Some people are open about sex and some aren't. Some people have sex anytime with anyone, some people don't. There are plenty of people like you and plenty like your ex. There is not necessarily anything wrong with either of you. I like to talk about sex right from the very beginning of a relationship, before anyone gets attached. That way, there are no surprises or misunderstandings like the one that you had. That might a good thing for you to start doing at the very beginnings of your relationships as well if it is an important issue for you. You can talk about what you have both done, what you are both comfortable doing, etc. There are girls out there who are like you. If the sex issue bothers you that much, don't settle for what you don't want and aren't comfortable with. You can find a girl without much experience if you look.

Thank you for your response...Very much. You make great sense to me by saying talk about it before anyone gets attached. I am still in contact with my ex and I think its time to cut that off if im still having these horrid images/thoughts. Keep in mind i'm bipolar and have a problem with ruminating thoughts, chewing them up over analizing them etc. Thank u for your reply again...It will help me though this day.