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Q: the Story of Neil Being An A**hole (really Bad)
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Becky
Especially eHealthy
When he came in he had a big smile on his face and announced 'i'm going to the army in april' I laughed thinking he was joking but he was deadly serious. He hasn't signed up yet but his contract with the company his working for ends in april so he said it's the ideal oppurtunity.
I was speechless. He has talked about joining the army in the past (whilst we were together) and I told him if he ever did I would leave him cause he would be turning his back on me and the kids.
He has no logic behind joining the army. He is not doing it for his counrty (he is portuguese) he basically just wnats to do it for him so he is going to risk never seeing his kids again.
I said what about your kids? Aren't you going to miss them?!!! He said I will visit them twice a year. I said no to this because I think it will break the kids hearts seeing their dad twice a year for a week. They will miss him like crazy. I'd rather they never see him.
All he could talk about was how he has to break up with his new girlfriend. I said I don't give a f**k about maria. Your kids should come before anything! Including a stupid urge you have.
I'm sure he thinks it's going to be a vacation or something! He said to me 'you always knew I wanted my freedom' then robbie said 'freedom? Are you serious? You don't have freedom in the army. You do as your said and work like a dog'
i don't even know if he'll get in as he has a problem with one of his eyes and he can't see 100% out of it. But the way I feel I said to my mum and robbie that if he even makes the application (even if he doesn't get in) then i'm not going to let him see the kids anymore because in my eyes he has deserted them already in his mind. I will fight it in court if I have to.
He is such a selfish a**hole for putting a stupid whim that he has before the kids. I could understand if he had a valid reason other than 'i just want to do it'
i told him to get out of my house and then I burst into tears when he left.I just feel so sad for my kids that their dad is going to desert them. I grew up without a dad so I know how it feels. That is the only reason why I am angry at him for doing this
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LaurensEntourage
Extremely eHealthy
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
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Becky
Especially eHealthy
Thaks tazzy but I would never want him back so the only man he could turn into is a proper father to his children 
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oh_mommy
Supporter
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Sail Away
Extremely eHealthy
[quote="tazzy d"]the other good news is.. That the army might even turn him into a man, because they dont take no crap.. Trust me. And they will make him take care of his children and if you file for childsupport trust me you will get it. A friend of mine went through the same crap.. The only difference is when he finally turnded into a man he came home and asked her to get married.. So all I can say is good luck to you.[/quote
oh really? Well my sisters baby's dad is in the army and has been for 2 years and she still hasnt gotten any child support from him.
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oh really? Well my sisters baby's dad is in the army and has been for 2 years and she still hasnt gotten any child support from him.
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Becky
Especially eHealthy
The child support agency in this country is f**ked. I broke up with neil in september and still haven't recieved money off him 
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HcoBrunette06
Especially eHealthy
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