Is It Normal , Not to Want to Have Sex After Abortion? Posted: 01-12-07 11:20am
Good day everyone, i'm new to this forum
and i'm in need of some guidance/advice.
In oct. I found out I was 5 weeks
pregnant. 3 days later I got an
abortion, I wanted to keep the baby,
that's another whole long story that may
not go in this section. But my question
is, does your sex drive die after having
that procedure. Maybe it's all in my
head, because i've been feeling guilty for
a while now, about the whole thing. I
got a shot (forgot what that was called)
then had to take pills afterwards. I
still had a little bit of the baby left in
me so I had to go back and they gave me
pills to insert inside me so I would
bleed. To make a long story short.
Since then I really haven't had the urge
to have sex with my boyfriend. I try,
but i'm just not in the mood and it's hard
because I find myself, forcing it. And
this is not normal for us. So my
question is, is this a normal thing to go
through after an abortion? I mean it's
been almost 3 months and I still find it
hard to fathom. Please help, all
comments and suggestions are deeply
appreciated.
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Re: Is It Normal , Not to Want to Have Sex After Abortion? Posted: 01-12-07 12:25pm
alabama worley
wrote:
but my question is, does
your sex drive die after having that
procedure.
the procedure shouldn't
have anything to do with your sex drive
because your attraction and arousal are
usually controlled by hormones. That
being said, however, since you were
previously pregnant and pregnancy changes
your hormone levels, it could have been
the pregnancy that has affected your sex
drive. If you give it some time, your
hormones should return to the normal
level. If in another month or two you
still feel the same, then I would go back
to the doctor and get a medical opinion.
Quote:
so my question
is, is this a normal thing to go through
after an
abortion?
every woman reacts
differently following an abortion because
no two women have the same body. So
what's "normal" is whatever you're going
through at this time. That sucks, I
know, but as long as you aren't in pain or
experiencing a lot of bleeding, you're
normal.
Quote:
I mean it's
been almost 3 months and I still find it
hard to fathom. Please help, all
comments and suggestions are deeply
appreciated
i'm sorry that you've
been feeling this way for so long. I
would suggest going to see a doctor and
asking them what their medical opinion is.
Also, if you are having issues with
guilt following the abortion, you could
seek out counseling.
There are some help lines that you can
call. Backline is one of them.
Their number is 1-888-493-0092. Their
website is (make sure you type it into
your browser all lower case): http://www.Yourbackline.Org/
they're based on the west coast so if
you're somewhere else, watch what time you
call to catch one of them in the office or
their answering service can leave a
message and have a counselor call you
back. .I
would .N.O.T suggest calling just any
number that offers "post-abortion
counseling" because often those numbers
are just designed to make you feel more
guilty and then pitch a religion to you
for you to join so be careful of who you
call. .Backline, though, is a
prochoice organization so they are not
going to go out of their way to make you
feel guilty. They just want to help you
feel better about your decision and even
if you just want to talk, they'll listen.
Another non-judgemental talk line is
called .Exhale. Their number is:
1-866-439-4253. Their website is: http://www.4exhale.Org/index.Ph
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they are also based on the west coast and
have specific times when someone is
manning the phones so be sure to look at
their website before you call. Again,
they will not further your feelings of
guilt and won't try to get you to convert
to a religion.
Keep us posted on how you're feeling and I
hope you feel better soon.
Peace and love,
jenn
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Alabama Worley
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Joined: 12 Jan 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Brooklyn
Posted: 01-12-07 14:25pm
Thank you jenn for the helpfull advice I
really do appreciate it. I'll lookin in
to these websites, asap.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 01-12-07 14:55pm
The abortion that you had was a 'medical
abortion', not surgical correct?
Surgical is more effective than medical,
it rarely leaves any thing behind.
I agree with everything jenni said.. I
just wanted to add that little bit.
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changed
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Joined: 14 Feb 2007 Posts: 3
Posted: 02-14-07 06:37am
Hi I know this is pretty old but just in
case the op is still reading I just wanted
her to know she isnt alone!! It took 6
months for me to have sex again, I dont
think my problem was hormones it was more
emotional. Jenn has great advice I hope
your feeling better!!
