Hi there, new to the board today, just dont know what to do anymore. Me and my common law husband of 4 years have had many problems over the time we've been together, I truly love the guy and really wonder now if he is just full of s?'t? He calls me jeleous when I bring up my concerns of him staring at other women so much, alot of them are teenagers, he's 35, that scares me. Says i'm too sensitive when he screams at me (he has anger issues). Talks to his work, friends, ex wife and his mother about our personal problems. And they react to me by being cold, he always has an excuse for them, says he has no one else to talk to. We had a big fight friday night, or should I say I got a lecture and an ultimatum. When he said "maybe if you had blonde hair and big boobs I would listen to you" I made up my mind to tell him to leave, he even suggested I let him stay in the basement while I thought bout it for a few days, told him to start packing. I really dont think he expected that, he asked if I really ment it and I said yes cause I wont live the rest of my life like this. He agreed to get anger management help, and us to get couples help. So, he stayed. This a.M we got an email from one of his friends girlfriend, stating pickup lines.........Thought you might need them she says, she dont know I see his mail too. What gets me this was sent sunday after they all had coffee together, I cried, am I just being taken advantage of????????? He has no one in this area he knows he can stay with and his only family is thousands of miles away. He has said that himself, even said he'd live in the basement while I thought about it, like he did with his ex wife and a few other livein girlfriends, am I blind, god I just dont know what to do now, think I should follow through with the coulseling or tell him to go for sure this time?????????????????????????