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Q: 32wk Appointment & Other Things.

asked by: arcadia on January 22nd, 2007

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Just got home a little bit ago from my 32wk doctor's visit. Everything is a-ok. My next visit is in 2 weeks &.I start seeing all the other doctors from now on. So .I can be familiar with all of them just in case my doctor isn't the doctor on call when .I go into labor! Can't believe it's already getting so close. Yowza.

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.Did anyone else get ridiculously depressed at the end of their pregnancy? I feel so hopeless lately. I'm so excited for .Gabe to be here, but everything else just feels so bleak. We don't have a place of our own to live, .I had to quit my job early, things with .Chris seem so weird.. I don't know if it's just because .I'm pregnant, or if we've just hit a general rough patch. But .I can tell that .I'm just driving him nuts &.I'm trying so hard, but no matter what .I can do, .I keep making him mad or annoyed. He didn't want to pay his phone bill because he said .I'll call him too much or text him too much. So now .I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me ever. It's so hard to get him to cuddle with me or even kiss me. &.Whenever .I try to initiate anything sexually, it ends up just me giving him head &then him rolling over &going to bed. It's never been like this before. He snaps at me for everything, &keeps telling me how helpless .I am, &how .I have to man up because we're going to have a baby &stuff like that. I try to talk to him about it but all he says is "sorry" or ".I don't know what to say to make you feel better." .I feel like he's dreading the fact that he got me pregnant &now he's going to have to be with me forever. I feel like he doesn't like me. I know he loves me. But sometimes .I just feel like he doesn't want to be with me, even though when .I told him that today he got really upset &told me he wants to be with me more than anything &that if he wanted to leave, he would've done it already.

&.He's not the only problem. My sisters are becoming increasingly mean towards me, too. They always tell me how they can't wait until .I don't live here anymore &how much .I bug them &they always complain about having to share things with me &how they don't want to have to live with a baby.

I seriously just feel like everybody .I know is extremely annoyed with me &doesn't want to be around me or even talk to me at all.

It really sucks.

&.I'm sorry for venting.

Replies(17)

tinkinpink84 replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Your sister(s) ? Sound mean. I would hate that, thats how my sister was feeling at her husbands moms house, maybe chris is realizin that very soon there will be ababy there and everything will change. Near the end of my pregnancy my hubby acted the same way, even sexually lol it ended up like that I got sooo tired of the giving head thing . Its likesooo much goingon in such alittle time. I lived at my parents when I had my son , I couldnt wait to get out on my own. But my siblings would never say anything like that asmuch as they kinda hate me or did hate me. They liked my son more then me lol. Heofpully they all comea round when hes actually there .

AyaMiyaki replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Never be sorry to vent here, .Krissy. We're here to listen to you. Any time you feel sad, you know you can come to us.

Chris might be freaking out since .Gabe will be here in two short months. It might be occuring to him that "oh man, .I'm going to be someone's dad". Or maybe he's stressing out because he's been working so much. I'm sure he's not getting sick of you. He's probably just stressed out. Both of you are. The living situation isn't ideal, and he knows the clock is ticking. He's probably feeling a little bit helpless right now and frustrated that things aren't improving as quickly as he'd like.

I was extremely depressed at the end of my pregnancy. I had to quit in early .June, and .Alyvia wasn't born until .August. We were (and still are) extremely tight financially, and I felt so bad that I was responsible for doing that to us. To this day, I still don't touch our money. I only spend money if .Aaron gives it to me. I don't feel right spending money I didn't help earn, when I know we don't have much of it anyway.

Your sisters sound like brats to me. They're probably a little bit jealous, and they're definitely pretty selfish from what .I've read about them. Don't let them bully you, hon. You're going to be an amazing mother, and I bet you anything that they'll fall head over heels in love with their little nephew.

You're going to have some time on your hands when your 2 weeks is up. You know we're here for you, love. Any time you need to talk, we'll be here. Okay?

*big hugs*

Melissa_20 replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Krissy,you know we will *always* listen to you! Don't apologize for it!

Laura is right,chris is realizing that he is going to be father.There is also the fact that your hormones are raging right now and your emotions are going nuts! Chris doesn't know how to make you feel better and its becasue he can't be perfect.Hormones are nothing to mess with and i'm sure he feels bad about the way things are goig which is why he is acting this way. About the sex thing,you need to talk to him about it.Don't give him head anymore if your initiating it and not getting anything back. I'm sory you feel so bad sweetie! ((hugs))

lil_blaze2004 replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Totally agree with the other girls kris! We forget that the guys get freaked too as we're the ones preggo, we realize much earlier that we will be parents. I mean we're the ones that have to change our lifestyles from the minute we find out we're preggo. I remember rolling a spliff while waiting for my pg test cause I was so sure I wasn't preggo (i had to take the test to make sure I could have x--rays at the dentist-werid story) and when the test came up positive, I put it aside and thought. Oh ok, now what?? Lol

i got really down near the end too. Being bored as I went on early mat leave and just waiting, and being so huge and we had an early heat wave. It was like 100 in may that yr! I wanted to die.

We are always here to listen to you.

And yay!! Every 2 weeks now. It's gonna go by so fast!!!

Sail Away replied on January 22nd, 2007

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I'm sorry your going through a rough time Sad

I just know from my experience of being pregnant with .Brayden and being with .Chris sometimes guys find it really sexy to be pregnant and to have sex, and others don't. .Chris and I hardly had sex at all when I got farther along and started to pop out, he was scared to hurt the baby and etc (lmao) so it's not like it's you...It could be a lot of things. I mean comon..Your huge and pregnant and you wanna bounce on your man's weiner.

