Joined: 15 Jan 2007 Posts: 4 Location: south carolina
New In Bipolar Relationship Posted: 01-15-07 22:06pm
I'm new to this site. Google helped me
find ya'll. (yeah i'm a lil country.)
i am in a new relationship with an older
guy. (34 vs. 23) we met because we work
at the same restuarant. He was so tall
and I dunno there is something about him.
At first it was fairly innocent I simply
had a crush. You see his girlfriend(now
ex) also works there. Turns out she got
pregnant. We said we would stop after all
she's pregnant. I respected that because
I figured he could make it work. Well we
didn't stop flirting, we even made out in
his car one nite after work. I knew it
was wrong what was worse is I was also in
a relationship at the time (another story
to never be told). Eventually I invited
him over to my house and bam boom one
thing lead to another ect. His then
girlfriend kicked him out, not because of
our affair; some other crap. We've been
together about 3 weeks now. Of course
full speed ahead. He told me he was
bipolar but I didn't really understand
until now.
So I worry that this isn't real.
He's going home soon, far away from here.
He wants me to eventually follow him up
there....I want to badly.
But is this all going to fall apart? Is
it possible to truly make it work?
Am I just being naive?
Maybe I can handle a relationship with my
sunny/blue.
I'm an emotional person at times. I need
alot of love. I feel like I love him but
of course I can't, not already?
I really don't have anyone to talk to.
I'm not comfortable enough to talk to him
about it. If I talk to anyone else they
all say "run!"
is it possible to actually be the "angel"
that he claims I am.
After reading so much I worry he's just
manic in love.....That he'll leave me just
like the rest of his women.
By the way this pregnancy will make his
3rd daughter.
I don't want to become just another baby
mama on his payment list.
But what if it is real?!?! What if this
is my true love?
At least I can now talk to some people.
~tokerjain~
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Under The Blue Sky
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jan 2007 Posts: 2 Location: , WI
Ok.. Posted: 01-17-07 01:07am
What disturbs me the most about your post
is that you are unaware of any medication
or treatments he is going through. I can
tell you this: a bipolar in mania without
treatment is trouble. Sexual promiscuity
is a huge characteristic of someone with
bipolar disorder. What makes you think he
wouldn't do the same to you? It is quite
obvious that he exhibits reckless
thrill-seeking behavior, as illustrated
through the fact that he already has 3
daughters. The fact that you engaged in
intimate physical contact while he was
with someone else also displays your lack
of respect for the other girl. Respect is
something a good solid relationship needs
- what makes you think that he would give
you the same? I know that you must feel
like "this could be it" for you, and if
you are indeed in love with him, it might
be in your best interest to ensure that he
is seeking some form of treatment to bring
him down from his manic high. Otherwise,
he will most likely continue to engage in
such behavior - and if he does, and you
have already wrapped your life around it -
you are in trouble!
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Liz26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 51
Posted: 01-17-07 02:31am
Don't get involved! You will regret it.
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tokerjain
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jan 2007 Posts: 4 Location: south carolina
Posted: 01-17-07 20:55pm
liz26
wrote:
don't get involved! You
will regret
it.
it took some thinking and I have decided
to continue to see him. However, I shall
try to be as careful as possible other
than just condoms.
You see the way I look at it....Me and him
both deserve to give it a chance.
Thankfully I do know some signs to watch
for now.
I think I need to give it a chance.
Plus he'll be leaving soon.
If we continue to talk, I might take a
train to go see him and meet his family.
I've been through alot so maybe just maybe
it might work out or a least open a few
new doors in life.
