So my wife asked me to move out as few weeks ago, which I did. She said she needed some space and time because she has lost feelings for me. We have had a rocky relationship (2 years married dated 3 years) we get is some heated arguments about incidents in the past that for some reason we have not been able to let go of. There has been time in the past where I wanted to give up, but I know we haven’t taken the proper steps to resolve our issues.

Well she decided she wanted to work things out so we are starting counseling. I am sleeping in the office and trying to give her the space she needs. But haven’t been doing so well. She tells me she out of love with me and has no feelings for me. She says she should be feeling something when I hug her or kiss her on the cheeks, but she doesn’t. The Dr. Believes she has a wall up and we just need to get it down. However my wife does not believe she has a wall up. But anytime I go to hug or kiss her, she tenses up like i’m a stranger. Like she is not even allowing herself to feel.

So I guess here’s my question.. What can I do (other than giving her space) to deposit into her love bank without putting pressure on her. I know many people have been in my shoes so I am hoping I can get some ideas or advice. Thanks and sorry for the book.