You can come live with me and .Brayden, your sisters sound like a bunch of b*tches that need their asses kicked. Shocked

<3 I loooooveee you.

arcadia replied on January 22nd, 2007

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dalicialovesyou wrote:

i mean comon..Your huge and pregnant and you wanna bounce on your man's weiner.

you can come live with me and .Brayden, your sisters sound like a bunch of b*tches that need their asses kicked. Shocked

<3 I loooooveee you.

.Lmao, .D!!!! That made me laugh so hard.
Yes! We'll move in with you &we'll all be lovers.
I loooove you back <3

&.Also thank you so much .Diane, .Laura, .Mel, &.Jess. You guys are the absolute best &.I honestly feel so much better after reading what you guys said.

<3 <3 <3

Melissa_20 replied on January 22nd, 2007

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arcadia wrote:

dalicialovesyou wrote:

<3 I loooooveee you.

.Lmao, .D!!!! That made me laugh so hard.
Yes! We'll move in with you &we'll all be lovers.

I loooove you back <3

&.Also thank you so much .Diane, .Laura, .Mel, &.Jess. You guys are the absolute best &.I honestly feel so much better after reading what you guys said.

<3 <3 <3

good i'm glad! Now hun,just relax.Keep reminding yourslef that its your hormones and that he is just as freaked out if not more than you are! It's coming up fast deary!

young_mama2be replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Hey hun. Guys are just weird during pregnancy and mine says is cuz of my crazaay hormones. But w/e hehe. I know you don't know me to well but you can pm me sometime if you want to talk!! <333

AyaMiyaki replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Where'd you find that song on your profile? Me likey!

tinkinpink84 replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Ya omg I drove jason insane alot of the time, the night before I went into labor I kind apeed him off quite a bit, although now we just look back and laugh about it. Im sure things will change alot once hes actually here, they will say alot while your pregnant but when reality hits it wont be the same. Its like now hes prob been used to doing whatever whenever and u two going out having fun etc but once the lil ones here your kinda limited ya know. Even after having akid already and kinda prepared for it still its a crazy change, seeing as u get into habits and stuff before theyre here thenyou have to readjust everything once theyre here.

Mommy35 replied on January 22nd, 2007

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You shouldn't feel guilty for venting. Many of us have gone through it, or are currently going through it. Sometimes knowing your not alone makes things a bit easier.

I'm sure he is super stressed knowing he's going to be a daddy, knowing there is a lot of responsibility with that, and also it's probably sinking in that it's not just going to be you and him anymore, but you him and gabe. Some men have hard time accepting that. It's probably frustrating to him that he tries to please you, make you feel good (happy) and it doesn't work. Men can say they understand the moods/emotions, but they have no idea. And hey, being moody is your right at this point. It suks, but it's a fact of life.

Mike and I are not really doing the deed as of late. (100% my fault). He may be afraid of hurting you or the baby, but there may be something else going on with him? Have you asked?
I wouldn't do a .Hummer under any circumstance if I was asking for it and getting nothing.

Good luck to you!!!!

arcadia replied on January 22nd, 2007

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ayamiyaki wrote:

where'd you find that song on your profile? Me likey!

.Isn't it absolutely beautiful? I can't stop listening to it.

AyaMiyaki replied on January 22nd, 2007

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arcadia wrote:

.Isn't it absolutely beautiful? I can't stop listening to it.

mmhmm! I copied you and stuck it on my page too. Hope you don't mind me jacking your style! Laughing

michelle1981 replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Poor .Kristina Sad

. I feel your pain! We are in the same boat girl! I feel so depressed too(on and off throughout this pregnancy).
I agree 100% with the other girls. Chris is probably feeling anxious & pressure, just like you! This changes everything... Not in a bad way, but some ppl don't adjust to change well either.

I hate change Evil or
Very Mad

, but I love my babies Wink

.

It'll all work out, you just watch!

Here's sending you a big preggo hug

**hugs**

bel_bel replied on January 22nd, 2007

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Hey krissy... Just relax yourself as much as possible ya'. As for getting a house of your own is something tat can't be rush. You are so young, and .Chris too, I haven't meet anyone on the age of 20,21 can actually own a house all by themselve.. My best friend also facing similar problems like yours... But she told me, she'll take a deep breath and go check up the baby stuff she had for her baby, maybe as simple as taking out the baby outfit, unfold & fold it back.. Tat makes her feel much better, and of cos her best friend -me- is jus a phone call away. As for you, u can always come up here and there's a bunch of love, care and support the ppl here could give ya.. Good luck !

ANGELOS MAMA replied on January 23rd, 2007

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Big warm hug.

Awwhh mommy its going to be okay.I been through that.To me it was more as of a phase in our relationship.But I dont know.Somethimes he dosent wanna cuddle with me still && caca like that.It makes me sad.But hey,i got my son to look foward to <3 and your baby boy gabe will be your pride and joy.Dont sweat it momma.Your pregnant.Its not easy.Always know that your hormones are going crazy.Stay strong mama.

kezia333 replied on January 23rd, 2007

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Hey!!! I know exactly how you feel, I have been feeling like crap lately as well. And the whole thing with your b/f I am going through the same thing except worse so I know how ya feel. My parents caught my fiance out eating with a girl and a bunch of his friends and my dad called him on it and he said the baby wasn't his to the girl and then came home and told me how much he loves me and all that caca so I don't even know whats going on with that or what I am going to do. I don't have the sister problem cause I only have 1 sister but I live with my mom for now and my step dad don't want me there. I have been so tired and my body hurts so bad I can't wait to have him in march!!! Anyway I hope things get better for ya!!! Hang in there

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