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I am a verbal abuser. My wife and I are
currently separated. We do not discuss
what is going on with us. She says she
doesn't know. She also tells me that she
has not thought past being separated.
Unfortunately she has told me that she
wants to have sex, with someone else.
Just sex, no relationship. She almost
slept with our 19 yr. Olds friend. I
love my wife very much and would not dream
of sleeping with anyone but her. I am not
doing well with the situation. I help her
financially as much as I can. I just
don't know if I should wait for her to try
to work things out or she tells me she had
sex with someone else or should I just ask
for a divorce or should I just wait. We
have been separated for almost a month.
Please write me your opinions.
Please write me your opinions.
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RedDelight
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
| angry and alone wrote: |
| i am a verbal abuser. My
wife and I are currently separated. We
do not discuss what is going on with us.
She says she doesn't know. She also
tells me that she has not thought past
being separated. Unfortunately she has
told me that she wants to have sex, with
someone else. Just sex, no relationship.
She almost slept with our 19 yr. Olds
friend. I love my wife very much and
would not dream of sleeping with anyone
but her. I am not doing well with the
situation. I help her financially as
much as I can. I just don't know if I
should wait for her to try to work things
out or she tells me she had sex with
someone else or should I just ask for a
divorce or should I just wait. We have
been separated for almost a month.
Please write me your opinions. |
wow angry...That is not cool of her- wants sex from you? What are you, a toy?! Screw that sh*t.
Listen to your gut instinct here...Are you happy when you are with her or annoyed? Please.. Have pride for yourself. Dont' let her use you in this way! That's wrong- and hurtful of her. I have been in a verbal relationship.. Actually currently getting rid of the second verbal abuser at this moment
I suggest going to
a therapist. Who gives you the right to
be abusive.. Even if it just is verbal-
does anyone diserve that? It has to be
bothering you as well. You don't sound
too pleased.. Not only with your
relationship.. But yourself as well.
I am sorry this is happening to you, angry. It can get better- but only if you want it to be. I am here to talk any time.
get a third out
opinion in-person. If you are truely
unhappy.. And she wants to sleep around?
That's not healthy for anyone to go
through...And if she loved you- she would
never put you in that position. Would
you?
Don't let this eat away at your spirit. You did a good step, by coming on here- and talking about it. You should seek some additional help, with the verbal abuse.. And I am proud of you- that you can admit you have that problem. It is a fixable thing. That took balls! Thank god someone on here finally has some!
you've got to put yourself first for once. Take care of things on your end.. It will get better!
I am here-
-=rebecca=-
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babydance143
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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