My boyfriend is a good person from a family of a lot of angry people. I love him to death, and he's usually a very selfless, romantic, compassionate individual, but he has a temper sometimes, despite the fact that he says he never wants to be like his family. Whenever he gets angry, he says the cruelest things that hurts me more than anything and he seems like a completely different person.
After lots of my own tears being shed, he usually comes around and apologizes, but I don't want to hear sorry anymore. I want him to learn how to realize there's no use getting angry over certain things or that he should deal with his fury in different ways rather than yelling. I don't know how much more of these rounds of anger I can take before he finally learns.
It really does frighten me the way he gets when he's mad, and I don't want to be afraid of him. I told him that, and he says it kills him that he could make me feel that way. I know he doesn't want to hurt me like that, but I don't know what I can do to help him channel his anger into something else rather than taking it out all on me.
