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Q: How Do I Know Who the Father Is?
asked by: nanbram on January 14th, 2007
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Can someone help me? I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend dec 10, 2006, to completion (meaning he ejaculated). It was a day after my period ended, the beginning of which was the 5th of december.
My boyfriend and I broke up, and I met someone new, who I had unprotected sex with on dec. 29, 2006. After 5 minutes, I told him to stop. No ejaculation, but of course there's pre-ejaculation...
I am pregnant. My period was due around the 2nd or 3rd day of january. I took a home pregnancy test on the 7th, which was positive. Then on the 8th, I went to the doctor and had a beta done. It was positive, with the number 5257h. I have no idea what this means. Then on the 10th of january, I had an ultrasound, transvaginal, and regular. It confirmed I was pregnant, the report saying "less than 5 weeks pregnant."
it was almost 3 weeks between the two, but could it be either of these men?
I am desperate. I don't want to terminate, but I need to know who the father is...
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Kia replied on January 14th, 2007
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It's a miracle baby.

Based on information provided:...
Lmp 5/12
nmp 2/01
approx 28 day cycle
expected ovulation date approx 19/12.

Sperm can live upto 5days in a fertile woman
the egg is viable for approx 36 hours after ovulatuion.
Puts your high fertility window at 14/12 - 21/12

sex on 29/12 is too late to get pregnant (even with late ovulation) and get a positive test with such a high beta on 7/01 so that rules the new man out.

However, sex on 10/12 is too early in all liklihood.
Are you sure you didn't have sex again with your ex again after 10/12?

If you're sure then it looks like you are an early ovulator, in which case it's your ex's - the beta would indicate this to be the most likely outcome also.

If by some chance you were a late ovulator with a short luteal phase, then I would have expected a beta in the region of less than 500...

Either man is unlikely but your new man is very improbable.
Based on your info given and typical/likely cycles i'd have to say it is your ex's baby - i'd be very very shocked to learn otherwise.
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Bridget replied on January 14th, 2007
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Kia, you're so smart!
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Dannzibelle replied on January 14th, 2007
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Kia where do you find all your ifo from because any question thats asked you answer with a 100% amazing answer
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Kia replied on January 14th, 2007
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Nope, it's just that the human reproductive system has a very special interest to me - hence the reason why I am back in college so I can go on to study in gynaecology, specialising in mullerian anomalies and reproductive endocrinology Mr.
Green


that's twice in 3 days some called me smart Embarassed
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Kia replied on January 14th, 2007
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dannzibelle wrote:
kia where do you find all your ifo from because any question thats asked you answer with a 100% amazing answer


lol thanks Embarassed

it's my specialist subject.
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Bridget replied on January 14th, 2007
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I think you're one of the smartest people I "know". You should get your butt over to my babycenter birth club and knock some sense into all the women having pregnancy scares 6-8 weeks pp.

"how is it possible to get pregnant so soon after giving birth? I haven't even had my period yet!"

it drives me insane!
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Nataliachick7 replied on January 14th, 2007
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iheartmybostonterrier wrote:


"how is it possible to get pregnant so soon after giving birth? I haven't even had my period yet!"

it drives me insane!


god people are idiots! I thought everyone had sex ed class in school at some point? Rolling Eyes
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Bridget replied on January 14th, 2007
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nataliachick7 wrote:
iheartmybostonterrier wrote:


"how is it possible to get pregnant so soon after giving birth? I haven't even had my period yet!"

it drives me insane!


god people are idiots! I thought everyone had sex ed class in school at some point? Rolling Eyes


it gets worse, that's just the most common. Some say stuff like "my doctor told me that I won't ovulate for at least 8 weeks so we're not using protection yet". Or "my doctor said some women actually ovulate before getting their first pp period, so now i'm scared".
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Kia replied on January 14th, 2007
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You have to ovulate before getting your period as it is the progesterone released by the corpus luteum becoming less that causes the period to start.

You ovulate boefore your fisrt ever period!

I wanna go on mastermind

magnus magnusson: kia, what is your chosen subject?
Me: the reproductive system of human beings!
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Dannzibelle replied on January 14th, 2007
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Oh I love you kia I don't know how I would have coped without you it's just the little things you worry about or arn't sure of that eat away at you the most so i'm so glad you've been able to reassure me.
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Kia replied on January 14th, 2007
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Hahaha i'm the boring ol' fart on here lol Mr.
Green
more bothered about the science of crap then the feelings involved Embarassed Rolling Eyes

i ought ligten up but hey this is me love me or don't Laughing
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Dannzibelle replied on January 14th, 2007
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Well I love you! Sometimes thats what you need though you don't just want a sugar coated it will be ok you want to know the facts
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Becky replied on January 14th, 2007
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Kia you know I love ya!

How are you going on to study gynaecology? What course are you studying?
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Kia replied on January 15th, 2007
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Right now I am doing a-levels because I didn't do them the first time around.

So now i'm doing biology, chemistry, physics (with medical option) and maths (because you have to do as-level maths to do any science above a-level).

Then I will discuss my options with an advisor based on my as-level grades and apply for a course auth'd by the royal college of gynaecologists.
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Becky replied on January 15th, 2007
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Oooh... Sounds like good fun! I have an interview on 8th feb at 9.15am for midwifery. Hopefully i'll get in
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