son at all because she dont want to be. Well I dont know what else to say... Reply back

Ok so ur confusing me. . One minute u say u dont want a kid right now, but there u go again saying u do.. Im sorry, but no matter what u think, I dont think your ready. .U mite think u are.. But read some of the other posts just recently posted. U wont ever know till u have one of ur own. It doesnt matter if ur cousin does it... Thats not ur baby. No one said u have to have a kid at 30.. But y in the hell at 16?? If u think this is the guy u will be with forever. .Then u have a little time to wait. .

I find you funny sometimes but right now.. Very opposing to some teens. Like I said, I aint trying right or anything. Im 17, not 16. I told you.. Ppl likes to complain about me not being clear. I dont care if im trying to be clear to you people but it just so hard for me. I do get the concept of what its like to have a kid.. Or how hard to deal with it. If you think I dont, but I do. When im at his cousin's house... My boyfriend wakes me up at 6 or 7 am .. I usually dont wake up til 10, but when im there.. I was force to wake up to play with chris lee jr but I dont mind. My mom said I need to break the habit of waking up late during the day. I do agree but im not trying to ruin my child'hood life right now. I dont find myself a child anymore.. I find myself a teenager who is old enough to take a huge responsbilities. My boyfriend mom knows how I feel about having a child. My mom was a teen mom because she had me at 19.. My boyfriend's mom had her first son at age of 17. Teen pregnancy runs in my family, not to surprise you but it does run in my family. My mom's boyfriend's mom had her first son at the age of 16 and was married. Shes a widow now because her husband is in heaven. My grandma ( I dont know much of her history but I do believe that she was young when she had her first son.. ( she had 4 kids of her own and my mom was one. The only daughter). I'd be damn surprise if people were opposed. I dont think I would get pregnant or trying to get pregnant at this age. Im not going to ruin my mom's dream .. That she had for me. Well I dont know what to say, all I can say is sorry to those who didnt want to get knock up or those who does. Although, I do know having a baby can turn your dreams upside down sometimes, not only if you have a very supportive family in your life. My side of the family isnt supportive, not that I know of but they are encouraging me to go to college...And im planning to but im afraid right now. My boyfriend side of the family is very supportive, my boyfriend's aunt keep asking me when shes gonna be a great aunt.. And I said well I dont know but she does have a feeling that I might be pregnant before high school over (my senior year, though I got 4-5 month left to graduate, and im not going to cry over those little things). My mother is very strict on me, if I happen to be pregnant.. She said those line to me which is " darling, if you ever happen to be pregnant or ever would.. You cannot have abortion or adoption, im gonna make you keep your baby and see what its like to having those kind of consquences"... She said those lines when I was 15yrs old. I was a virgin when I was 15. I lost my virginity at 16... Knowing to accept any kind of consquences. Well when I lost it, I developed a strong urinary tract infection, I was ashame to tell mom.. Mom thought I may could be pregnant at that time, but the test turn out negative. I was happy because im not ready to take those kind of responsbilities at 16 but would have to accept those kind of consquences. I can see that I have change over a year though... Daily life never changes.. Only goes one day to the next. I dont know what to say but maybe to hear somd more opposing points from you kari? Or anyone else?

No, if ur not trying to get pregnant I have nothing to be opposed about. As long as your not trying, but I hope u use birth control , wether your 'sick' of it or not, but if u use nothing, well, then that is trying..But things were way different back then , u have to remember that, it was normal to have kids at 16 and 17, and it was a good thing when our grandparents were young. So thats way different. I am opposed to teens trying to have kids, yes I am, because its ignorant. But if someone does end up pregnant (not trying) then I know they can be good moms all the same just like some of the wonderful moms here* just hopefully ur careful and enjoy your life, go to college and as u said, fulfill the dreams u want to fullfill for yourself and your mother*

Ok!
You are right, and of course I understood everything you said. Teen pregnancy runs in my boyfriend side of the family, still. I just want to stop everything, including sex. I want to change that now, I dont know why but I do. Its not that im trying, it just something that my boyfriend get upset easily if he wants it but I dont. Though I would be upset if he calls me name for not wanting one so bad. Its complicate, hard to explain it to you... Sorry.

Please dont use the excuse that teen pregnancy runs in your family, if u do get pregnant its no ones fault but ur own, u should learn from ur parents mistakes and sort ur self out a bit before even thinking about having a baby........ Look at it this way, if you wait till ur atleast 25 and uve been with a bloke for atleast3 years then you will have broken the cycle, and you wont be a young grandmother, I am only 21 and my daughter is 2 1/2 I only have 10 years minimum ( hopefully alot longer) till my daughter could have a baby of her own, if she gets pregnant at 12 or 13 that would make me a grandmother by the time I was 31, even ifr she waits till she is 20 id still only be 38, I dont wanna be a grandma when im in my 30s

Ok firstly....Wow.......Take a breath wot the girls have said is true, if u dont want a baby just yet then I would get back on bc and even tho bc is called that it can be used 4 other reasons like regulating ur period and things like that. Also if u dont want to take bc control so that u wont have to have sex with ur bf cause thats wot it sounds like.

He gets angry if u dont wanna have sex so u figure if u go off bc then he got not choice but not to have sex. To this I would say wot a jerk. Wot sort of a guy demands sex off his gf if she dont wanna do then I say to u dont do give him a dirty magazine and tell him to go to the bathroom u are better off without a man like this in ur life. And if u loved ur previous bf then y are u with this one.

And wot sort of problem do u have, I think ur the deaf one and if u r u are using it as an excuse for all the bad things in ur life and if ppl dont wanna talk to u cause ur deaf then they are ignorant. And if that is the reason and u find it hard to cope with being deaf now it only gets harder, im deaf and so is my mother in law and she has had it way harder then wot u could imagine, I think u need some help u r severly depressed and I think u get weighed down with all the stress in ur life and if u could see things a little clearer I think that would be good.

I dont mean to offend but ur posts are confusing its hard to tell where ur coming from when u only explain half a story or change ur mind from posts to post.

From someone who cant wait to have a jelly bean all of their own

Uhh thanks alot. I mean I appriecate your posts and all. I do understand what its like to be a young teen mom. Okay.. Right now im frustrated.. And you guys arent being supportive.

Sweetcheeki17
don't we already have someone here with a name like this? Or is she the same one? I'm lost.

Ok.....Im not sure how much more supportive we can be. Wot exactly is it ur asking from us. We have listened we have given u the best advice we can give u from the information u have given us.

If u are looking for sympathy from me for being deaf ur not going to get it, because it is nothing but I cop out and dont tell me I dont understand as im deaf myself its something that u just deal with, like some ppl wear glasses im deaf. And we are all frustrated and this site is a good place to vent that frustration especially given it is so confidential and we only know limited stuff about each other.

I hope everything gets better for u and there is only so much we can do, I think u really need to see a counsellor for ur depression and that way u can really work thru all ur issues and believe me u will feel 100% better when u dont have so many concerns like the ones u have.

From someone who cant wait to have a jelly bean all of their own

Wow I couldnt agree with allusive pond more, everytime you come onto this site you come here looking for something, not just with a simple question, but with a task at hand, a task to get us all rilled up, and a task that includes trying to recieve sympathy. We understand that you are suffering from depression, but that is just yet anothe reason why not to bring a baby into this world. If you cannot handle your life now, why would you want to damage it more, by bringing a baby into this world, let alone damage that childs life. A childs life should be filled with smiles and joy, not hatrid and tears. Plus you say that you wanna run away frm your boyfriend and everything else, you will need some help with this baby. You cant do it on your own. I get some really creepy visions when I talk to you, bye.