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Zanny
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Mabel
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| zanyzanny wrote: |
| no this isn't yet another picture post.. This is actually pretty serious. Well to me it is, to other people it doesn't seem to be.
Jenny's really started smiling recently, and not just at nothing, or because of wind.. Actual proper responsive smiles. She's done it for a couple of weeks, and in the past few days it's become more frequent. Only she's never done it at me. My sister came to stay last night and as soon as she picked .Jenny up and started talking and singing to her, she got the biggest grin ever. Whenever my brother picks her up and talks to her, again, he gets a big grin. My mum gets smiles, my dad gets smiles, my grandma.. Well you get the idea. Everyone, except me. This might seem like a stupid thing to get upset over, but i'm already being neglected by the guy who's supposed to love me.. And now it feels like my own daughter's doing it too. I know she's only 8 weeks old and she's only just started smiling properly, but i'm the one who spends the most time with her.. And yet she never even seems to want to look at me. I sing her the special songs i've sung to her ever since she was in my tummy and get no response. As soon as my sister does it she's absolutely transfixed. I thought my voice would be the one she'd react to most, and yet even when I talk to her she looks away and stares at nothing instead. Am I being stupid or does it sound like she's not bonding with me? I feel so unloved  |
babies don't relate 'bonding' with smiling at this age. Bonding is something entirely different. She is an infant and what you perceive as 'happiness' - or how smiling would be to you - it isn't the same for an infant.
It doesn't sound silly that you say it. It sounds real. She probably picks up on your mood recently (ie, feeling fat, feeling unloved) and your energy isn't the most 'fun' to be around, i'm sure. Relax. Be gentle on yourself, you have only been doing this mom thing for 8 weeks. It gets easier and harder as time goes on.
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AyaMiyaki
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She's probably the most comfortable around you, and completely used to you already. Your voice is probably more soothing, whereas someone else's voice is new and more "ooh!" to her, if that makes any sense. One day it'll occur to her that .Mommy is funny 
and she'll decide that she only wants you to sing her special song, because no one else does it right. She'll only want you to fix her afternoon snack, she'll run to you for kisses when she falls and scrapes her knee, and will want you reading her bedtime stories because you do the voices just the way she likes them.
I'm going through the same thing with .Alyvia and her father. She tolerates things with him that she won't with me. But she won't let him put her to bed - only .Mommy will do. So I take some comfort from that, and try to remind myself that at the end of the day, she only has one mommy and she knows that.
and she'll decide that she only wants you to sing her special song, because no one else does it right. She'll only want you to fix her afternoon snack, she'll run to you for kisses when she falls and scrapes her knee, and will want you reading her bedtime stories because you do the voices just the way she likes them.
I'm going through the same thing with .Alyvia and her father. She tolerates things with him that she won't with me. But she won't let him put her to bed - only .Mommy will do. So I take some comfort from that, and try to remind myself that at the end of the day, she only has one mommy and she knows that.
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Melissa_20
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| ayamiyaki wrote: |
| she's probably the most comfortable around you, and completely used to you already. Your voice is probably more soothing, whereas someone else's voice is new and more "ooh!" to her, if that makes any sense. One day it'll occur to her that .Mommy is funny and she'll decide that she only wants you to sing her special song, because no one else does it right. She'll only want you to fix her afternoon snack, she'll run to you for kisses when she falls and scrapes her knee, and will want you reading her bedtime stories because you do the voices just the way she likes them.
I'm going through the same thing with .Alyvia and her father. She tolerates things with him that she won't with me. But she won't let him put her to bed - only .Mommy will do. So I take some comfort from that, and try to remind myself that at the end of the day, she only has one mommy and she knows that. |
laura,you always give great advise! I totally agree with you!
Zany, your her only mommy girl! She's only 8 weeks old and yeah,she smiles but maybe she is just smiling cause she knows how to now? Its like when they discover their feet or fists,they chew on them right? Well its the same with facial movements.Maybe you voice *is* more soothing to her since she was in *your* belly.Calm down hun,she'll smile at you jsut be patient!
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tigresacanela24
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Chu went through a phase where he was in love with dh. He laughed his first belly laughs for dh and not for me 
. I started to get extremely jealous of dh because I felt like I was left out of the inner circle with my own baby for pete's sake! Now he focuses on both of us but when i'm in the house, i'm the only one he will let feed, change, bathe him. He laughs at me like i'm a world class comedienne! Honey, relax and be patient, it *will* change.
. I started to get extremely jealous of dh because I felt like I was left out of the inner circle with my own baby for pete's sake! Now he focuses on both of us but when i'm in the house, i'm the only one he will let feed, change, bathe him. He laughs at me like i'm a world class comedienne! Honey, relax and be patient, it *will* change.
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