I would think it's just like anything else.. Body paint, vibrators, sex games, biting, pulling hair, etc. It gets them aroused.

Pain can be pleasure for some ppl.

It is a dominance thing. Or rather being dominated. It doesent always have to be painful as much as it is symbolic. It is noting to be ashamed of. Think of it like dirty talk.

It's not always the man spanking the woman. In my marriage it's the other way around but there is no domination or anything like that, just pleasure and arousal.

I looove spanking, and getting spanked. Never to the point where it actually hurts though.

It's just fun. Its a little smack and a grab of the butt. It just feels good and kinky, can't really explain it. But its just fun, and is absolutely NOT because of depression and low self-worth at all!! Its playful.

Spanking to the point where it actually really hurts though, I don't get either.

I like spanking well i guess light spanking. It shouldn't hurt. It just helps me get into the mood and sometimes its just something different in bed. Its naughty in a way.

my boyfriend has a big thing about spanking me while i am not keen.. i dont mind when its light but he only starts out like that before getting harder and harder.. not pleasant when your bum starts stinging like mad! and now he wants to take it further using a cane.. i've posted about this in another forum area as i really looking for advice how to deal with it

lisa, if you are not keen about it, dont let your boyfriend do it. remember, a man will only go as far as u let him. really, just talk to him. i can understand a quick spank to spice things up, but the cane is really too much. best of luck to you!

Oh I disagree. As long as taking a chance isn't dangerous to your health it's extremely foolish not to try things at least once. We all have a favorite food we never imaged we'd like. Not trying something because we don't understand the appeal is a recipe for a life of miseries. However, Lisa should definitely learn more about BDSM before getting involved.

msminnamouse
I'm not really up to answering a 2 year old question but if you still have questions about spanking you're welcome to IM me.

W0LF, I would strongly disagree. Do not force yourself to try something you don't feel comfortable trying. She already feels that her boyfriend is pushing her boundaries.

Hey Kkozek
I understand your outlook but don't agree with it. Nothing good in my life has come of avoiding things I'm not comfortable with whether it was a promotion at work, a love for Indian food or a taste for rope bondage. More often than not the best things in my life were pushed on me by someone else. Establishing healthy boundries is an essential part of exploring the world around you and education about your curiousities is important in establishing where and why those boundries should be, but refusing to look boyond those boundries is a recipie for an unfulfilling life.

As it turns out Lisa_M has gone on to experiment more with heavier BDSM with her boyfriend. She was initially very positive about her experience. She hasn't posted recently and I hope she's doing well.