Dont worry I think everyone feels that way after the baba is out.. I do, but u gotta eat for ur baba so u stay heathy and can take care of her.. I look at my streach marked boobs and belly and my wrinky belly button and I feel like my body is ugly... But remember it will get back to normal after time

Awww girl,you'll be fine.Its gona take you a while to get use to your body.You just had a baby and your body isn't the same,but its suppose to be like that.I can't talk cause i've never had a kid but it *will* get better if you work on it.Pm me if you ever wanna talk.

Aw zanny, I think you're beautiful and I truly *love* your new hair! But I know what you mean, I feel pretty disgusting and undesirable.

Are you not eating because you want to lose weight? If so, your starving body will hold on to the weight. Why not try a diet plan or some exercise to help shed the weight? I don't think you gained much when you were pregnant but i'm sure you're scrutinizing every little thing about your new body.

I'm sure jonny still thinks you're beautiful too! Don't worry, it just takes time for your body to get back together. Your body may seem wrecked but you got a gorgeous little girl out of it!

It's the same with any weight loss and even more so after pregnancy (you also have to reduce you increased blood levels and stuff as well).

It took 9months for your body to get where it is now, allow yourself just as long to change it back.

Not eating actually makes it worse because your body starts to retain fats and liquids in order to survive.

If you really want to take control be active and focus on eating healthy.

Maybe even do a detox diet if you aren't breast feeding.

But yeah by not eating your skin and the rest of your body lacks essential nutrients and therefore skin gets that sallow uncared for look - not eating won't make you attractive.
Eating healthy will.

And, who says jon doesn't fancy you any more?.

You need some "me time" time to have a long bubble bath, manicure and pedicure, to go with your gorgeous hair.

Zan, you are gorgeous &you have to stay healthy for your little .Jenny! She needs you to be healthy! Your body will get back to normal eventually- just eat healthy, use some cocoa butter on your stetchies, &when .Jenny is a little older, start working out! You're beautiful &.I want you to be happy!

Zanny on your myspace there is body shot of you after jennie, and I promise you, you look really freaken good. Not even for just having had a baby, you just look really freaken good period. I know what it feels like to feel disgusted with yourself, and i'm sorry you feel like that! It's an ugly place to be. Working out is the best though, not for just losing weight, but it makes you feel a million times better and really helps with those little depressed feelings. Seriously, don't stop eating, start working out, and then eating healthy sometimes just naturally follows (it did for me, cause I know when I was feeling so good from working out I didn't feel like over eating and eating tons of junk.)

tanya is exactly right.When I started dieting and eating properly I felt better about myself all around!

Working out releases endorphins I do believe - the body's own natural "feel good" hormones

I was thinking the same thing tanya. Zanny I was .S.O.O.O.O.O jealous of your myspace pic that you took after giving birth. You look gorgeous girl!

Believe me I have lost alot of weight and now I feel tired all the time. I am slowly starting to put it back on again but it drains energy out of you. Not what you need when you have kid/s to look after.

Just take it slowly and eat healthily. Don't try drastic measures as they usually fail and, like I said, you will end up drained of energy with bad breath and constant hunger pangs.

love you hun! You look great!

Xxxxx

Thank you.. I love you guys.

I've always hated my body, it just makes it worse now. I've been bullied all my life about how I look. Pathetic that I still let it get to me, I know.. But i've had all confidence knocked out of me.

Jonny doesn't seem to find me attractive anymore.. And the other week he even made a list of all the women he'd like to sleep with.. All of whom were a hell of a lot skinnier than me. I know it's stupid to get worked up about that, but it hardly made me feel better about myself.

I don't think I stopped eating to lose weight.. I just don't feel hungry anymore. I do feel tired and dizzy sometimes.. But I manage to take care of .Jenny ok. I tried to eat something today but couldn't manage very much coz it made me feel sick.

you think its stupid to get worked up over him making a list of women he wants to sleep with?!?!?!? F*ck no it isn't! Thats one of *the most* disrespectful an unthoughtful things to say to someone who just effin had *your* baby! How could he say something like that! Id ring his neck!

Your beautiful girl! Everyone sees it but whats most important is that *you* see it yourself.Screw jon,you don't need that.Don'tt hin kabout what him or anyone else has to say.Its what *you* think about yourslef that matters.If *your* not happy with somethign,fix it,if someoe else isn't happy with something,tell them to go f*ck themselves! I <3 you!

excuse me?
did I read that right?

Bi*ch slap him from here to next week.

That is bang out of order for any man to do whatever his girlfriend/fiancee/wife is feeling - even if she is full of confidence and on top of the world.

Sorry but he just went down down down in my estimation.

I'm gobsmacked, sweetie that must have been heartbreaking. I'm sending you lots of bug hugz (yes bug - they're the squishy kind )

you are worth so much more than that kind of treatment.
<<< this does not come near how mad I feel at this guy I have never met - wow just wow

I'm with .Mel. If .Aaron ever said "ooh .I'd like to eff suchandsuch and suchandsuch" .I'd slap him in his mouth. I'd be like "well guess what, you don't get to eff suchandsuch or suchandsuch. And now you don't get to eff me either, you big 'tard." how utterly disrespectful.

jenny needs her mommy to be healthy. She needs your love and comfort, needs to feel your arms cuddling her, and needs to feel those lovey positive vibes only mommies can deliver. You have to take care of yourself darling, for her sake if not for your own. Maybe you should resume taking your prenatals, and possibly contact your doctor if you start feeling worse. I don't want you to start slipping into ppd.

If you ever need to talk, you know we're here for you! We love you babe!

My husband learned very quickly not to pull that shi†. We were at a friends house the other day and he was on their computer and he says "hey babe, remember how I said I cheated on that one girl with her sister? That's because her sister looks like this" and shows me a picture of this chick that actually looks pretty similar to me. So I showed our friends girlfriend this picture of this *gorgeous* guy I had slept with right before I met my husband. He shut up pretty quickly.

It doesn't help if your b/f is making a list of all the other ladies he'd like to screw. He needs to be supportive and encouraging than belittling you. That's horrible .Zan!

I agree, kick his behind!!!!!!

rip his doing it balls off! (in a british accent) for real

lol

i tried saying it in a nice way

Hehe yeah maybe I should.

He did that even after i'd nearly broken up with him for all the sh*t on his myspace page (he's since deleted it)... He was pretending to go out with other girls, and even sent a pic of some girl to someone telling them she was his girlfriend. The girl left comments on his page saying stuff like "i love you so much, i'm so glad we're back together again" etc.. He claims it was all a joke, and it was just a way of making this other girl jealous.

I don't know why he couldn't have just told this "other girl" that *i* was his girlfriend, and showed her a pic of me instead..

exactly.

Sounds more like he is trying to make you jealous.

Zan, if you want this guy I suggest you sit him down calmly and talk about this, if he won't talk, well, you're better off with someone who loves you for you.

You deserve to be treated like a princess.